Underestimating?

[bubbly1126]

So somehow BF and I got on the topic of surprises (gee, I wonder how? Birthday... Tomorrow... lol) and I jokingly said how he wasn''t really romantic (because he isn''t) and that he probably just picked out any old card and didn''t really even read it because he was in too much of a hurry to get to the motorcycle dealership. (It wasn''t in a mean way that I said it so please don''t think I''m some heartless person, lol... it was a very easy going conversation and he knew I was just playing around with him.)

He said in a very serious tone, "you know, you seriously underestimate me." LoL. Do I? Because the last time I can recall you doing anything remotely romantic was probably oh.... 4 1/2 years ago. haha.

But no really... it got me thinking, maybe I am underestimating him. Well, not in this instance because I really don''t think he has anything "special" up his sleeve for reasons I''ve already posted... but maybe in other instances I have.

Anyway, the whole thing got me wondering how many of your BF''s, FI''s or even DH''s totally blew you away with a surprise that you absolutely did not see coming? Doesn''t have to be proposal related, it can be anything at all... but I am sure there are a ton of you out there who''ve thought their men could never be anymore un-romantic and then BAM, did something to totally blow you out of the water.

So please share, because I''d love to hear!!

 

[Independent Gal]

Well, FI brought me flowers today for no good reason. But I wouldn''t say it blew me away exactly.

Still, I''m delighted. I''d been teasing him about how he always used to bring me flowers until we got engaged. And now? Nothing! So I guess he thought he''d better prove me wrong!

Here''s hoping he keeps proving me wrong for decades to come!

 

[Pandora II]

FI blew me away with the proposal - the ring came later and he had always told me he didn''t believe in marriage - so I had no hint at all.

He also adopted me a meerkat at our local zoo when I was in the middle of a quite bad breakdown, which was a complete and wonderful surprise.

I am very spoilt by him - but am always super thrilled with even the smallest thing so he likes to make me smile!

 

[Independent Gal]

You''ve got a meerkat??! I''m so jealous. I once tried to convince my grad school room-mates that we should adopt a lemur from the Duke University Primate Center which I found on the internet when I was going through my lemur-obsession stage. But they were having none of it. (sigh).

 

[MoonWater]

My bf isn't the romantic type at all, which is fine since I'm not much of a candy and flowers girl. One day I walked into the bedroom and there was this lovely note on the bed. I came back to the living room where he was sitting and I was all giddy and happy about the note. He looks at me and said, did you pick it up? I ran back into the bedroom, picked up the note, and there were two tickets to see Cirque de Soleil underneath. I had been talking about wanting to see that show for at least a year and it happened to be in the area. I had absolutely NO idea that was coming. I wasn't even attempting to see the show beforehand. So I was shocked into tears. Totally geeky but I actually did cry tears of joy. That blew me away.

A few weeks ago he surprised me by cleaning the house and putting a fresh bouquet of flowers on display. That didn't blow me away but it made me extremely happy.

A few Valentine's ago he gave me chocolates...which wouldn't be a big deal except I'm very much against celebrating Valentine's Day. We both agreed it was a stupid holiday meant to get people to spend money and feel unloved if they didn't get a gift or have someone to share that day with. But he surprised me with chocolates (just some cheap ones but really yummie haha) with a little note that started with..."I know you don't like Valentine's Day but..." which I though was very very sweet.

Hmm...now that I think about it, maybe I shouldn't say he isn't the romantic type. Those were all very sweet and he's done other things. Aww, I love that man.

Great thread, brings up fond memories.

 

[Pandora II]

We''ve actually been promised a pair when we get a garden. It''s going to be dug up to make an enclosure - a guy at London Zoo is going to help us design it.

FBIL has a friend who takes the ones who get bullied at zoos and builds up their confidence and then finds good homes for them - apparently we qualify.

FI wants to name them CCTV and Webcam

 

[bubbly1126]

A meerkat??? That is flipping awesome!!! I can't count how many times while watching Meerkat Manor I've yelled "I want a meerkat!!" to my BF. He thinks I'm fricken nuts! But I bet after I show him this that he won't think I'm so nutty! lol. (I also have a obsession with the gecko from the geico commercials... oh, how I wish there really were a talking gecko with that accent! lol.)

 

[Pandora II]

If you have one it''s like having a toddler - they totally imprint on you and you are the alpha member of the family. But - you can pretty much never go out as they need so much attention.

If you have a pair they are better as they spend time with each other.

They do climb everything, so if you want them inside you have to not love your furnishings etc - they also bite occasionally which isn''t fun I''m told.

You can take them for walks on a lead - like ferrets, and they are pretty affectionate and want to sit on your knee.

