veil?

[Tybee]

lmurden and Mara,
You two got me thinking! I was never considering a veil until this moment.
I never thought it was my style, FI and I are getting married in a casual setting,
we''ll most likely be wearing flip flops etc...
You two both were in my boat. What made you decide on a veil?
I''m attaching my wedding site, and a small pic of my dress
(ophelia...I can''t wait for her to come in!)
Maybe once I have the dress I''ll know for sure, but I was just wondering,
what made you change your minds?

Tybee

Oh, and those of you who are on the fence, why would you, or would you
not wear a veil?
Thanks all!

 

[Tybee]

How does one post multiple pics?
Here is our wedding location.

 

[Tybee]

Maybe it''s also because the model is not wearing a veil in the picture...
hmmm, anyways, I''d love to hear any and all of your opinions. I''m not working today, took the day off to take a test
for an onlne class, now I"m just pondering our wedding. This is a dangerous thing for me!
I"m going to go ahead and attach a pic of me and my redhead FI from a trip to San Fran--

 

[lmurden]

When I tried on my dress again I felt there was something missing. I don''t plan on covering my face, but having the veil in the back of head and draping over the gown. I really think it completes the over all wedding day look.

 

[Erin]

I haven''t been interested in wearing a veil. For one I have short hair and I always envision a veil with longer hair or an updo. Also, because our wedding will hopefully be either outdoors and I don''t want it blowing around or it will be a modest wedding and I don''t want my look to be too formal. Finally, I never imagined the traditional lifting of the veil - the blusher idea seems creepy FOR ME because my father and I have a fantastic relationship but I just don''t view it as appropriate in the traditional sense of a veil. I like the look I have put together with an ornate dress, pearl necklace, drop pearl earings.

I also never considered it because my dress is very ornate and think it stands alone. I think FOR ME adding a veil would be like wearing a pearl necklace, a gemstone brooch, a scarf, and a hat.

 

[Tybee]

Thanks for your thoughts Starset,
Have you ever posted your dress? I''d LOVE to see it!

 

[curlygirl]

Tybee, your dress is so gorgeous, you really don''t need a veil. For me, I have an extremely simple dress which I have yet to post pictures of but I will as soon as I get some! I have decided to wear a veil (compliments of rfath!) because it will serve really as an accessory. I am taking it off after the ceremony but it''s a long cathedral veil without a blusher. Since my dress is basically an A-line with no train, the veil will serve as the train. But I really think you can go without one especially since you''re doing the beach thing and because your dress is ornate enough to stand alone.

 

[BrightSpot]

Hey Tybee!

I think your dress is gorgeous & could easily stand alone, but would look beautiful with a veil as well.

As for me, the primary reason I''m not wearing a veil is that this is my 2nd wedding & I just don''t think a veil would be appropriate.

As I''ve been surfing pics of beach weddings, I''ve found that a lot of brides didn''t wear veils. I guess it can be a struggle to keep the veil out of your face if it''s really breezy outside. (But a veil blowing in the breeze could be stunning too...) I wonder the extra layer of (albeit thin) fabric would make you hotter outside.

Have you tried on your dress w/ a veil? I think if you do & you like the way it looks, you should go for it! (How did your test go, btw?)

 

[icekid]

I''m not sure about the veil yet either, Tybee. I do think your dress would look great either way though.

When the woman at the dress shop put it on me, I felt kind of silly. But maybe I will get used to it! If I do wear one, it will probably be ceremony only though.

 

[Tybee]

Thanks so much all
for your imput! I never thought about wearing a veil, seemed way to formal for me, but, who knows?
I''ll try one on when my dress FINALLY comes in, and I''ll post pics.
thanks for asking about the test Brightspot. It was long, but painless! It''s a stupid formality. I''m getting my Masters in education, but
still need to take some undergraduate courses. Today''s test was a 3 hour snorer for an online class that I was taking.
It went well. Then FI and I went to the new Georgia aquarium to celebrate!
Pretty, but sad.
Margaritas eased all the pain! lol!

 

[Mara]

I am totally not a veil person, I see them as very classic and romantic and I am not that type of individual I guess?

