Update on my 35 Days of Hope

[Keepingthefaith21]

I am a few days past the half-way mark of my SO’s 5 week vacation from work. So far I have had absolutely no indications that he will be proposing during this time-frame as I had initially hoped for. Aside from a brief conversation at dinner one night where he told me to “have patience young grasshopper” and made it very clear to me he wants me to have absolutely nothing to do with picking out the ring, I have absolutely no clue if and when it will happen.

I wish he was not so adamant about not allowing me to have anything to do with the ring. It isn’t that I have lack of confidence in his ability to get something that I will love, it’s the fact that I wish I could be a little more involved just so I could have a clear cut idea of where he is in the process or even if there is a process yet!

While visiting his parents the other week, he purchased a new truck. He desperately needed this new vehicle so now that this very necessary purchase is over and done with, I can only hope that the next item on the agenda is a ring. I think my LIW days are looming ahead much farther than I had originally thought

The good news is that I am getting my new kitten in two weeks. If there’s any distraction to the LIW syndrome I think an adorable kitten is it!

 

[tberube]

Sweetie - let''s just say I''m keeping the faith as well. Hoping that next time we see each other (which better be soon, woman!) we''ll be able to compare sparklies!

It makes me nervous, that whole "I''ll pick the ring and you''ll like it" attitude. But I know it''s not as bad as it sounds, and he just wants to surprise you. But - does he know what styles you like and will he keep that in consideration while choosing, you think?

Heh...watch, he''ll propose to you in China and you''ll come back with a 2.5ct stunner and we''ll all be wondering what the hell you were worried about in the first place!

Take care, darlin, and good luck!

 

[Laurenj915]

Yuck, I am feeling the same way right now and my bf is also on vacation. It is a freakin emotional rollercoaster!

Also, my bf has not asked for my ring imput. Officially I have no idea that he is looking but he''s just not very good at covering his tracks. Like leaving diamond info on the kitchen table for a week. I thought he would have asked my mom or a friend but I am certain that is not the case. I am jealuous that you are not worried that you won''t love the ring. I am worried and very conflicted about it. I mean, I would marry him in a heartbeat if he asked without a ring. But I know he IS getting a ring and I am totally worried about what he will pick out.

Did you meet your kitten yet? Or are you picking one out in two week? I love kittens. Maybe I should go to a pet store and look at them today so I can forget about this awful ring that my imagination has created!

 

[mimzy]

i''m sorry you''re feeling bummed right now! take heart in knowing that one more obstacle (the truck) is out of the way and that your path toward engagement is getting shorter and shorter

i know how hard it is to be kept in the dark like that. if it really bothers you maybe you could talk with him and let him know that it bothers you and maybe he can find some aspect that you could be involved in? maybe he could tell you a list of stores to go to to try on some rings and leave your name and favorites with the salespeople and he can check them out later? i don''t remember if you guys have a *timeline* or not, but if you do, know that it doesn''t matter where he is at in the process because it will be by then regardless!