Tissues, anyone?

[saturn]

What are your feelings about providing little packets of tissues at the wedding ceremony?
On one hand, I wouldn''t want to seem presumptious - implying that I expect everyone to be so moved by my wedding that they will all be moved to tears.
On the other hand, I know that I and my family do tend to cry at weddings, and it''s nice to have tissues if you do.
Anyone have any thoughts about it?
Thanks.

 

[reena]

this is so funny--i''ve had the exact same thought myself and i thought maybe i was a little nutso! i''ve seen people do really cute little tissue packets on people''s chairs, handmade out of pretty paper with little sayings like "tears of joy" . . . i think they''re adorable! but then i was thinking the same thing--is this presumptuous? lol! im interested to hear others'' thoughts.

 

[Buena Girl]

I tend to already have tissues in my purse due to allergies or "what ifs". Do you think there's a good chance that people may need tissues?

The one wedding that I've been to where the bride's family was bawling (and the bride, too!), the maid of honor had a large tissue stash in a cute container and passed them to those who needed them. It did stop the flow of the ceremony a little, though, because the Pastor would pause for her to give someone tissues.

Maybe if you have a cousin or friend that you would like to include in the ceremony, you could have them stand near the beginning of the aisle with a basket or container with personalized (or just pretty) tissue packs and people can take one if they want one.

 

[MelissaSue]

I cry.. ALWAYS.. weddings, commericials, sitcoms.. so I think its a really nice idea. Otherwise I have to use my arm to wipe my tears.. its just not very effective!

 

[jorman]

I think it''s a great idea. You could leave some spaced in the pews (if you''re getting married at a church) maybe will a ribbon tied around it with a note like Reena said "Tears of Joy". I think it sounds very cute. I always cry at weddings.

 

[flopkins]

ok. maybe I''m the only one here, but personally I think they''re kinda dumb. Yeah they''re cute. But man, I think they''re too cute...

I''ve heard mixed reviews about them on theknot. Some girls spent a lot of time making these cute packets, and most weren''t used. So if you''re gonna do the ''tears of joy'' thing, please keep it simple and don''t waste a lot of time on them.

if you know your family''s gonna cry, just have a box around.

I think of myself as a girly girl, I love pink, I love dresses, flowers, cuddly stuffed animals, romantic stupid movies, but... I think this is my limit.

 

[elepri]

We didn''t do it and, in retrospect, probably should''ve. I hadn''t anticipated getting so emotional at the ceremony but both my now husband and I got choked up. At one point, I looked up, all our guests were getting teary eyed. Tissues would''ve really come handy.

 

[FireGoddess]

My opinion would be to have them, but in an area where people could take them IF they wanted to. Those who want or need to have them can, those who don''t, won''t. Not only for tears...an ill-timed allergy fit...etc...better safe than sorry, IMO.

 

[fountainfairfax]

I was one of those brides who had a tissue stuffed down the front of her dress- when I get teary eyed the nose starts to run, too (I know YUCK!) and one of the groomsmen caught me whipping it out during the ceremony and cracked up laughing...it was a cute little moment and as a divorced person I can say in retrospect that I should''ve married him.

I say go for the tissues. As a frequent wedding guest, I think they''re always appreciated! And to be honest, often tears of joy are shed at weddings but just as often the tears are flowing because other feelings may be evoked as well. Cover all the bases and everyone will be comfortable.

 

[saturn]

Thanks for all the input, I really appreciate it.
I think that what I may end up doing is putting about 3 tissues each into little glassine envelopes, setting them on a tray with a box of tissues or a sign simply saying "Tissues" and setting it near the entrance to the church sanctuary. No "Tears of Joy" label or anything, they''ll just be there if anyone needs them for any reason.
How does that sound?

My wedding isn''t for over a year, but I''m already thinking about things like this. What is wrong with me? I don''t even have a reception location booked! For some reason, I''m much more interested in the tiny details of the wedding - the placecards, tissue packets, favors, etc. - than the larger aspects like reception location, menu, and guest list. I think that it''s because I like being creative and crafty, and I feel like I can do that more with the minor details than the major ones.
I just hope that I stay focused enough that I don''t end up with adorable favors but no food at the reception!