Valentine''s Day proposals?

[Keepingthefaith21]

Ladies:

I can’t resist…with Valentine’s Day around the corner I am curious:

1) Do any of you think you’ll be getting engaged on Valentine’s Day; and
2) Do you think that a Valentine’s Day proposal is cheesy and not something you would like at all?


Soooo…I’ll start:

1) No, I do not think I will be getting engaged on Valentine’s Day (but I do hope to Cupid that I get my fancy GPS system with traffic avoidance feature – so romantic!).
2) There was a point in time when I would have said I would never want a Valentine’s Day proposal because I wouldn’t want it to feel cheesy. Then I went through a phase where I didn’t want my engagement to be associated with any major holiday. Now, light years later, the day doesn’t matter to me. Holiday or not, a day is just a day.

 

[MissErin]

Date: 1/11/2008 2:18:45 PM
Author:Keepingthefaith21

Ladies:

I can’t resist…with Valentine’s Day around the corner I am curious:

1) Do any of you think you’ll be getting engaged on Valentine’s Day; and
2) Do you think that a Valentine’s Day proposal is cheesy and not something you would like at all?


Soooo…I’ll start:

1) No, I do not think I will be getting engaged on Valentine’s Day (but I do hope to Cupid that I get my fancy GPS system with traffic avoidance feature – so romantic!).
2) There was a point in time when I would have said I would never want a Valentine’s Day proposal because I wouldn’t want it to feel cheesy. Then I went through a phase where I didn’t want my engagement to be associated with any major holiday. Now, light years later, the day doesn’t matter to me. Holiday or not, a day is just a day.

1) No I don not think I will get a V-day proposal

2) One of the VERY first conversations I had with my boyfriend touched upon this subject. I candidly asked him what he thought of valentines day to which he said "I''m not a fan". This was GREAT!! I am not a V-day fun myself so it eleviated pressure. (not to mention our anni is feb. 17 and my bday is feb. 21) I have always has a SO on v-day but always considered it to Hallmark. If I love someone, I want them to know EVERYDAY. In a way, most days for me are v-day. A special time to express my love for someone cannot be filtered into one day. But that is just me...

 

[Erin]

1.) No, I don''t think we''re to that point yet
2.) I don''t care if it''s on Elvis'' birthday - just ask me and I''ll say yes

 

[delilah]

I''m hoping to be engaged with on or before Valentines Day. On the holiday or not would be fine by me.

My ring is on order and I know (shhhhh!) it will arrive in my beloved''s hot little hands on the 4th of February. When and how he decides to pop the question is a mystery to me. I''m killing myself thinking of all the different scenarios and opportunities he has...we have quite a full social schedule between now and then, so he has numerous chances to slip that ring on my finger.

 

[redfaerythinker]

I''ll play!

1. Will I get a proposal on Valentine''s Day?
NOPE. He doesn''t have the money yet to get the ring. We''re not even celebrating VD this year cause he''s two hours away and I have a choral dress rehearsal anyways. Sniffles. But I have claimed him for Sadie Hawkins day!
2. Do I think it''s cheesy?
It definitely can be, but it doesn''t have to. It all depends on how it''s done.

 

[Sparkalicious]

1) Do any of you think you’ll be getting engaged on Valentine’s Day
- Nope not on VDay but maybe before ...

2) Do you think that a Valentine’s Day proposal is cheesy and not something you would like at all?
- I don''t think its cheesy but I don''t think it''s "us". I would prefer if my bf proposed on our "own" special day. However, if he proposes on VDay ... I''ll be just fine.

 

[designchica]

1. No. I would be surprised if he proposed on a holiday and I am hoping for a proposal next week.
2. No, its not cheesey.

 

[brooklyngirl]

I highly doubt I'll be getting a proposal on V-day, we were never really fans of the holiday. The only v-day we celebrated was our first one together (1 month after we started dating), and I received a very romantic USB drive

.

The ring was ordered in mid-december, and I was told that from the date it was ordered (i don't know the exact date) it would take 4-6 weeks

. Hopefully it will be on my hot little finger before Feb 14th because I've been driving myself nuts about it!

At this point I wouldn't give a hoot if it's on v-day or Lincoln's birthday any day is fine by me!

