SoonIHope
Ideal_Rock
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Soooo yeah, my boyfriend and I went ring "looking" (since he wanted to surprise me with what he actually chose, I couldn''t even refer to it as "shopping") a couple of months ago, and then I have been aware of his going to various meetings with jewelers etc ever since then. And then when I made a random comment about a month ago about a setting to make sure that he knew what I liked, he said "uhhh the setting has already been decided." So that was good news! And then he''s been narrowing down stones since then. But when I said I was leaning more towards rectangular cushions maybe 2 weeks ago, he got all freaked out and kept saying "but a square would be good too, right??" to which I replied of course (since previously I had only said that I wanted a cushion and not specified a preference of one over the other b/c I basically like them the same). So THAT seemed like a good sign....but when I was bugging him about exactly what it meant (he doesn''t officially "tell" me anything because he cares so much about surprising me, so he gets pretty annoyed when I ask him questions over and over again...oops!
) he finally told me that it did NOT mean that he had chosen the stone; it just meant that he was narrowing down to only squares. But again, since he wanted so much to surprise me I never know if he''s just being tricky and trying to throw me off, or if he actually hasn''t bought it yet. So basically I''ve been going back and forth over thinking he''s bought it, he hasn''t bought it, he''s bought it, etc for the past couple months and I''m going a little crazy!
[The official deadline he gave me was "Before the end of the year" so at least I know it has to be pretty soon, but I just don''t know HOW soon.] And then the other day we had a big fight (over something completely unrelated and, honestly, not important) but in our post-fighting nice talking, he said he might just go ahead and crack the next time I asked him questions and tell me "how big it is, how much it cost, what the clarity is" etc. So that sounds like "IT" equals the ring he BOUGHT, doesn''t it?? Because all of his comments seemed to be in the past tense and not conditional - just how big "it IS". Riiight?
I don''t know, but then today he had an appointment with the guy and when he came back I IMed him "oh, so you picked up the finished product didn''t you! that''s what i think you did!" and he was just like "no". So I guess it''s not done. But would he really need to be going to the store if he had already BOUGHT the ring and it wasn''t done yet? So this is making me think he HASN''T actually bought it, or else he would have picked it up today. Of course, there is always the possibility he''s just lying to throw me off. But usually he gets all cute and vague if he''s doing that, not just "no" to a question he normally would refuse to answer. This is a very very long post and I don''t have any particular advice or question, just felt like venting a bit since I KEEP thinking he must have it and then....he doesn''t.
But at least I know it can''t be more than two months away! Even though I feel like he might make it New Year''s Eve just to annoy me even though I told him I''d just be mad if he waited until the day before the deadline.
The deadline HE came up with by the way, I just kept saying "sooon?" and he''s the one who volunteered an actual concrete date.
FYI I have deduced that he is buying a pre-made setting from one jeweler and the diamond from another jeweler. But he was talking about how he "knows" that if you buy a loose diamond then they just give it to you right then in a little packet so I feel like if he had already bought the diamond back before the "it is" conversation, then he should have given it to the other jeweler to be set by now since it''s been like a week? I don''t knowwwww! Any thoughts/comments/support would be welcome! Sorry this is so long!!!!!
[The official deadline he gave me was "Before the end of the year" so at least I know it has to be pretty soon, but I just don''t know HOW soon.] And then the other day we had a big fight (over something completely unrelated and, honestly, not important) but in our post-fighting nice talking, he said he might just go ahead and crack the next time I asked him questions and tell me "how big it is, how much it cost, what the clarity is" etc. So that sounds like "IT" equals the ring he BOUGHT, doesn''t it?? Because all of his comments seemed to be in the past tense and not conditional - just how big "it IS". Riiight?
I don''t know, but then today he had an appointment with the guy and when he came back I IMed him "oh, so you picked up the finished product didn''t you! that''s what i think you did!" and he was just like "no". So I guess it''s not done. But would he really need to be going to the store if he had already BOUGHT the ring and it wasn''t done yet? So this is making me think he HASN''T actually bought it, or else he would have picked it up today. Of course, there is always the possibility he''s just lying to throw me off. But usually he gets all cute and vague if he''s doing that, not just "no" to a question he normally would refuse to answer. This is a very very long post and I don''t have any particular advice or question, just felt like venting a bit since I KEEP thinking he must have it and then....he doesn''t.
But at least I know it can''t be more than two months away! Even though I feel like he might make it New Year''s Eve just to annoy me even though I told him I''d just be mad if he waited until the day before the deadline.
FYI I have deduced that he is buying a pre-made setting from one jeweler and the diamond from another jeweler. But he was talking about how he "knows" that if you buy a loose diamond then they just give it to you right then in a little packet so I feel like if he had already bought the diamond back before the "it is" conversation, then he should have given it to the other jeweler to be set by now since it''s been like a week? I don''t knowwwww! Any thoughts/comments/support would be welcome! Sorry this is so long!!!!!
So it really is SOOOOOOO nice to have all you PSers who are actually able to understand what I''m talking about! Thank you!!!!!
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