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INdmbLove

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SO came home from a business trip late Saturday night. Sunday we had a few errands that we had to run... While we were out and about he suggested that we go take a look at some rings. The area we were at is lacking in many jewelry stores... so the only place I could go to was Kay-- which-- blah, just not a fan of their stuff (no offense if that is your cup of tea, it's just not mine). I told him I could probably point out some features that I'd like to have and show him some things that are important to me in an e-ring. I pointed out lots of things and being the Very detail oriented guy that he is--- he was taking LOTS of mental notes... it was pretty cute!!!

I'm sure the sales associate was less than happy with me- but oh well. She was talking about buying a Leo solitaire ring and then putting it into a setting that I liked, and I was trying to read the little card with all the specs.. the chick would not let me look at it- she kept flipping it over to show me "how much information was on it"--- I just wanted to see the gradings! Also, she poo-poo'd the GIA stones, like they were no big deal at all... It was kind of weird.. Oh well, I knew before hand that I don't typically care for their jewelry--so that just kind of sealed the deal. She wasn't rude, just... IDK... I suppose she receives a good commission off of selling the Leo over anything else.

Marriage is a VERY open subject with us, he's always been the one to bring up the "big" conversations initially--- so I know that he's all-in. We have an AMAZING relationship... we're very very sturdy! I wasn't SUPER shocked that he wanted to go ring shopping- I guess I've never had a man suggest that we go-- with my ex- it was a kicking and dragging situation!! So last night while we were fixing dinner I brought up that I was shocked that he suggested ring shopping today... and he was like "yah, don't read too much into it... I was just bored, and it was something we needed to do- and we had time to fill" with this HUGE grin on his face. DON"T read too much into it.... AH! Too Late!!!

It's weird- I think he just realized when he wanted to propose (which... IDK, our anniversary is in a few weeks.. we are going on vaca in about 2 mos.... we're moving in together in Oct.--- lot's of opportunities!)-- a few months ago he told me when he asks me- it'll blow me away... I think he's just trying to figure out his plan.. and probably pricing out a ring. BUT I AM KINDA FLIPPING OUT!!! Hehe :appl:

So now, I've not told my bf that I've scoped out some stuff online- and found a ring that literally *Took my Breath Away*... I don't want him to think I'm obsessing, so... I guess next weekend when I'm over at his house I'll bring it up and TRY to be super cool...lol. Perhaps, he'll let me look 2 weekends in a row? I do not want to obsess over it and burn him out on it all... soo... maybe if I love it in person as much as I do online- he'll see what I like- and do what he wants to do with it- and we can be done. I know there are SO many options out there: online, small local shops, etc etc. It's so confusing (I went down this road in the past...)-- and I don't want it to turn into a part- time job finding a ring that I like. I wouldn't be shocked if he just took a picture into this one shop near his house and had the guy make it. Which, I'd be SO happy with, but I know he wants a good warranty on it (nationwide.. his job will probably take us around the country)... so it's kind of a trade-off. What are policies/ warranties like for say James Allen rings or any other good online vendors?
 
Very exciting! Sounds like this will be your year! Will you post a picture of the ring you found online that you like?
 
How exciting!! Ring shopping, moving in together... your SO sounds like a great guy, a definite keeper!

the saleslady sounds like she was very commission-oriented. boo :( that's what I was afraid of when we first went ring shopping. But at least you were both able to discuss your preferences, and I think it's so great that he was the one who suggested it ;)

It sounds like your guy would appreciate you showing him pictures of the ring that took your breath away. He sounds very open and eager to look into engagement rings in the first place... I don't think you'll burn him out at all! Maybe just a casual "hey, I found something that combines all my favorite elements" or something :D You should post a picture, I'd love to see!
 
I ended up talking to him about how I'd found some rings online, and IDK why I ever worry with him. He was excited and glad that I had looked online, and could give him some ideas- He wants to know what I want, and said that he wants to make sure it is EXACTLY what I want and that it is perfect for me- He is the sweetest :love: .
We may go take a look this weekend at the rings that I really like if we have time, they're at a jeweler he has dealt with in the past- he had planned to take me there anyways. I'll try to work on posting a picture this evening- for whatever reason the website doesn't come up on my work network. It will not be quite as grand as many of the pretty sparklies I see on this website-- but it's just right for me. I've also started to look at some of the online vendors- but have not seen anything that really compares (design wise). I'll keep chugging along though.
 
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He wants to know what I want, and said that he wants to make sure it is EXACTLY what I want and that it is perfect for me.
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This is the sweetest! It sounds like you have a real keeper on your hands! Can't wait to see some pics of your options! Congrats- this is just the beginning of the fun things that are coming up!! Keep us posted!
 
