Too old to have a pillow?

[akw94]

Ok, I need your opinion ladies.

My son is 12 and I want him to be the ring bearer. A little old but I think it will be special for him to carry our rings. The question is, have him carry them on a pillow or not? Some have said he''s too old (which honestly didn''t occur to me until someone said it) and others say it doesn''t matter. I''m not sure what my opinion is yet. I don''t think my son will care either way.

What do you think?

 

[Picos]

I''ve never heard of saying that you had to be a certain age to carry the rings on a pillow. I''d ask your son first or let him pick out the pillow.

Is the pillow mandatory? Or maybe there''s some other way in which he could carry the rings?

 

[Mara]

i''m not a pillow fan regardless...i think it''d be cute to have him carry up the rings on something though. maybe they can be placed on two flower stems or something and tied on and you can both be given the flower by your son and untie the ring to give. calla lilies have very strong thick stems that would showcase the rings prettily. just a thought.

 

[janinegirly]

this is probably a dumb question..but am i right in saying the best man holds the rings and the "ring bearer" holding the pillow is just symbolic?

 

[Mandarine]

hehe Janine, I think if you have a ring bearer, with a pillow, the rings are usually in it

I am not sure what I will do yet, but I do think a pillow for a 12 year old is kind of too much.

My nephew will be 5, but I''m thinking I might give him something else for the rings. Maybe I''ll just tie them to his neck so he doesn''t loose them...just kidding! hehe

 

[Mandarine]

Date: 6/22/2007 3:25:16 PM
Author: Mara
i''m not a pillow fan regardless...i think it''d be cute to have him carry up the rings on something though. maybe they can be placed on two flower stems or something and tied on and you can both be given the flower by your son and untie the ring to give. calla lilies have very strong thick stems that would showcase the rings prettily. just a thought.

uhh, I like the calla lilies idea! that''s one of my flowers, that sounds like a nice and original option!

M~

 

[DivaDiamond007]

IMO 12 is too old to carry a pillow down the aisle. The flower idea is good though. Good photo op too.

 

[sumbride]

I don''t think there''s an age limit. At 12 he''s definitely old enough to carry the actual rings. Sometimes, with younger kids, it''s a good idea to use fake rings.

How about a nice decorative box? That''s what I''m thinking of doing because I haven''t gotten around to making the pillow yet and it''s not looking like I will.

 

[GarysBride]

Our son is only 1 year old... and hes our ring bearer he will only be wearing a tux tie with the rings attached with ribbon and he will be walked down the aisle with an escort.... on a leash..... our ring bearer is our mini Dachshund. I honestly don''t think it matters how old what age shape or size (animal) the ring bearer is I would leave it up to your son to hold the pillow or not or he could have the rings in a little satchel or just his pocket. your never too old to do something I''m 21 and I was a flower girl just last week ha ha.

 

[therighttime]

In most every wedding I have been involved with, the ring bearer was under 5 and so was not allowed to actually carry the rings on a pillow. The child usually had fake rings tied to the pillow. The best man has traditionally held on to the rings. I help out a photographer at weddings, and we always get a picture of the best man holding the rings prior to the ceremony. It''s just a classic to put in the album.

I definitely think a 12 year old is old enough to take care of the rings though. And if this is special to him and to you then I''d say let him do it. I personally wouldn''t think he needed a pillow, but if he or you just preferred that, then go for it! It''s your wedding.

My son is 8 and he''s going to be in charge of the rings at my wedding. We are having a private family-only ceremony with no attendants. I''m not calling my son "ring bearer" or "best man" but am giving him the job/honor of having our rings and bringing them to us at the time. Also, after we exchange rings, my son is going to read a poem I found and then we are going to present him an I.D bracelet. I showed him some rings and those family medallion things but he didn''t like them. He did love the ID bracelets we saw though so I thought this would be a sweet way of including him.

 

[surfgirl]

I agree that 12 might be too old, unless you have a dog that he could lead, and the dog could have the rings on a pillow, tied to him? I''ve seen that before. But he could, at that age, have the rings given to him at the last minute, and they could be in a special box, or in his vest pocket. Something more "grown up" might make him feel more "grown up" too? Do you guys have any special hobbies/sports you love that could somehow be incorporated in bringing the rings down the aisle? Just a thought...