ugh hair!

[robbie3982]

I was trying to be a nice bride by telling the girls that they didn''t have to get their hair done or wear any one particular hairstyle, but now I''m kind of wishing I had. Not because I want them to all look the same, but because I''m not liking what some of them are coming up with.

My mom has suggested on several occasions that my sister (16) just get a french braid. I keep telling her no, but I''m going to have to keep an eye on them at the salon on the day of.

My cousin (15) asked if she could wear a pony tail. I said she could as long as it was a fancy pony tail as in curled and the band is wrapped in hair so you can''t see it. I thought she''d have someone do this for her as her normal hairdo consists of down or in a regular pony tail for soccer which she plays almost 24/7. I don''t know if she''s ever used a curling iron. She told me today that she doesn''t need a hair appointment.

Apparently another bridesmaid has shaved her head. I''m not sure when she did it, but it''s more of a buzz right now and she says she''s going to let it grow in. It actually doesn''t look bad and is kinda cute (just not how I pictured any of my bridesmaids wearing their hair!). Out of the 3, I''m probably the least worried about her hair.

Sorry if I''m being a bridezilla, I''m just getting annoyed and need to vent.

 

[FireGoddess]

Oh geez. I mean, I would hate for someone to tell me that I had to wear my hair in X style, but that doesn''t mean that I would try to get away with NO styling at all!! I had to laugh about your BM that shaved her head, and that it''s the one you''re least worried about.

I do agree that a french braid seems sort of plain and that a regular ponytail (not done formally) seems REALLY plain. Would you be willing to foot the cost of getting their hair done? That way you could say that it was a ''gift'' and you''d like them to be primped on your wedding day (and therefore at least their hair would be a bit more formal). Not that paying for it should be your burden but it may be a good way to get this thing locked down the way you want!!!

 

[robbie3982]

I wish it was that simple. Unfortunately my cousin is a really big tomboy and does not want to have anything done to her hair (hence the ponytail) and my mom is just really stubborn and out of style and thinks that french braids are great for fancy stuff. I told her maybe in the 80''s...

I think if I keep an eye on my mom on the day of (my MOH will help me) I should be good with my sister. Hopefully I can convince my cousin to do something other than a ponytail that she does herself.

 

[sunkist]

If they both want hairstyles that are not too fancy or fussy you could suggest low ponytails. Just secured at the nape of the neck, cover the band with hair and curl the ends of the hair. Oh! you know what you should do is just go through wedding magazines and tear out hairstyles that would look good. Maybe once they see the pics they''ll decide that they actually want to spend some time to make their hair look nice for your wedding.

 

[RoseAngel04]

Lol...I'm sorry but your BM that shaved her head made me laugh too. I saw a pic of one of my BM's recently who got her lip pierced. I was a little stunned...

Luckily it's gone now, she took it out for Easter and it got infected when she tried to put it back in. Not that I have an issue with my BM's getting piercings, I just was shocked and wasn't expecting it.

Anyways...maybe you could put some sort of restrictions on your BM's hair style?? I agree, a french braid isn't a good idea IMO. And no you're NOT being a bridezilla...you want your girls to look nicelt put together on your day! I'm not having my BM's get their hair styled. I think most of them will do their own hair down and jazz it up a little.

 

[anchor31]

I decided to pay for my girls hair and make-up as their thank-you gift. They can choose their hairstyle, as long as it''s professionally done. They ususally have good tastes, so I''m not worried.

 

[Fancy605]

Date: 4/24/2007 4:42:51 PM
Author:robbie3982

Apparently another bridesmaid has shaved her head. I'm not sure when she did it, but it's more of a buzz right now and she says she's going to let it grow in. It actually doesn't look bad and is kinda cute (just not how I pictured any of my bridesmaids wearing their hair!). Out of the 3, I'm probably the least worried about her hair.

lol...maybe you should just have the other two shave their heads

 

[monarch64]

Hmmm, I don't know about this one. My BM's were more than happy to have their hair done at my expense, and they turned out wonderfully with updos, except my SIL was one of them and ended up not coming to the salon the day of the wedding. Long story short: she was (obviously) with my brother who decided they should sleep in, the rest of us got to the salon at 7 a.m. on a Sunday morning to have our hair done before my noon ceremony, and she kind of wanted to do her own hair anyway. She is very much a tomboy and used to wearing bangs and a ponytail, much like your problem child! It actually ended up turning out just fine, she had a little bit of bang going on that wasn't too frou frou, and did the rest of her hair in a bun and looked just fine, but she is also a striking tall beauty who resembles Nicole Kidman so that helped a lot.

I'm not a fan of making bridesmaids into accessories or dolls you can mold into your own vision, rather, I wanted all my favorite gals to be themselves and look their best individually, which is what I'm sure you want as well. I insisted they choose their own shoes, I let them pick the dresses they wanted, and they were more than willing to work with me on what would look best as far as the end result (pics!). So I guess I was lucky, plus I was a very laid back bride and I just don't get very stressed out over details, I guess. Don't get me wrong, I have a B.S. in fashion and have spent a lot of years in retail merchandising and detailing things to the point of obsession, but I do have a part of my psyche that knows when to say enough is enough and sit back and enjoy, you know? My point here is, pick your battles and decide if it's really worth it to fight your cousin on the ponytail issue if it will make you both miserable to be in disagreement over it. Head shaving? Hell, just tell people Britney is a close friend of yours, lol! Just kidding, if it's growing back rapidly she'll be more Natalie Portman a couple years ago and probably adorable. Hair Schmair! All eyes will be focused on you anyway Robbie, you are a lovely woman and I can't imagine anyone stealing the limelight away from you, you have that beaming smile and your personality always shines through when I read your posts, no silly BM hairdo will take away from you or your photos!

 

[E B]

A sleek, low bun (with a side part) can be done easily and doesn''t require a stylist.

I wear my hair like this all the time. If you don''t want a holder to show, maybe each bridesmaid could help the other wrap a piece of hair around it (or possibly try clear holders).

 

[monarch64]

Ooo, Ebree has a great idea there! You could maybe even make the "bun" part a little fuller just by pulling it out a little bit, I also do this with my own hair a lot. And I agree with using the clear elastics bit in case you don''t have extra hands or time to wrap around pieces of hair.

 

[robbie3982]

Thanks for the advice everyone! I think I''m just going to try and let it go and hope that on the day of they all want to look nice when they see the others getting their hair done, and if they don''t hopefully I''ll be able to look back at the pictures with them one day and we can laugh at their hairstyle choices together.

 

[NYCsparkle]

let them choose their own styles...you can''t focus on anyone else that day--just your soon to be hubby.

everything and everyone else don''t matter once you get to the ceremony--don''t stress, it''ll all work out and everyone will look fine--and those who don''t--photoshop em out---lol

jk