Dreamgirl
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This is an update to the posting I made last week. I took everyone''s advice and had a talk with my boyfriend over the weekend. I was a little worried that I might say something wrong, or upset him in some way but it wasn''t like that at all. He was actually quite into talking about this stuff!
So Friday night we went out to eat dinner and I told him that we really never talk "seriously" about our future. I asked him what he wants out of the future for him and us together. I also asked him about marriage, when he thinks a good time is to get engaged. (I didn''t talk weddings or rings at all.)
Then he just started talking and talking! And my guess was right, he thinks an engagement could be good around 28. He also said and I quote "28 is the lucky number" I asked him what he meant by that and he went on to tell me that he has heard several times that people who marry before the age of 28 end up divorced and he doesn''t want that. He said because I guess you know more what you want out of life and it''s a good time to start planning. And as I mentioned in my previous posting, he is thinking about going in the fall for his Masters degree. That would take 2 years. So he wouldn''t finish until August 2010, he would turn 29 in September. So now I have a better idea of when it may happen. I always just guessed before. But I think it will happen anywhere between 19-28 months from now, which is (Nov-Dec Holiday 2009 to August 2010ish (We both probably want a summer wedding)) and I told him that people are usually engaged for 1 - 1 1/2 years. So figuring we would marry more than likely in the summer of 2011 or 2012.
We didn''t talk about everything but we did discuss some little things too like laundry ha! It was really good though and I think it even brought us closer together in a strange sense. I told him that there are some things I need to work on and that I am starting to working on those things. He told me his priority right now is getting a much better job and after that, then things will start to fall into place. (still not sure about the Masters degree) We also thought that it''s good discussing these things and that we should do it more often!
So Saturday, we went out to lunch and talked a little more about our future together. Later in the day we were at the park and (girls I swear, he now has his future in mind) He for no reason told me about some guy who was going to propose and put the ring in a balloon. Then the balloon floated away and the ring was gone. He says "Can you imagine?!" how cute! (And Im the one who isn''t supposed to talk about rings anymore. I was good though, I didn''t start on about rings) Later in the day he was online in the other room and I went in there to see what we were going to do for dinner and he was looking at weddings in Santa Barbara, Ca. I said what are you looking at and he started to show me and told me all about how you can rent these estates. (I was thinking in my mind this boy has gone mad. We don''t even live in California) I said yeah that''s pretty cool but I bet it''s expensive. (see, I was calm and cool about it) Uh and get this, he saw this one place that was white with blue trim around it and he said "Look, that looks like Tiffany Blue! I bet you would love that!" haha
Anyway, I just wanted to thank all of you for helping me out. I am very grateful. And I wanted to celebrate on here because now I have a timeline!!! So I can work on my issues and still look at wedding stuff, talk about it on here and not to him. Things are good now. And it''s exciting and Im glad that we are both on the same page.
So Friday night we went out to eat dinner and I told him that we really never talk "seriously" about our future. I asked him what he wants out of the future for him and us together. I also asked him about marriage, when he thinks a good time is to get engaged. (I didn''t talk weddings or rings at all.)
Then he just started talking and talking! And my guess was right, he thinks an engagement could be good around 28. He also said and I quote "28 is the lucky number" I asked him what he meant by that and he went on to tell me that he has heard several times that people who marry before the age of 28 end up divorced and he doesn''t want that. He said because I guess you know more what you want out of life and it''s a good time to start planning. And as I mentioned in my previous posting, he is thinking about going in the fall for his Masters degree. That would take 2 years. So he wouldn''t finish until August 2010, he would turn 29 in September. So now I have a better idea of when it may happen. I always just guessed before. But I think it will happen anywhere between 19-28 months from now, which is (Nov-Dec Holiday 2009 to August 2010ish (We both probably want a summer wedding)) and I told him that people are usually engaged for 1 - 1 1/2 years. So figuring we would marry more than likely in the summer of 2011 or 2012.
We didn''t talk about everything but we did discuss some little things too like laundry ha! It was really good though and I think it even brought us closer together in a strange sense. I told him that there are some things I need to work on and that I am starting to working on those things. He told me his priority right now is getting a much better job and after that, then things will start to fall into place. (still not sure about the Masters degree) We also thought that it''s good discussing these things and that we should do it more often!
So Saturday, we went out to lunch and talked a little more about our future together. Later in the day we were at the park and (girls I swear, he now has his future in mind) He for no reason told me about some guy who was going to propose and put the ring in a balloon. Then the balloon floated away and the ring was gone. He says "Can you imagine?!" how cute! (And Im the one who isn''t supposed to talk about rings anymore. I was good though, I didn''t start on about rings) Later in the day he was online in the other room and I went in there to see what we were going to do for dinner and he was looking at weddings in Santa Barbara, Ca. I said what are you looking at and he started to show me and told me all about how you can rent these estates. (I was thinking in my mind this boy has gone mad. We don''t even live in California) I said yeah that''s pretty cool but I bet it''s expensive. (see, I was calm and cool about it) Uh and get this, he saw this one place that was white with blue trim around it and he said "Look, that looks like Tiffany Blue! I bet you would love that!" haha
Anyway, I just wanted to thank all of you for helping me out. I am very grateful. And I wanted to celebrate on here because now I have a timeline!!! So I can work on my issues and still look at wedding stuff, talk about it on here and not to him. Things are good now. And it''s exciting and Im glad that we are both on the same page.
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