Uninvited Guests for the Engagement Party

[goldenstar]

Ahhh! It has already begun. My best friend just told me that all the girls are planning to bring dates. I expected the significant others to attend, but other than that it was a total surprise to me. The party is in August and its a cocktail party at my house, hosted by my mom. I''m letting this one slide, only because its a pretty casual party and I can handle a few extra people. I''m just concerned that if people have this attitude now, it will be worse when the wedding comes around. I''m definitely going to put my foot down when it comes to the wedding. I''m totally irritated that everyone has been talking about dates and no one checked with me.

I just needed to vent...

 

[Stephanie]

I''m sorry that you are frustrated, but I wanted to ask just a quick question - Are the girls looking for dates for your events, or are these girls dating the people they are bringing? They may not know that it''s not in your guest plan for them not to bring a date (usually there is the mad rush to find a date for a wedding if you are single.) If I knew that it was shaping up to be a couples shower, I would be looking for a date to bring so that I wasn''t the only one there going solo. Perhaps they just didn''t know.. (again, I have no idea about the situation other than what you posted)

Just a thought..

 

[surfgirl]

I really think that if you dont want this happening to your wedding, its better to nip it in the bud now. Just tell them that there seems to be a misunderstanding and that unless they''re in long term relationships, it''s a solo invite.

 

[goldenstar]

They are looking for dates to bring. If someone is dating someone, that person is also invited. Its single people bringing any random person that I''m concerned about. It''s not meant to be a couples party, its a bunch of family and friends, many single people included. Everyone who is invited is part of a group that is also invited. No one will be there not knowing anyone.

 

[Stephanie]

Ahh.. thanks for the clairification.. In this case, I would try to let them know that you aren''t expecting them to bring dates (and that it actually puts a strain on your wedding plans, if you are so inclined.) But if someone starts dating someone between now and your wedding date, there may be some extra people.

 

[So_happy]

This would, and does, bother the heck out of me, too! My sister actually invited many of my single guests to my shower with "and guest" after I sent her a guest list AFTER explaining to her that some don't have "and guests" because they are not seeing anyone at the moment so are invited solo for my wedding as well. I was peeved to no end when she happily chirpped about getting to meet who my friend Jill was bringing.

(Jill is single and is invited as such to my wedding!!)

Now I can't uninvite these unknowing "and guests" of course but it's going to make me feel bad anyway. How would anyone like to be one of the very few people in a room who are not invited to the wedding??

So mad was I..................I feel your pain, goldenstar!!!!!!! I'll let you know how this shower goes as it's this Saturday.

 

[zoebartlett]

This always surprises me. If I wasn''t engaged or seriously committed to someone, I would never just assume it''s okay to bring a date (whether it''s to a wedding, an engagement party, etc.). I wouldn''t be scrambling to find one.