 

[sandia_rose]

I''ve had a tough week here so far. My boyfriend''s mother passed away in her sleep at hospice on Wednesday night. I''d posted previously that she was in her 80s and terminal w/cancer. Her last several days were filled with pain, and she needed to be on such a high dose of medication to remain comfortable that she was out of it, so what happened and how was best. Still, it sucks because she was a very cool lady. So, even if he was initially planning to propose (not likely), any of the recent events would negate that, as neither of us would be in the mood. When my mom passed away, I wasn''t in the mood to do anything for 6+ months and things like holidays, birthdays, etc. seemed superfluous. And to top it off, today is my boyfriend''s birthday and his son''s birthday is Tuesday....and we are not in a celebrating mood. It almost seems wrong to celebrate anything right now. So....

1) No.

2) On one level, we both feel Valentine''s is a "Hallmark Holiday." Or as my boyfriend said when it came up last year, "I don''t want to be pressured into having to buy flowers, etc. If I feel like I want to, I will - without a day "telling" me to." I know exactly what he means and why he feels like that. His ex-wife is a petty, selfish, childish person, and for 20 years, he would get hounded about Valentine''s Day and crucified if what he did was not acceptable to her. In order to avoid the screaming and crying/hystronics, he had to go much more over the top with Valentine''s than most men should have to. In other words, the bouquet he sent to her work had to be bigger than anyone else''s, the gift she got had to be of a specific caliber and of course brag-worthy. And her birthday was just as bad. He told me once that because her birthday is in March, March was her "birthday month." Everything in March had to be all about her.

You get the picture. I have no idea why he stayed with that woman for 20 years and still has some sanity left. So now that he''s divorced from her, he''s made it a point to do things because he wants to and not because it''s expected or demanded. He''s gotten me flowers for no reason at all, has made my birthdays special and thoughtful, writes me cute notes and e-mails and goes out of his way to do things for me for no reason at all. So Valentine''s is kind of unnecessary, because he does Valentine-y things constantly. Having said that....

A Valentine''s proposal would be fine with me. Any day would be fine. I would like mine to be special and heartfelt, and if it were, than it would not be cheesy, regardless of the day. My boyfriend is not the cheesy type, though. He has a strange sense of humor and an interesting way of looking at things, but he is also conscious of classiness. Class is a huge thing with him. I would picture him asking me in private or taking me ATVing to a great view or waiting until we were on vacation somewhere cool to pop the question.

Bridget in Connecticut.

 

[sunnyd]

1. I was all set to say ''no'', but now I''m thinking that maybe he would...it is when we had our first date, after all.

Not THIS v-day, but maybe next year...? Please...?! Hehe.

2. I guess it depends. We set our anniversary date on the 18th of Feb, because that''s when we decided to be "BF and GF", but our moms decided it should be on the 14th, because of the first date thing.

 

[FrekeChild]

1) Do any of you think you''ll be getting engaged on Valentine''s Day?
No way. I''ve told him I don''t want to get engaged on any major holidays.

2) Do you think that a Valentine''s Day proposal is cheesy and not something you would like at all?
We don''t celebrate Make-Single-People-Feel-Like-Sh*t Day in the first place. Having said that, I''ll say yes whenever he asks, no matter the day.

 

[EricaR]

1. Actually, maybe. He has the ring (well, actually, I just picked it up and it is in my car RIGHT NOW!)

2. I don''t think it is that cheesy. We don''t do the traditional Valentine''s Day, but we always try to go out of our way to do something nice for each other. Last year I cooked a big dinner for him, that kind of thing. So I wouldn''t think it was cheesy, as long as I end up with my ring.

 

[chocolatefudge]

1) No I don''t think so unless he has asecret bank account I don''t know about! To my knowledge he hasn''t the sufficient funds at the moment and our cat''s expensive operation yesterday hasn''t helped........

2) No I don''t think it''s cheesy. I would love to be proposed to ANYTIME!! However, I think Valentine''s Day would be nice. My grandad''s birthday was Valentine''s Day and I think I''d like to get engaged this day. Also, it''d mean not having to wait long.......

 

[goodfun7580]

1) I''m 99.9% sure there will be no Valentines Day proposal.

2) I think doing it on Valentines Day would actually be very romantic, because everyone now a days thinks Valentines Day is so commercial, Hallmark Holiday etc., so to actually bring back some true romance to Valentines Day would be nice. I love Valentines Day though, so you can just call me a sucker!

Good luck to anyone possibly expecting a proposal!

