Wearing white gold with platinum

[twinkly]

Hello Everyone,

I was wondering if it is okay to wear a white gold wedding band with a platinum e-ring. Is that common? Please let me know the pros and cons especially those who recommend against it.

Thanks so much,

Twinkly

 

[fuffi]

Hi Twinkly,

I love your user name!

From my own experience- it's fine while the white gold plating holds up, but when the rhodium starts to wear off it doesn't look so great anymore. You'll see a big difference and you'll want to replate it and perhaps eventually (as in my case) get fed up and replace it with platinum band.

 

[canadiangrrl]

I tried on some white gold wedding bands this past weekend. The store I was at didn't have my size in platinum. And they looked a little different - the colour of the platinum and the white gold didn't exactly match, they were just ever so slightly off. Have you tried on white gold bands next to your platinum e-ring? You may notice a difference.

 

[twinkly]

Hello,

I haven't tried on a white gold band with platinum yet. I read somewhere that Platinum will abrade gold if worn together. Is that true?

 

[twinkly]

Thanks Fuffi, your name is very unique.

 

[Hest88]

I've heard that since plat is harder it will rub away the gold over time if they're worn next to each other.

The color difference is slight, but I don't think many people will notice. However, if your white gold ring is rhodium plated the contrast will just grow greater over time as the rhodium wears away. I'd stick to one metal or the other, if you can. If cost is the issue, at least hunt down a white gold band that's unplated and made of a palladium alloy (or that mythical 19k white gold we keep hearing about)--something that will hold its color and not need to be plated.

 

[twinkly]

Here's my dilema:

My future Mother in Law purchased wedding bands for my fiance and I as part of our wedding gift without telling us. It's a very nice thought and I really appreciate it. However, I feel that my wedding band is very personal and I'd like to choose them. My e-ring is platinum and she bought me a white gold diamond wedding band. The reason is because my future sister in law's is yellow gold and she has to be "fair", so she couldn't get me platinum. BTW...the wedding band she purchased is exactly identical to my future sister in law's, and it's not what I would choose.

My fiance talked to his mom and she's okay with me wearing the diamond band on my right hand and getting my own for my wedding band.

I guess I'm just debating what I should do. Should I suck it up and use her gift or should I go with my original plan prior to learning that she had purchased the bands and pick out my band.

Any thoughts or experiences?

 

[glitterata]

On the one hand (as it were), family harmony is very important. On the other hand, she did buy you a wedding ring you wouldn't have chosen, without consulting you.

How much does it matter to you that the ring you wear every day be the one you use in the ceremony? I know some people feel strongly about the particular ring. My husband, for example--he would be devasted if anything happened to his wedding ring because even if we replaced it with an exact copy, it wouldn't be the one I put on his finger when we said our vows. For other people, though, the ring's just a symbol of the vows, so they're fine with changing rings.

If you're like my husband, I think you should find the perfect ring, use it in the ceremony, and wear your mother-in-law's gift on your right hand. If you don't feel strongly about which ring you use in the ceremony, it might be kind to use hers that day and wear it as a wedding ring when you'll be seeing her. On other days, you could wear a ring that you like better and feel goes better with your engagement ring.

 

[Kay]

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On 11/19/2003 2:42:03 PM glitterata wrote:
If you're like my husband, I think you should find the perfect ring, use it in the ceremony, and wear your mother-in-law's gift on your right hand. ----------------

I agree with this. It was nice of her to buy you bands, and you should thank her for her generousity and thoughtfulness, but your wedding ring is very personal. You are going to wear this ring every day, and it should be a style you love -- not a copy of FSIL's ring. Wear the gift ring on your right hand, but don't feel like you have to wear it every day (just every day you plan to see MIL

), as I am sure you have other rings you would like to wear on your right hand on occasion.

 

[stumpy]

For rings that are worn next to each other I would use the same metal.