Update with me

[ilovesparkles]

So I have been out here with the BF for a couple of days now and I have another week left. So far I have been trying to be sneeky about being on here cause I didn''t want him to flip out. But I couldn''t wait until Monday when he went off to work to check in so I just had to today. He is in the other room watching basketball I figured he wouldn''t meander in here but of course he did.

I was caught! I told him he couldn''t look at the screen cause he would hate what I was looking at and his first (very sarcastic) reaction was "****!". So I told him I''d show him if he didn''t freak out and get upset. So I showed him and he just rolled his eyes "GAWD!" WHEW

I told him I knew it wasn''t realistic to think I was getting a ring for a couple years. And his reply was "Yeah thats about right". I was relieved to hear that my head was about on. And I of course had to tell him how my mom got me into rings and PS and that us girls just like diamonds hehehehe

So later, maybe over dinner, maybe tomorrow, we will see how courageous I am feeling, I am gonna have to talk to him about two big things. One being finances (the biggest reason we still live 1600 miles away, and two, telling his family about me. THey are scattered around the states and he isn''t real close with my mom so she doesn''t know about me. I feel like that is the next big step for us. What are your gals/guys opinion on that? Should I even bring it up or let it happen at its own pace? I have been torn about bringing up telling his family. He just isn''t like me - I screamed our relationship when it all happened, he is more cautious and introvertyed and keeps his personal life just that - personal. As always I''m sure you will all give me your valuable opinions, thanks so much in advance!

Amanda

 

[anchor31]

I''m glad he didn''t react badly to see you looking at diamonds!!

I''m not sure what to tell you about telling his family though... I usually let those things come on their own. Whatever you decide, good luck!

 

[midgirl]

What does he have to hide? Tell the family!

 

[monarch64]

Ha ha, my husband totally hates Pricescope because I''m on it all the time! I was afraid to tell him for a few months because I knew what his reaction would be: what the heck do you need to be looking at jewelry for all the time?!, but he''s settled down about it now. Our computer is downstairs next to his recliner and big screen, so if he wants to spend time with me while he''s watching t.v. (usually sports which I''m not very interested in), he knows I''m on PS, lol!

I think it''s a good idea for you to bring up the two subjects of your finances and him telling his fam about you soon. If you are both seriously considering marriage, those are definitely two things that must be hashed out before any further action is taken. Doing it over dinner is a great idea--we women know that when a man''s belly is full he''s much easier to talk to, ha ha!

 

[ilovesparkles]

Date: 3/18/2006 10:31:13 PM
Author: monarch64
I think it''s a good idea for you to bring up the two subjects of your finances and him telling his fam about you soon. If you are both seriously considering marriage, those are definitely two things that must be hashed out before any further action is taken. Doing it over dinner is a great idea--we women know that when a man''s belly is full he''s much easier to talk to, ha ha!

Haha! I brought it up after we finished eating. Had a really long chat about it! Things seem to be much easier for me now. He actually has been trying to call his mom and she hasn''t been home the last 4 times he called. He said he is planning on telling her about me etc. Part of why he hasn''t yet is because her reaction to things aren''t always that good and she can really get on his case and be judgmental. I feel much easier about finances now that it is more out in the open. For those of you who know our history, that is his biggest contention and source of stress. But he has a plan. And we both see our relationship moving forward to the same place at approximately the same time which is good. He is still struggling with his fears and anxieties about picking up his life and moving it again which is completely understandable and something he has to work on his own. Anyways, I think I''m off to have a Law & Order marathon with my sweetie so I will catch up with you all later. Thanks for the replies!

 

[monarch64]

Glad to hear things went well, Iluvsparkles! Enjoy your weekend!

 

[anchor31]

I''m glad it went well!! It is important to be open about these things in a serious relationship, so good work!