Was everyone else as indecisive as me?

[michela002]

Question for those of you engaged/married now, who had some (or a great deal) of say in your engagement ring:

Were you all incredibly indecisive about what you wanted? Flitting from one ring to another to another unable to decide which one you liked best, liking one the best at one time then changing your mind?

I''''m so indecisive (hence the name), but at some point my boyfriend will make me pick "the ring" I want and I''''m afraid I''''ll still be indecisive. I''''ll wear this ring for the rest of my life, I want to pick the right one! Lol. And I know its not all about the ring and I''''ll love whatever it is, but when I have to pick one ring - how will I know which one? lol. It was so easy picking the right man, I wish the ring was that easy. Lol. Perhaps this is why I shouldn''''t be given input?

Was everyone else who had a say in their ring like this??????

 

[Carolynw]

I''m the worst, as far as changing my mind. I probably changed my mind 100''s of times, sometimes
at a cost. If I were you, go and try on tons of rings, designer too. See what feels right. It
is stressful doing that too because sales people are urging you to buy, saying how it looks so great.
Dont fall for that, make sure you ignore any comments from them or others, because they do not
care. Take a friend, a girlfriend too, because men do not know what you will like.
I finally got a ring, i really like, but it took 10 years. I mean, ive been married 10 years, and changed
many times. What made me finally pick a ring that is truly beautiful to look at is studying.
Read the areas that talk about the cut of diamonds, etc.. Also, take a look at the settings others
picked here and see if you like any of them. I thought i would never like the antique ornate look,
because im kind of athletic and everyone said, go with classic then. But, I did that and found them
not that exciting. I picked the Koala Tacori setting, and got it yesterday. It is beautiful, Ninastar
has it too, she has a picture of it. It''s something that will never go out of style and is fabulous workmanship.
Yes, it''s expensive. If you get something cheaper, just make sure that it''s quality is good.
Anyway, just thought I would add my two cents, study and try on tons, and take your time.

 

[windowshopper]

CAROLYNW WHAT DOES YOUR RING LOOK LIKE --ANY PICS?

I KNOW HOW YOU ALL FEEL..............I ALSO SUGGEST TRYING ON A MILLION THINGS AND YOU WILL KNOW WHEN YOU''VE GOT SOMETHING THAT "JAZZES" YOU

 

[canuk-gal]

HI:

Agreed. Try on all shapes, sizes and colors before you sign on the dotted line. I am in the market for an upgrade for my 20th this year and have been looking for what seems an eternity. As I have worn a RB for the last 20 years, I felt I wanted a fancy shape for the upgrade--so I''ve tried on cushions, ovals, emerald cuts and the problem is I loved them all! But now I am back to RB''s and feel I am no further ahead......Time will tell what I end up with....

cheers--Sharon

 

[codex57]

I was totally indecisive as well. Not only on which store to buy from, but from multiple stores w/in each store.

 

[treysar]

what a FUN PROBLEM THIS IS!!

I joined pricescope when I was looking for my setting. You can actually TRACK my indecisiveness on here!! Whenever I search and find an old post of mine, i LAUGH at how CONFUSED I WAS!

Ask yourself this - when you first thought about getting engaged one day (whether you had a boyfriend or not at the time) what was your idea of a nice ring?

Have you ever seen a ringthat someoneelse had and thought, "OOOH! pretty!" Also, have you seen ones that made you say, "uh, not quite for me.." Narrow it down like that.

For me shape was easy, I knew I wanted round because it is the most sparkly. But if I knew I had to go for a smaller stone I would have maybe chosen marquis or pear, because they appear larger due to their shape. (IMO)

Look IN PERSON too - you can see pics on here up the yin yang but it''s SO DIFFERENT when you try the rins on

Good luck!

 

[MichelleCarmen]

I wasn't at all indecisive BACK THEN I can't remember exactly when I became engaged (1993?) lol, but knew then exactly what I wanted. . .but NOW, i'm indecisive about future purchases. My husband promised me an upgrade in the near future, but now I'm not sure i want to do this when instead I can buy a RHR and another big item (like earrings or an eternity ring). . .I think the major problem is that I've been reading and looking at sooooo many rings here on PS that now I am aware of numerous options and picking just one seems impossible. Sometimes I think it'd be easier to spend all my diamond money on some fabulous outfits (that are encrusted with melee diamonds). lol

 

[Heart]

I was not at all confuse....really.

I had my heart set on Radiant cut and clearly decided on that and i end up with a round cut. Why?

