Wedding Craziness!

[robbie3982]

I''m in NY for my cousin''s wedding (the one where I''m the flower girl) and so far we''re already have all kinds of wedding craziness.

Today my cousin (not the bride) and I went to compare nail polish colors to our dresses and when we pulled hers out of the bag, we noticed that there were still pins in the hem! The hem had never been sewn! She''d tried it on when she picked it up, but hadn''t noticed that it was pinned and not sewn! So we just got back about an hour ago from dropping it off to have them actually hem it. We can''t pick it up until 5 tomorrow which is going to create some craziness since the rehearsal dinner is at 7.

After discovering the pins we decided that everyone needed to try on their dresses to make sure there weren''t any more problems. Turns out my dress is a slightly different shade of pink from the twins (the junior bridesmaids). Guess they''re from different dye lots. We''re hoping that the bride either won''t notice or won''t care, but we''re not telling her since there''s nothing that can be done about it right now anyway. Maybe after the wedding she''ll be able to laugh about it, but right now she''d totally freak out.

After we got back from dropping off my cousin''s dress my friend called me to tell me that his wife (one of my bridesmaids) broke her foot completely in half! She broke every bone and ruptured every tendon by falling off her bike. She had to have surgery on it yesterday and won''t be able to put any weight on it until some time after the wedding. Apparently it''s really bad and might never be completely healed. I feel so awful that she''s in so much pain! I hope that she''s feeling a lot better by the wedding. I told him it''s not a problem at all if she needs a chair to sit in during the ceremony and she can even borrow one of my sister''s wheel chairs to use for the whole night if she wants to. I just hope she''s feeling well enough to come. They''re supposed to be flying from Portland, OR to Pittsburgh, PA.

I hope nothing else goes wrong, but I have a feeling this is just the beginning...

 

[Independent Gal]

Wow! That IS a lot of wedding craziness. The unsewed hem and different dye lots are classic. I hope you seriously complain! In fact, I''d ask for my money back.

 

[robbie3982]

Date: 8/2/2007 8:47:38 PM
Author: Independent Gal
Wow! That IS a lot of wedding craziness. The unsewed hem and different dye lots are classic. I hope you seriously complain! In fact, I''d ask for my money back.

The unsewn hem is definitely the shop''s fault (they charged my aunt $50 for that hem!) as well as the 3 other (yes 3!) bridesmaid dress problems that have happened for the other bridesmaids (there are only 6 of them!), but the different dye lots is my fault. I found the dress my cousin wanted me to have on ebay for less than half the price. She was fine with me buying it on ebay. Hopefully it won''t be that noticeable since I''m the only one wearing my dress. There are 2 JBM in one dress and 4 BM in another. All dresses are by the same company. The JBM is completely chiffon, the BM is completely satin and mine is a mix of satin and chiffon.

My Aunt is pretty furious with the dress place that they never sewed the hem, but she couldn''t raise too much of a fuss since they still have to fix it and another one of the BMs dresses. I think she plans on complaining once all dresses are safely to their owners.

 

[Independent Gal]

Good thinking!

And if it were me and you got the dress on ebay for half the price (I remember that now) and it wasn''t EXACTLY the same colour, I''d still be all "WAY TO GO ROBBIE!" I wouldn''t care, personally. Hopefully your crazy cous won''t either? Or won''t notice?

It would be a classic bridezilla move if she threw a tantrum about that!

 

[Tacori E-ring]

Sounds horrible! Hopefully the bride doesn''t know about all the drama so it doesn''t effect her day. Good think they have time to actually hem the dress! In the end I doubt anyone will notice the color difference. I don''t blame you for wanting to get it for half price.

 

[monarch64]

Welllll, good thing you and your cousin had the foresight to compare nail polish colors, LOL! Otherwise she could''ve ended up walking down the aisle with pins sticking her little legs!!!

So sorry to hear about your BM breaking her foot, that stinks. I hope she heals in time for your wedding, you''re so nice to let her know she do a chair sitting thing if she needs to. When is your wedding again? When I broke my ankle and had to have surgery (it was shattered on both sides) I was in a walking boot about 6 weeks later and then was pretty much fine about 3 months later, then again I was only 23 and healed pretty quickly.

Hope there are no more glitches for any of these weddings, Robbie! How''s the sitch with your parents/invites, etc? I don''t think I''ve checked that thread lately, I hope everything got straightened out, it''s good to hear your wedding is still on!

 

[Jas12]

Robbie, it seems to me that drama and weddings just go hand in hand. Two weeks before my wedding, my aunt, who was to do a reading at the ceremony, slid into 2nd base in a baseball tourney and shattered her tibia and twisted/shattered her knee cap--an absolutely terrible injury that required major surgery. She really wanted to do the reading still (believe me, i didn''t think she''d be invloved) and so she did so from a wheel chair. It all worked out, with some adjustments.
That week prior to my wedding my other aunt got diagnosed with breast cancer, my dad was experiencing terrible vertigo, a groomsman had a lung infection, one grandfather was hospitalized days prior to the wedding and my mom cut her toe and ended up in emerg.