He really is the sweetest man I've ever known. I can't believe that I get the pleasure of being his g/f and someday soon... his fiance' and wife and down the road... his baby-momma lol!!! We are both absolutely crazy for one another and know just how lucky we are... even when we have our bad days- we turn to each other to pick the other up, I can't even begin to explain how much we love one another. He told me that I deserve nothing but the best, and he will do all that he can to give me the ring of my dreams, I made a comment the other day of something being too expensive.. and he said-- "umm... you have no say on how much I spend... I'll decide if it's too expensive or not...lol"--- I just don't want to go into debt over our e-ring.


I Thank God for him Every Single Day!!!
 
Aw, congratulations! He does sound sweet. :)

For the record, don't ever ever ever buy ANYTHING from Kay jewelers. They are by far the worst jeweler I have ever dealt with. My SO bought my V-day gift from there (a tennis bracelet) and I have had the worst experience. Terrible customer service, my bracelet was once returned to me *broken* from a resizing (which took 4 weeks, and then another 3 weeks to get it fixed...), their soldering/workmanship is so horribly shoddy that I still have to keep from looking at my bracelet too closely where they fixed it...

but anyway, that's my rant. :lol: You're better off elsewhere anyway! Good luck!
 
Thanks for the info, I definitely had NO intentions of buying anything here... All of their e-rings were kind of 'blah' to me. I'm into the vintage style, and idk, there stuff lacks character I think- the Neil Lang collection was nice, but.... IDK how I feel about the pricing. My bff got engaged on Val. day- her ring is from Kays... and I'm happy that she is IN LOVE with her ring, but it's so very very ordinary. (Feel bad saying that, but...) When her fiance' told me that he had gotten her ring there- before I even saw it- I knew exactly what it would look like. To each their own.
When BFF had her ring sized (which her fiance' bought it and gave it to her the very next day--- and didn' thave it sized before-hand-- which, is a seperate issue, he bought her ring to make her happy after he had screwed up BIG TIME like 4 weeks in a row-- he on a whim was like... hey, she wants an e-ring, i guess I can do that... but whatever!) she had to wait almost 2 weeks to get it back. They sent it to another retail store (Jared) in another town, and the whole thing just seemed weird- they told her if she wanted she could go pick up her ring at the other jeweler--- that would make me SUPER nervous! I know a lot of places "send off" the jewelry to a central location... but the whole "go pick it up there or here... or wherever"... would worry me!
Waiting would absolutely KILL me, I told my BF, when he gets down on one knee- that ring had better fit or I'll make it fit!!! LOL Which, the ring will mean sooo much to him- if I can't wear it right away, he will be pretty upset. Lucky for him, he already knows my ring size ;)
 
The 1st one in "real" pictures on the website is amazing... here it's somewhat blah-- this is the one that I REALLY like

I waivered last night a big on the 2nd ring...

I guess I'll just *have* to go and take a look :naughty:

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I went into a Kay one day just to look at their rings, because I was at the mall with my mom and was waiting for her to finish up at another store. My fiance (then boyfriend) and I had already been looking at rings and had even picked what we wanted, but I figured that it wouldn't hurt to look at what they had. The salespeople were pretty rude - no one even bothered to ask me if I needed any help until no other customer were in the store at all, even though they weren't all helping the other customers. I know that I'm petite and that I look like I'm still in high school, but it seemed pretty offensive. They also seemed totally disinterested in showing me any rings, and it was obvious that they didn't know anything at all about diamonds. I felt like they didn't want to waste any time on me, and I know that I probably *look* like I can't afford anything nice, but looks can sometimes be very deceiving.

I went in another time, when I was desperately searching for something to buy my (now) fiance for Christmas. They didn't have what I was looking for in his size, and when I asked if I could buy them online, the saleslady said no, and that they were only available in the standard sizes, even on the website. I went home and looked, and sure enough, they had all of the sizes there. I ended up not buying anything, though.

Honestly, my fiance and I never considered buying my engagement ring there, but he does often buy other jewelry for me from places like Helzberg and Zales. After being treated that way, we haven't added Kay to the list of jewelry stores to shop in.