It will be a lot of work to make the enclosure as you have to line it with paving stones so they don''t burrow out - and you have to fox proof it - and provide a safe place for them to escape to with heating etc.

I can''t wait to get a new house! (It won''t be for a while

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[KimberlyH]

My husband does little things every day that blow me away: grocery shopping, making dinner, mopping the floors, leaving me a note that simply says "I love you," walking me to the car in the morning when I leave, etc. We show our love in different ways, and he shows me love every day in little ways that are simply amazing, I relish them instead of waiting for big WOW moments, because they are the stuff that makes our life so wonderful together.

 

[Laurenj915]

Well, I have been lurking around reading posts for a week and wanting to post so I'll start here.

My boyfriend who is such a guy's guy (played college football, only watches ESPN, and is a Firefighter) wrote me a poem for our anniversary. It was a whole page long, kind of the story of our relationship and it was actually a pretty good poem. Better than I could do, by far. I was shocked.


Anyway, so glad to have found this forum. I had been googling things like "anxiety over not being engaged yet" (and not getting any results) for the past month.

 

[Independent Gal]

That''s so sweet, Lauren!

What Kim said is incredibly wise (as usual!). My guy is very, very loving in many small ways, and even if he stops bringing me flowers, I suspect he''ll never let me forget how much he loves me, so long as I''m paying attention.

Besides, big showy gestures aren''t the stuff of good marriages. And in fact, I think I once read that men who are like that - always make grand gestures, being overtly and flashily romantic - are often the same guys who are womanizers. Not sure if that''s true though!

 

[OUpearlgirl]

My boyfriend and I are in a long distance relationship.. Last year for Valentine''s day we knew we''d be apart because we''re both in school and it was a week day. He told me his gift to me accidentally got shipped to his mom''s house (who lives about 15 minutes away from me) instead of mine and that she would be home in about an hour so I could come get it. So I go over there in my sweats, no makeup, etc. She talks to me for a few minutes and out of nowhere he came up behind me! He was only in town for about 12 hours but it was so sweet and thoughtful!

 

[monarch64]

I guess I''ve gotten used to DH''s weird ways or off-"holiday" gift-giving behavior...he never ever gives me gifts ON a holiday or birthday, rather, he will do it right before or shortly after. Tickets to see "wicked," jewelry, my e-ring, etc....they''ve all been given before or after the usual or traditional dates, which is fine but still weird because it keeps me totally guessing.

 

[largirl]

I totally broke my OWN heart once by completely ruining my BF''s most amazing surprise.

I was out of town and on the way back my flight got delayed. I didn''t think much of it because it was only a couple hours, and I had driven myself to the airport. I wasn''t even sure that I had givem my BF an exact time that I''d be home - just a "Thursday night" kind of thing - because I couldn''t remember the flight time the last time we''d talked. I assumed he''d look it up online if he needed/wanted an exact time (hello, he''s a huge computer geek!).

So I get home around 11pm to find the table set with flowers and our nice china and everything, with a bottle of champagne. In the fridge there''s a plate with salmon (my favorite) and a salad and everything. He had made me an amazing dinner and by being late and not calling I had completely ruined it.

I still wonder if maybe THAT was supposed to be the proposal and I messed it up. He''d never done anything like that before and hasn''t done anything like it since. God, I could kill myself. I would do anything to go back in time and change it.

 

[Hudson_Hawk]

I don''t think that''s your fault, your flight was delayed and you didn''t know he had plans. Don''t be so hard on yourself.

 

[Picos]

Fiance''s proposal was a complete surprise! He came home, gave me mail (I started to read it, haha!) and proposed!

He''ll often do things like that, bring something home for me or tell me when I get home that there''s something waiting in the loft. Sometimes, it''s flowers. Other times it''s the cat!! He likes to keep me guessing.

 

[Keepingthefaith21]

I remember a few months back I up and quit my job. It was a terrible verbally abusive situation and after being screamed at on my cell phone (which I pay for, not the company) I decided to walk out. This was about 3 and half months after SO and I purchased our first home. He could have been angry with me. I would have allowed him to ask how I could have done something so drastic without talking to him especially with a fresh mortgage to be paid but he completely supported me. That was surprise #1.

Surprise #2 came when I landed the job I currently have (I fell in love with the office after one visit and competed wildly to get where I am). I was so excited I had The Job that I was bouncing off the walls when SO came home. He started to tell me how proud he was of me for standing up for myself by leaving my other job and not backing down from the competition for the position I wanted. He then presented me with a gorgeous necklace I had been ogling for some time in the window at the jewelry store next to our favorite diner. I was absolutely floored that he would get me this necklace all because I quit my job and then got another. Whenever I wear it, all I can think of is his total support of me and that’s priceless.