uh oh. dress concerns.

[marlie]

(posted this in the wrong thread initially...messaged admin to remove it or move it so i apologize)


I''m sure second guessing your dress is pretty much par for the course as a bride and I know a lot of you have gone through the same issues. But.. I don''t know how I''m going to deal with 10 more months of going from loving it to being unsure about it. I go from thinking it''s too cute...to too plain...to loving it...to thinking it''s not sexy enough..and on and on. I know that I felt good in it when i last had it on and I know it''ll look a lot better when it''s my size but it''s so frustrating.

Anybody got any tips or advice on how to combat the second guessing monster?

 

[dani2142]

you sound exactly like me two months ago. i beat my 2nd guessing monster by taking my dress to a seamstress and having her show me how the dress will look once it's altered. i immediatly fell back in love with my dress. try doing that...

also... stop cheating on your dress by looking around at others if you are!!! that only makes it worse...

and lastly... the more you try your dress on and look at yourself in it the more time you have to pick things apart.

stop all of the above and you will fall back in love with your dress.

here is my old thread from july...

https://www.pricescope.com/community/threads/dress-confusion-should-i-keep-it-and-alter-it-keep-it-and-do-nothing-or-try-and-sell-it.121389/

 

[violet3]

I was just having this thought the other day! But my wedding is 2 months away or so....so what i did was to email my sister and freak out a little. here''s roughly what i wrote...

"Why didn''t i pay more attention to this other dress when i was looking?"
"I''m afraid the dress i picked isn''t as flattering as some of the others."
"Am I being crazy?"

She wrote back and said "Yes, you are being crazy but that is normal. Your dress is far more beautiful and flattering than any of the others you tried on. Just take a breath and wait until you try it on again."

i

my sister. and i felt better. Is there any way you can talk to whomever went with you to shop for the dress? I am sure they could reassure you. Or could you go back and try it on again?

(hugs)

 

[Rock_of_Love]

You gotta battle this monster!! I feel like I could easily go down this road with my wedding being a year out!

Know this...there are 1000s of dresses out there...probably tens of 1000s and MORE! So, honestly, there will ALWAYS be something better...that is just the odds.

But, know this, and forgettabout it. Do you really want to go back out there and just keep trying on dress after dress after dress after dress ?? You will make yourself CRAZY!

When you find a dress that you LOVE and it fits your price point...you are DONE! Forget about all there others out there. Stop looking! You just gotta stop.

There are plenty of other wedding related things to obsess about.

 

[marlie]

thanks everyone. i guess maybe i''m feeling like i won''t look special enough.

i know i shouldn''t look at other dresses so I''m trying to stop that. i know deep down that i love my dress. i have pics of me in it and that used to reassure me but now i look at the pics and just pick the dress apart. ugh. don''t get me wrong. the dress is beautiful, (more so in person than in the crappy pics i have). the fabric is amazing and the shape is beautiful. it has a gorgeous belt. it''s going to be made for me which is great too so it''s sort of ''custom''. i think maybe it''s just the neckline that''s bothering me a bit....which i bet i can sort of work out during fittings. this is what i''ve been telling myself for days now. hopefully it''ll sink in soon. i wish i could put it on again but i''ll have to wait until april or may!

and my family/friends know me very well and knew i''d second guess everything. it''s not that they aren''t reassuring, it''s just that i''m almost embarrassed to talk to them about it!

 

[jcarlylew]

Date: 9/25/2009 1:37:59 PM
Author: violet3

She wrote back and said ''Yes, you are being crazy but that is normal. Your dress is far more beautiful and flattering than any of the others you tried on. Just take a breath and wait until you try it on again.''

sage advice!!

 

[violet3]

; HEIGHT: 151px" class="ibbquote">Date: 9/25/2009 2:25:29 PM
Author: marlie
thanks everyone. i guess maybe i''m feeling like i won''t look special enough.

i think maybe it''s just the neckline that''s bothering me a bit....which i bet i can sort of work out during fittings. this is what i''ve been telling myself for days now. hopefully it''ll sink in soon. i wish i could put it on again but i''ll have to wait until april or may!

and my family/friends know me very well and knew i''d second guess everything. it''s not that they aren''t reassuring, it''s just that i''m almost embarrassed to talk to them about it!

OK, to the above statements....

1. believe me, that dress is VERY SPECIAL looking - i think the belt is so gorgeous and unique and really...special.

2. re: the neckline would you rather have more of a sweetheart? you have beautiful arms/neck/shoulders, so you''d look good in just about anything. But ask your seamstress about modifying it however you would like. It can definitely be done.

3. Don''t be embarrassed - talk to your friends and family. If they already know this about you, you might as well get their input and reassurance. It really helped me tremendously.

 

[marlie]

thanks jcarly and violet. i''ve tried to talk to some of my friends/fam about it but they kind of laugh it off b/c i do this ALL the time and they know that. i''m the queen of second guessing clothes. but this is like THE ultimate item of clothing. therefore, the second guessing is slightly heightened.

thanks for the kind words about my dress violet. as for the neckline...i kind of want to make the scoop slightly scoopier...just more of a dip. it''s going to have a little toole when it''s done too. i love sweetheart necklines but i think a scoop looks better with this dress...i think. i''m sure they''ll accommodate. the part that sucks is that i don''t go back there until april or may!