I think they are stunning with the right dress but just not me. Like a princess dress is not me (I tried one on and Greg and I were dying over the pictures..BAD BAD BAD).

I wanted to do tropical white flowers in my hair tucked behind the ear or something, something classic but stylish and simple, esp since we were doing the outdoor wedding thing with my hair up.

But my Mom said ''you aren''t a REAL bride unless you have a veil'' and she really felt strongly about it. I knew she was kind of sad because I did 99% of the wedding planning on my own rather than consulting her on everything (she would have loved to have run the whole thing I am sure)...so on this I felt like I could give her what she wanted, to see me in a veil walk down the aisle. I wore it for the wedding and some of the photos and then took it off afterwards and so I got best of both worlds!!

But I think that my veil looked beautiful in the tropical setting in profile, I will see if I can find a few pictures to show how it looked...the wind was kind of blowing it sometimes but for the most part it was a huge success.

 

[Mara]

here are two not so great shots but show the veil and our background so it''s kind of similar to your outlook tybee...i dont have our wedding images on my laptop so i downloaded these from my sister''s ofoto album from the wedding in 2004...i love how you can do that. that''s why they are so small, anyway! i didn''t wear the veil over my head at all, that would have been a nightmare with the hairdo and all that. we clipped it in the back over my bun and flowers. it just slipped out easily when it was time to take it off.

 

[Mara]

and one more from a little farther away...the veil kept blowing to the side from the wind.

i think this is the picture i have framed in our PB 'i do' picture frame in our bedroom.

 

[Tybee]

oh mara,
they''re beautiful pictures!
I guess I think of myself the same way... but your pictures are lovely. I might start looking into veils!

 

[Mara]

thanks tybee...i am actually glad i went with the veil and the fact it was something like $30 on eBay made it even easier to swallow.

 

[flopkins]

mara, that veil on you has me totally sold on a veil for tybee!!!!

 

[BrightSpot]

Wow, Mara, your veil looks so beautiful & elegant. I''m sure it meant a lot to your mom that you wore it for her too.

Gotta love eBay...

Let us know what you decide, Tybee. Maybe you can post pics w/ & w/o the veil when your dress arrives!

 

[Mara]

thanks brightspot...yeah it all worked out well since i did both flowers and veil, so everyone was happy.

haha flopkins, well i can always lend her mine...

it''s gathering dust in the closet!

 

[monarch64]

I think veils are such a personal thing...the veil (or not wearing one) has to fit the bride''s personality perfectly for her to carry it off. I have been to quite a few weddings in the past few years where I thought the veils some brides chose totally took away from their dresses, but I have also seen some that definitely fit them and their dress and "made" the whole look. I love the look of the birdcage veils, but I think you have to have a strong personality and strong features to carry off that look. Without seeing the whole thing put together on you, I can''t have an opinion! While some of the pics posted above do remind me also of turkey bags or onion bags even, I think that if you search hard enough you could find the right one if that is what your heart is set on. I have said this before, and I''ll say it again: you are the one who will be looking at your wedding pictures for the rest of your life!

I love long, flowing veils, and I almost wore one...but my mother was with my when I found my dress and when I tried on many a veil with it, to my amazement she said, "you know, you''re just not a veil person." It kind of freaked me out, but she was right. I took her advice and just wore a tiara. I have a lot of long hair that I had done in an updo and it turned out to be just right for me...I love looking at my wedding pictures and I wish I had been able to see them before the actual day so I hadn''t been so indecisive! Moral of my story is, it all works out in the end!

 

[Tybee]

Monarch,

You are so very right. It is a very personal thing. That''s why I''m so hung up over it!
I always considered myself super casual, jeans wearing, low budget, no frills type of woman.
Funny what a diamond ring can do to a girl?
Poor FI is wondering what happened to his tom-boy, I''m sure.
I certainly never thought I''d buy such an ornate gown, now I can''t help
myself from looking at wedding jewelry too.

But I know I won''t be wearing my hair up. I rarely do, unless I''m running or playing
sports-- oh, who knows.

Thanks all for your advice and thougths. I''ll surely post pics when my gown finally
comes in!