They all made it to the wedding.

A friend of mine gave me this advice: "expect some things to go wrong, and when they do, get zen about it" This helped me a lot.

Good luck!

 

[robbie3982]

Monarch, my bm is 22 and the wedding''s in 5 weeks, so maybe she''ll be in a walking cast by then? I''m keeping myfingers crossed, but her husband didn''t sound too hopeful. My sister''s going to be in a wheelchair for the wedding (she''s disabled) so at least my bm won''t feel weird or like she sticks out if that''s what she ends up having to do. The parents situtation is in a good place right now. I think there are definitely some issues hat need to be worked out, but they''re being pushed aside until after the wedding.

Jas, how awful that all of that stuff happened before/during your wedding! I''m glad that it all worked out in the end. I think that''s great advice.

 

[Harleigh]

Oh, Robbie, it sounds like you''re in for a long five weeks! I hope everything with yours and your cousin''s wedding gets itself worked out! Keep us posted as to how things are moving along!

 

[robbie3982]

Update: The stupid bridal shop called my cousin, the bride, to tell her that the pins in the dress were not theres, so they hadn''t forgotten to hem anything, we''d added them later! Ok, this would be completely ridiculous in the first place, but the bride wasn''t supposed to know anything was wrong! So they freaked her out, she called me aunt and was like, what are they talking about?! Then my aunt called the bridal shop and they all swear they never said that and no one called the bride. Uh...she has the freakin voicemail from them! And she didn''t know about the situation beforehand! This has to be the WORST bridal shop ever!

 

[Tacori E-ring]

Their excuse doesn''t even make sense! I would complain to the owner for sure. What a stupid thing for them to say.

 

[robbie3982]

It gets worse...Michelle (my cousin whose dress wasn''t hemmed) went with her mom at 5 today to pick up the dress and surprise surprise, it''s still not done! They''re going to deliver it to her neighbor while we''re at the rehearsal dinner. This place is awful!

 

[Dandi]

Oh for crying out loud! THEY should be paying YOU to take their stoopid dresses home!

What a terrible place!

 

[robbie3982]

Big surprise, they never delivered the dress. They called twice. Once to say they couldn''t find the house after looking for an hour and a half (even though when the called it was 20 min before they were supposed to deliver it...) and once to say they thought they''d found the house. The first time the girl called from a cell phone. We called back using numerous numbers and left numerous messages, but she never answered. The second time she called from a blocked number. All of this was happening during the rehearsal dinner, so the bride was really upset about the whole thing and we still have no dress for my cousin. Her father is going to the shop at 9:30 am to raise hell. We start pictures at 1:30.

 

[Tigerbear]

I can''t wait to hear how the wedding went. Inquiring minds want to know.

 

[zoebartlett]

Don''t even tell me they still charged for alterations. As far as I''m concerned, their "services" should have been for free.

 

[Harleigh]

Date: 8/5/2007 1:19:24 PM
Author: Tigerbear
I can''t wait to hear how the wedding went. Inquiring minds want to know.

No kidding! I was dress shopping with my friend today and was telling her what a disaster this dress shop was causing! Made me wonder all day how it turned out, so I had to race home and hope Robbie had posted what happened!!! I''m on pins and needles here!

 

[robbie3982]

Sorry to leave you all hanging! This weekend was pure craziness and FI and I only just got home from NY a little bit ago.

We ended up having to meet the girl on some random street at midnight to pick up the dress. The seamstress was in the car with her and she opened the back door (where me and my cousin were sitting) and pretty much threw the dress in at us. We were just so glad to have the dress though.

We got it home and became convinced that they sewed it in the car. The hem was crooked and there was a grease stain (thumb sized?) on the chiffon. I managed to get it out, but M (the cousin whose dress it was) was really upset that the hem was uneven. It wasn''t so bad that you noticed unless you were really looking at the hem, but she was still upset. The sewing job was also very poorly done.

There ended up being something wrong with EVERY BM dress at the wedding except for mine and I ordered it on ebay. NONE of the alterations were done properly. One BMs hem fell out completely before the ceremony started. Another''s dress hadn''t been taken in enough, but after sitting at the shop for 4 hours the day before trying to get them to fix it she decided to just deal with it. M''s sister, R''s straps weren''t shortened at all (the only alteration she had done). Another BM had the same problem with the straps. The bride''s bustle fell down after just a short while and then broke towards the end of the reception. We ended up having to pin it with safety pins.

Despite all of the craziness with the dresses, everything was great and the food was TO DIE FOR! The Fountainhead seriously had the best food I''ve ever tasted in my entire life. The filet mingnon was out of this world. As soon as I get a chance I''ll post some pics.

 

[iheartscience]

Bummer about all the dress mishaps, but it sounds like the bride and everyone else handled everything well and had a great time anyways! Can''t wait to see pics!

 

[VRBeauty]

Robbie: I know it was your cousin''s wedding, but congratulations to you for being there to support her and be a part of it. I hope you''ll post pictures of the flower girl soon!

And as for that bridal shop... well, I guess they''re taking advantage of the fact that most brides will be one-time customers.