Anyway, sorry for my rant as well! I'm so glad that you're shopping elsewhere, and that you have found such gorgeous rings. Your boyfriend also sounds totally sweet. Congratulations on your upcoming engagement, and happy ring shopping! :)
 
You know, now that I think about it (I think that maybe I was in a "OMG, he wants to go look at rings" daze)... they weren't busy and we totally had to ASK for someone to help us (and no one was "busy"... in fact one girl was basically sitting around).. I pointed out a few rings to the sales- associate and had to Ask for her to take it out of the case. Now that I think about it... I'm kinda offended by all of that!! We also don't look like "big spenders"... but had I seen something I'd loved- I can almost guarantee that I'd be getting it (well... not on the spot... but... he'll go back for it when he's ready to).

Oh well, No matter... No plans of spending any money there.
 
beautifullllllll

I really like the 1st one too!
 
So... we went and took a look at the other jewelry store this afternoon. TROUBLE! I went to look at the two rings that I had posted pictures of... they didn't have the princess with the split shank/sides- they had sold it a few weeks ago and not gotten another one in... or whatever. BUT- when I described to the lady that was helping us she pulled out a ring that I THOUGHT was this ring.

Instantly I was like.. OMG, this is even more gorgeous in person! I was completely in love... BF saw the look in my eye. And I told him how much I loved it, and that is exactly what I wanted.. EVERYTHING about this rng made my heart go pitter-patter-- just like he does lol. It's exactly what I ,in my head, imagined that I wanted! The diamond was gorgeous- the grading on it was all great, the setting was amazing- and the diamonds in the setting twinkled just the way I want for them to. Literally in love... and I THOUGHT it was the ring I had taken a look at online... then I saw the pricetag- DOUBLE!!!

I was nearly in tears. At this point the salewoman that my BF knows had stepped in. (From a previous engagement- and was VERY VERY VERY nice, helpful, honest... she was great). We all talked for a bit- she gave her shpeal.... I kept gazing at this ring, and comparing it to others in the store. Nothing compared. They had the wedding set that I had looked at and shown pics of on here... and it was pretty. Afterwards, bf and I talked and I told him- had I never seen that one ring- I would've chosen it- but there was NO comparison. The quality of the rings was not even close-- BF is Very big on buying something that is truly the best quality that we can get-- whether its cheaper or not--- We both want something we're going to be happy with for a LONG LONG time- and so do I (Thank God he understands that part of my personality).

So, the saleswoman kind of shoo'd me off, so they could talk numbers. So, I just kinda walked around, and he kept just giving me this look. Usually I know this look, and it's kinda.... "You know you've got me wrapped around your finger...I (he) know it... and I Love you more than anything... " They were gone for a LONG time. The store wasn't very busy- and I guess everyone in there knows him, and knows how sweet and kind he is... So the manager came and was just talking to me. She KNEW i felt AWFUL for falling in love with such an expensive ring. So she talked to me about it, made me slightly feel better. Then started asking me questions about how long we'd been together, relationships, etc. I finally went up to BF and asked what he was doing- he said they were checking on his line of credit at that store (which I knew he had- he just paid it off a few months ago)- they had made some changes, blah blah blah.

Needless to say, we left and I still felt awful. We talked about it in the car.... and he told me not to feel bad... I like what I like- and I can't help that I saw something that I wanted. He asked me what kinds of bands I would put with it... and I just told him I'd want for it to match the side stones so it all looked like it "went" together.

We got home a little later and got online and looked it up. We both just love it. But, we decided we needed to continue to look around- it was a bit too pricey. (We're going to have to pay for the wedding ourselves... which I'm already somewhat stressing about).

Now, I don't know what he will do... AT ALL. But, typically- he finds a way to always BLOW me AWAY. For Christmas I wanted an electric blanket (exciting right)- he priced them and told me it was too expensive... and for what it was... it was. I had no clue how much they were. And... I ended up getting exactly what I wanted... He loves nothing more than surprising me and giving me everything I want. He knows I don't ask for much... but when I do... he loves to spoil me. So, I wouldn't be completely shocked if he

I came home to my house- and I guess when I left he called up his best friend, and if I had to guess- he was asking him for advice. He said the best friend asked why he didn't just go ahead and buy it today. LOL... But, his best friend has a bit more money to "play with" than we do... He apologized to me for not being able to afford the ring that I wanted.. and promised we'd continue to look for something that I love just as much.

I Feel AWFUL. He shouldn't be sorry that I chose such an expensive ring!!!! And I know, he does feel bad that he can't give me what I want... But, this is My fault--- I NEVER intended to act like a spoiled little girl!!!. Like I said- I could totally see him going and getting it- but at the same time- I don't know that I want for him to! I know he'd finance it... and I just don't want that... But at the same time- It is what I want, and I can't erase it out of my mind.
 
This is the ring I'm in love with.... It's gorgeous in person.
 

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Thanks.. I will check this out and show BF and see what he thinks.
 
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