Too much ring talk??

[hearts set]

I''ve been so excited and absorbed in the whole ring process. Just about obsessed!! I talk about it a lot to my sweetheart.

The other day he asked "Are you more excited about the ring then being engaged to me??" "If you weren''t getting engaged, would you still be buying a diamond ring?"

He''s been so great and supportive of my lust for a perfect diamond ring...he even doubled what he had in mind to spend after he found out what I wanted. He wants to make me happy and I''m so touched that he wants to give me something so beautiful.

But, am I guilty of some overkill??

I was surprised by his question and at first wasn''t sure what to say. I NEVER EVER want to do anything to hurt him or question my sincerity where our relationship is concerned.

I did my best to reassure him and he seemed satisfiied.

It is true...I talk all the time about the ring, but I don''t talk much about us being engaged/married. I think it''s because I already feel all of that commitment...in my heart he''s my future and my priority. Nothing will change once he proposes. I will feel the same ring or no ring.

Can anyone relate??

 

[AndyRosse]

Once you get the ring, I bet all you will be talking about is the wedding

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[hearts set]

I like the way you think.

You are most probably correct...actually now that the ring has been ordered I''m thinking about dates, photographer....etc.

I''m sick

 

[Mara]

It''s just a chick thing IMO...of course it''s not about the ring! But it''s part of the package and yes once you get it, you become obsessed with the wedding! After that it''s home decor! And it''s all downhill from there! hehee.

 

[ame]

I guess I better get on home decor. Im still stuck on WEDDING RING.

I could also learn to cook something more than Homestyle Bakes, Lipton/Noodle Roni and heating Trader Joe's Teriyaki Chicken and Lipton Teriyaki Noodles.


I am just an obsessive person, when I have someting on the brain it's not going away.

 

[decodelighted]

, am I guilty of some overkill??

It is true...I talk all the time about the ring, but I don''t talk much about us being engaged/married. I think it''s because I already feel all of that commitment...in my heart he''s my future and my priority. Nothing will change once he proposes. I will feel the same ring or no ring.

Can anyone relate??

Hee hee. I''ve been thinking about this lately myself. This ring research/hunt has taken so much of my focus since, hmmm, Memorial Day weekend I think ... that my FF & I joke about it, calling it "THE VORTEX".

Luckily for me he''s been facinated by some new on-line computer game, and tends to gravitate to that during "down time" in an equally obsessive way ... and thus, relates.

I''m not so into the whole "wedding planning" part - and would personally rather elope. Already decorated my/soon to be our (as he moves in Sept 24th) house. At 38 and nowhere near ready, kinda nixed the whole "kids" thing ... aiigh: WHAT''S NEXT???

 

[glaucomflecken]

This is such an exciting once in a lifetime time in your life that its ok to revel in all material aspects of engagement and wedding planning! LOL I was so excited to get my first (and then second) e-ring that all I could think about was the ring (and of course having a fiance!) but then the novelty started to wear off and I became obsessed with wedding plans. Now with that almost here, I am sure come Oct 16th I will have something else to obsess about.

But honestly, the minute my fiance proposed, I completely, honestly forgot there was a ring involved and really could care less if there was one to begin with. I was so happy and shocked and elated that all that mattered was that I was going to spend my life with him.

 

[Odilia]

I could echo ame, "I guess I better get on home decor. Im still stuck on WEDDING RING. "

Or in my case, what setting I should put my engagement diamond in, and/or what setting goes best with my wedding ring. I could not find anything that satisfied me during our engagement, but obviously had to get SOMETHING, so I got the wedding ring I have now and am still never satisfied. As for talking about it too much, I don''t; I don''t want to drive folks crazy, and it feels like they think I''m crazy for having such a hard time finding what I want. So I just think about it all the time!!! The fact that it sits there on my finger and I see it all the time makes it impossible to forget it, even if I try to focus on home decor. It drives me crazy.

 

[mantiss]

I''m in the same boat as Odilia. Nothing perfect in our budget, and I really wanted a (read:any) ring to show that I was taken by the man of my dreams. I''m still working on the ring of my dreams! That''s why our place isn''t decorated at all.

I also think, though, that the committment happens way before the wedding, and sometimes before the engagement. DH and I considered our wedding a big show for everybody else. We married each other in private way ahead of time. So, if you''re really secure about what you''re doing, why not get worked up over a ring?? It sure is fun.

 

[Jelly]

I''ve been accused by my fiance for getting engaged just to get the ring! I hope he was joking...

 

[FireGoddess]

Date: 9/11/2005 5:05:08 PM
Author: Stretch4
Once you get the ring, I bet all you will be talking about is the wedding

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This is exactly what I was going to say! It''s true...at least it was for me!!! And once he has to be involved in wedding planning...he''ll wish you were still talking about the ring!

 

[fancyrock]

There is nothing wrong with lusting over your not-yet-found-engagement rock... and NO reason to feel guilty about! Guess what, truth be told.... you will still be talking about your ring even after the wedding is all over.... (LIKE ME!!). I''ve been married for almost 4 months now and i''m still YAPPIG ABOUT DIAMONDS.

Once you find a forever-interesting-forum like Pricescope, you will always be talking about diamonds, e-ring, w-band, RHR and MORE.... Hey, if he is tired of hearing about the rock story... TELL US!! That''s what we are here for....

 

[Odilia]

This line cracked me up: "And once he has to be involved in wedding planning...he''ll wish you were still talking about the ring! "