I don''t know why? I''m still asking that question.

 

[Matata]

It took me 6 years to decide between a diamond and a colored gemstone and another 3 years to decide between gold and platinum and I''m not even going to admit how long to decide on a shape. And even though I love my ring, every time I take a tour through the engagement ring thread here, I start having "what if" thoughts.

 

[pqcollectibles]

I''m on my 3rd "e-ring" (still haven''t gotten the band to go with it yet) in 24+ years of marriage.

The first one was very traditional, simple, plain, low set. The 2nd one was kinda flashy, invisible set prins and bags on the sides with the center sitting very high. This one, a replica of the Tiff Etoile, is very simple, kinda plain, and low set again. It''s comfortable to wear and extremely well balanced. It does not spin. I don''t bang into everything, or catch it on anything. I guess I''ve come full circle. Except for the band to go with it.

 

[michela002]

I started off wanting a replica of the Tiffanys Lucida (I just loved the "X" look when you saw it from the side.) Now what I''ve narrowed it down to is:

Emerald cut (square-ish emerald, but not quite an asscher)
Thin pave platinum/white gold band
Basket to hold the diamond (when viewed from the side)
Very plain, un-noticable prongs
Able to sit flush with a wedding band of exactly the same band style and size as the e-ring band

That sounds like I''m being quite specific, right? NO! There are so many variations with that. Lol.

Plus another ring I truly love is the Daniel K union square split-shank asscher ... but I don''t think it''ll look right with less than 2 carats (and that''s out of the budget by, gee, a zillion dollars) and you can''t wear a wedding band with it ...

I''m just afraid I''ll pick what''s in favour at the time when my boyfriend says "Okay, time to tell me what the final decision is" and then it''ll go out of favour.

But it is nice to know that everyone else was just as indecisive as me! I thought maybe I was obsessing and thinking way too much about this.

 

[yanekie25]

No, you are totally normal. Heck, I am still indecisivie and I have the ring. I do love my ring, but there are days, when I see others and I am like feel a bit saddened. I don''t know. It''s just so hard to decide and I am not very good and accepting compromise especially in stuff I want. I figure I will reach a level and maturity and it won''t matter. I hope that come soon.

 

[Garry H (Cut Nut)]

I think I am indecisive, but then sometimes I am not, so maybe I am not. But then I can''t decide now if I am decisive or not so maybe I am?

 

[belle]

Date: 1/11/2005 5:50:14 PM
Author: Garry H (Cut Nut)
I think I am indecisive, but then sometimes I am not, so maybe I am not. But then I can''t decide now if I am decisive or not so maybe I am?

well, sometimes you are funny, and sometimes you are not. i think this time you are........

 

[Garry H (Cut Nut)]

My friends think I am funny Belle, but then as Groucho Marx said "anyone who would have me for a friend, is not worth having as a friend" (well that is not exactly what he said

)

Actually my 2 daughters do not think i am funny

.

 

[hoorray]

Garry, you are waaayyyy too young to be funny as a Dad. You should know by now that Dad''s are not at all humerous until you are way past playing the Dad role.

On the indecisive front, for those uf us who are, I''m not sure you ever get over it. I am constantly looking at my ring thinking "maybe I need side stones or pave for more flash". But when I had side stone (in one of the several previous rings), I often thought, "you know, those solitaires are really beautiful and classic...." I know that for me, it will never end. There are too many beautiful rings out there.

 

[glaucomflecken]

I think after trying on rings and searching, when you find "the one" you will know. for years I dreamed of a Tacori ring. I saw the Rosebud years ago and have dreamed about it ever since. My FI and I when we first looked we found a siliar ring and bought it to save money, but I was not happy. It is beautiful by all means but it was not what my heart really wanted. So now I am getting the Tacori. My heart just knew that it was the one and it will be as perfect as my sweetie! My old ring is now set with my birthstone for my RHR and its more beautful that way. Its a big deal when you will wear something for the rest of your life and you want to make sure, so its ok to be indecisive, but don''t settle for anything because like me, you may regret it. good luck!

 

[Lurchie]

I have the same concern as you, and I''m nowhere near engaged! I''m worried that the looking and the shopping will be way more fun than the owning and the wearing. Is there a jeweler out there crazy enough to let you wear a ring for a day to see how you feel about it? Any ring you try on might look beautiful, but how do you know you''ll want to wear it all the time? These are not helpful comments are they...I think the ring must be similar to finding the right man. You''ll know it when you see it?