type of dress

[begin ing]

Hi everyone
I would really appreciated if everyone could please help me figure out what's appropriate for second time bride. I have been married once before and had a beautiful baby girl. I am about to get married again and I am very lost on what's appropriate for a dress. The ceremony will only be us (2), our kids (2), justice of peace and maybe a photographer. We would like to do it by mid October this year in the butterfly exhibit center so it would be cozy (just a path/walkway). I know I don’t want a traditional white dress and the color white is out the question according to a friend at work. She said I shouldn’t be wearing white because it’s my second wedding. I found some of the dress and think it should be appropriate. Help me?

also - what kinds of shoes would go with something like this? I am really lost when it comes to dress things. I am a very true traditional white t-shirt, blue jean girl. pleaseeeeeeeeeee help me!

 

[begin ing]

or this?

 

[JCJD]

Welcome to Pricescope!!

Date: 9/10/2005 10:14:46 AM
Author:begin ing
I know I don’t want a traditional white dress and the color white is out the question according to a friend at work. She said I shouldn’t be wearing white because it’s my second wedding.

Actually, you can wear white as a second-time bride, it''s the veil that traditionally symbolizes virginity. The white symbolizes happiness in European culture (opposite of black which is for funerals). But since you don''t want a white dress, no big deal.

I really like all of the dresses you posted. All would be appropriate for a 1st-time or even a 10th-time bride (hopefully rare). Try them on and see what you think.

On the otherhand, you''re having a small intimate ceremony (remember you need 2 legal-age witnesses) and you feel more comfortable in jeans and a t-shirt, what about a casual jeans-skirt and dressy top? It''s your wedding, you should be comfortable! I highly recommend a bouquet though. It sets you apart as a bride and groom from other dressed up people.

 

[michela002]

I say wear whatever you want, and I dare anyone to say anything!! If you want to wear white, cool, go for it. But as you dont'' seem that gung-ho, where what you want and are comfortable in! That said, I love all the dresses you posted, I think any one of them would be gorgeous

(I really love the white with blue flowers, FYI) There are a lot of wedding traditions, and yes wearing white stems from tradition of virginal blah blah blah, but honestly how many of us would legitimately get married in white? In the end it is your choice, and you can wear what you like. Just pick something you love

 

[begin ing]

Thank you guys. I am just not very sure what the American traditions are. In China, traditionally we wear red for wedding. it symbolize happyness. But my future husband is American so I want to respect his tradition and we are in America. It sounds like the ''tradition'' here is more about what makes the couple happy. I will talk to him today and show him the few samples I found.

JCJD - Thank you for reminding me of the bouquet and the witness! I really didn''t think about it.

Finally Decisive! - I like the white one with the blue flowers the most too.

Thank you guys!

 

[BrightSpot]

Hi begin ing. Welcome to PS & congrats on your engagement!

I just want to second what others have said. As JCJD said, white indeed represents joy nowadays, not virginity, so wear white if you want to! (but don''t feel obligated to do so if you don''t want to either!) I think that''s a good idea to find out what your future hubbie has in mind as well as there are definite cultural differences between you guys. Of the dresses you posted, I like the white w/ blue flowers best too.

Some other sources for less formal white dresses, if you choose to go that route:

J Crew

Alfred Angelo

Nordstrom wedding shop

Good luck & let us know what you decide.

 

[MINE!!]

Welsome to Pscope. I say wear the white, you have had two children and this is your second marriage so you have earned the right to wear whatever the hell you want to wear. If you like it...screw anyone who says you can''t wear it. Like the first wedding.. this is YOUR wedding, not your co worker, not your mothers or fathers, not your next door neighbor. WEAR what YOU want to wear.. Personally I love the 3rd white one. With these dresses you can wear sassy pumps or sexy sandals. GO FOR IT GIRL THIS IS YOUR DAY!!!!! This will be my second wedding as well and I am doing it my way (except when my man pitches in or throws a fit against something... then I comprimise...(kinda)

Wear what makes you happy.... feel beautiful and love the way you look... you choose what color!

 

[elephant]

I agree -- I think you should wear whatever you want!! I kind of like the light yellow one? But, they''re all really pretty. What about finding one with red AND white in it as a nod to both your heritages?

 

[VuittonGal]

Honestly, I think you can wear whatever you want--it''s your wedding! What about an off-white dress? The dresses you posted are lovely too! Depending on what color you choose, maybe you could do a silver or gold shoe! Something you also could wear again at a later date. Let us know what you decide!!

 

[begin ing]

You girls are too sweet! Thank you for the support. After worrying about what everyone thinks, I totally forgot it''s about him and me not everyone else.
elephant -and red and white are a great Idea! Going to totally look into it.
VuittonGal - I picked all Chinese dress is because I can use it again during Chinese new year (about Feb of each year) so definitely will need to find shoes that could be worn again. I am all about versatility

Pscope is such a supportive and honest community!

As for the shoes...sassy...hmmmm, will try to look around and see. Can''t wait to post it and see what you girls think.

 

[rms]

I agree that should wear whatever makes you happy. I must say though that the white dress with that touch of blue flowers is just heavenly!!

 

[begin ing]

yup you guys totally rock
I told my fience what everyone thinks and He start laughing at me for worrying too much
he actually think I should wear my favorite color - black
he thinks I am the sexies in black...

wearing a black dress with a very colorful bouquet of flower??

yes I have gone CRAZY

 

[begin ing]

somthing like this?

or this?

 

[MINE!!]

How about some scrumptous yellow or lavander calla lilies?!! I think is would look awesome. You go girl!!

 

[DiamanteBlu]

If you like black, go ahead and wear black - maybe with a fiery red/orange/yellow boquet. That could look really nice, especially if he is in a black tux.

I don''t think anybody would have problems with you following you tradition and wearing red either, especially in the fall. I wore a red evening gown for my 2nd marriage [I am Italian living in the US and married an American] and my boquet was very similar to the white one you posted. He wore a black tux. We got married just after Thanksgiving. The color combination looked really good.

 

[BrightSpot]

I think black would look great, especially with a brighly colored bouquet. And talk about versatile...

 

[begin ing]

he is really liking the black dress idea. Being our wedding day is just 3 days before Halloween... he even joke about dressing up as vampire now
I am not sure about that idea

does these shoes go with that little black dress I posted earlier?

 

[BrightSpot]

I think those shoes are gorgeous, but I think I''d prefer them, or something similar, in black with a black dress, but that''s just me. Or maybe you could go w/ a metallic sandal--silver or gold?

LOL--no vampires!