 

[sred2]

1. I KNOW I wont be getting a VDAY proposal. (this year at least...

)
2. I think it would be VERY romantic to get a proposal on this day

.. then again my BF and I are hopeless romantics (we still celebrate our monthly "anniversary" lol)

 

[misscuppycake]

1) No, we''re not ready yet.
2) As for my take on Valentine''s Day proposals, I think it''s the way you go about it. If you do the hearts theme and try and gear everything towards the fact that it is Valentine''s Day, then yes it could turn out a bit cheesy. However, if it is treated like an engagement on any other day (still special and romantic but not necessarily "valentine''s-themed") then it''s great.

 

[HollyS]

As long as the BF made a sincere effort to make it unique or just heartfelt instead of cheesy, I''d be fine with it.

My DH was adamant about NEVER proposing on a holiday, birthday, etc. He thought it would be lame and cliche.

 

[rubybeth]

Date: 1/11/2008 2:18:45 PM
Author:Keepingthefaith21

Ladies:

I can’t resist…with Valentine’s Day around the corner I am curious:


1) Do any of you think you’ll be getting engaged on Valentine’s Day; and

2) Do you think that a Valentine’s Day proposal is cheesy and not something you would like at all?

1. BF said "before Valentine''s day," though I don''t know if that includes the actual day. Part of me thinks it would save some work for both of us down the line in remembering our e-date-anniversary thing and celebrating it, because who doesn''t celebrate Valentine''s in some way. BUT, he hasn''t ordered the ring yet, so I don''t even know if it''s possible. Although, along with KTF, I wouldn''t complain if I got electronic gadgetry instead of jewelry... iPod anyone?

2. I don''t think a V-Day proposal is cheesy. I have a good friend from college who was proposed to on V-Day, and she was totally not expecting it. She was actually mad that her BF hadn''t "planned anything," and wasn''t even planning on being able to spend much time with her that evening (they lived two hours apart). When he showed up at her apartment with flowers and the ring, oh man! I would not mind at all if S pulled something like that on me. In fact, I think I''d be pretty chuffed, to use the British for pleased.

 

[zilaras]

1. I am quite certain it will not happen then.
2. I don''t think that it is cheesy at all...would be a very sweet romantic gesture...even if it was way cheesy...i would love it because i love him

 

[asscherisme]

My husband DID propose to me on valentines day 1994. And, yes I think it was totally cheesy! I never liked valentines day so it was total cheeseball to me. It was in a super fancy restaurant too, very cliche

 

[Dandi]

My husband proposed to me on Valentine''s Day too, which caught me totally off guard, and that was the best thing about it! Neither of us had ever been a huge fan, he''d get me flowers I think because he thought he had too, but I made it quite clear it didn''t matter too much to me. That said, I figured HE thought that I would think that a Vday proposal would be too cliche. So he did it, and got me by surprise! I didn''t expect it at all! So it was awesome

 

[partgypsy]

LOL no I would have never expected a valentine''s proposal from my husband...
My husband is not a "fan", is this forced "Hallmark" holiday, manufactured to sell flowers, chocolates, jewelry, etc. He onced joked that he would give me flowers any day of the year EXCEPT Valentines. When I was single I hated Valentine''s day, how pumped up it is, like hooraway for us we are SO in love! I still remember a date I agreed to go on on Valentine''s day (beofore HB came around), because I don''t know you are supposed to do something romantic on that date even if it kills you, your cat threw up on your comforter, you have a cold, the weather sucks, etc. It was our second? date. I am sitting there thinking this is not going to work out. We are sitting in a bar that is decorated to the nines in valentines decorations, Sinatra playing, surrounded by lovey dovey couples leaning over and kissing, while we nurse our respective beers. Man that was uncomfortable!

 

[Deelight]

1) Do any of you think you''ll be getting engaged on Valentine''s Day?
Nope because I know he plans to pop the question on our holiday in May

2) Do you think that a Valentine''s Day proposal is cheesy and not something you would like at all?
Ummm I am a cheesy romantic so as long as it was about me and him and as romantic as possibly could be I am cool with that

 

[tberube]

Valentine''s day sucks. It''s just a ploy to make single people feel bad about themselves. Bah.

Miss you, Miss Faith...!

 

[Hoping&Waiting]

1. OH I WISH! but no..very doubtful! He has left the vday events up to me to plan

which has become a romantic picnic at my townhouse and a rented movie...BECAUSE "were saving for that special ring!" this is accroding to him!


2. I WOULD LOVE a vday proposal, i have always loved vday and HE KNOWS IT!!! I WISH I WISH I WISH!