upgrade remorse, anyone?

[upgrading mama]

So about a week ago, my husband and I drop off my engagement ring to be upgraded. (Going from a .74 princess to a 1.54 Radiant) and he has telling me all week how excited he is for me to get it back. That is shocking, since he is not a big jewellery guy and it was a big step for him to say I should upgrade if I wanted to.
Anyway, I already have been feeling a little bad that I traded in my stone and partially wish I would have waited until we could have affordde a new ring instead. He didn''t know that, but then he said today that he was sad that we wouldn''t have the ring that he proposed to me with anymore.
We both know that obviously it is just a piece of jewellery, but it represented our beginning.
While I am so excited to get my ring back, I wish we could have afforded to keep both..... (We have been married 2 1/2 yrs and have added two kids in that time and are right now buying a business!) If only we would have waited a little while longer....

Can anyone relate to this or am I just being crazy??

 

[decodelighted]

Any chance the jeweler you traded it into would work with you ... and "hold" it for a while with a deposit of sorts so that you could buy it back & make it into a pendant or something? I don''t think the market for re-sold gems is so "hot" that he''d refuse a chance to sell it - even if it took awhile.

Just a thought. I bet you''ll love your new ring. (A little buyer''s remorse is to be expected with any big purchase)

 

[Kaleigh]

Sophie,
I am not in your position, but understand how you feel. The ring my husband proposed with is sitting in our safety deposit box. But we upgraded with a Tiffany ring and then unknown to me hubby wanted to upgrade that ring. No violins necessary, but I loved that ring. Anyway, he insisted and I have the ring I have now , same design only bigger. I felt sad about giving the one back to Tiff''s but let me tell you that went out the window once I got my new ring. I adore it and love that he did that for me as a total surprise. I hope this helps you. Can''t wait to see your new ring!!!

 

[upgrading mama]

I may call tomorrow or Monday and see if he would do that. We should have waited... but I never spend anything on myself, it is always the kids, which of course I love to shop for them!
Thanks for the response I can''t sleep bc I am thinking about my 1 1/2 yr old son coming tm me in 20 yrs telling me his going to get married and me wishing I had my diamond to give him...

 

[upgrading mama]

Thanks Kaleigh. It is comforting to hear that...
We have lived in Canada since we got married and my family is in upstate NY. I so wish we could live there but the business is here...so torn about that! Not that this has to do with my ring, but I guess regret and confusion all rolls in to one. I would love to keep both....

 

[upgrading mama]

So here is a picture of the original stone... https://www.pricescope.com/community/threads/princess-diamond-internet-upgrade.34667/=
hopefully you can see it here.
If not,search for posts by author "upgrading mama".

 

[ecf8503]

Oh Sophie - yes, I can relate. I upgraded my original ring this past year. I am lucky enough to still have my original stone and setting, but not together. We originally planned on putting a better cut stone into my original setting, and so reset my original stone into another setting. Granted, my original stone has never looked better (in it''s new setting), but it was strange to see another stone in my old setting (which I quickly realized was part of the reason my old stone didn''t live up to it''s potential). So we put a new stone into a new setting, and my original setting is now sitting empty. Sometimes it makes me sad to see it sitting there, empty, and "industrial", and sometimes I feel waves of "what did I do?". BUT - my wonderful husband is of the mindset that "it''s just a rock in a piece of metal, and means nothing, in reality. It doesn''t change the way I feel about you or the commitment we made to each other".

I''d love to put our daughter''s birthstone into the old setting - I think that would be a nice way to commemorate the setting itself.

In your case, do you have the new ring yet? Could you alter the stone or setting to free up a little money to get the originals back again? Perhaps if you mention to the jeweler that you really don''t want to lose your original, perhaps they''ll be able to put it aside until you are able to "buy it back". Just some thoughts... good luck!

 

[upgrading mama]

No, I haven''t picked up the ring yet. They are recasting it bc it couldn''t fit the new stone in there. I might call and see if he can hold it for me, but the guy better not resell it for more than I sold it to him for! hahaha
I am looking at halo settings as we speak to see if I can find a cheap one to put my old stone in, if can buy it back.. then I also need to raise some funds..hehe
Thanks for the response, I am glad there are people who know what I am talking about.

 

[Mara]

I would see if your jeweler would work with you...if not then I would look at the new ring as just as much of a representation of something special as the original stone! This upgrade can represent something just as great...it''s unfortunate when the first stone has to go away (mine did) but after seeing the new stone you really do feel like WOW...and you think fondly of the original stone after it''s gone but that''s about it. For me anyway. I would have loved to keep my original stone for a pendant but it just wasn''t in the cards. Sometimes you can''t have it all I guess.

I think your son would love something that belonged to you regardless of if it was the first stone or the second stone, because they both will mean something special to you. Another way to think of it. (Plus your son''s future fiance will thank you for having a bigger stone, tee hee!!!)...

 

[Lynn B]

When I was in the process of my upgrade (from 1.53 to 2.36 RBs) I did feel sad knowing that saying "yes" to the new stone would also mean saying "goodbye" to the old one. I actually had myself pretty worked up about it, and was feeling quite melancholy... until the new stone came. I took one look at it

and then looked at the old one and said, "uh... BUH BYE!!!!"

 

[Lorelei]

Date: 10/30/2005 8:57:47 PM
Author: Lynn B
When I was in the process of my upgrade (from 1.53 to 2.36 RBs) I did feel sad knowing that saying ''yes'' to the new stone would also mean saying ''goodbye'' to the old one. I actually had myself pretty worked up about it, and was feeling quite melancholy... until the new stone came. I took one look at it

and then looked at the old one and said, ''uh... BUH BYE!!!!''

hilarious!

 

[diamondlil]

Date: 10/30/2005 8:57:47 PM
Author: Lynn B
When I was in the process of my upgrade (from 1.53 to 2.36 RBs) I did feel sad knowing that saying ''yes'' to the new stone would also mean saying ''goodbye'' to the old one. I actually had myself pretty worked up about it, and was feeling quite melancholy... until the new stone came. I took one look at it

and then looked at the old one and said, ''uh... BUH BYE!!!!''

I totally had the same feelings with my first upgrade. I went from a 0.75 ct marquise to a 2 ct marquise (years ago). I was all sentimental until I saw the big rock I''d be getting. Then all sentimentality flew out the window. I''ve since upgraded again (2 ct better quality pear) without a flinch.