Wedding date change...

[curiopotter]

So FI and I have been thinking it over, and decided to push the wedding up to May. We both get out of school May 10th, and he won''t start his internship until the beginning of June, so that gives us roughly 2 weeks to work with in order to set a date. The ideal date would be May 16th,17th or 18th but it''s booked. They have the 23rd and 24th (fri and sat) available, but some of our close friends will be out of town to an event.


They have May 11th still open, but that''s Mother''s day, and my dad doesnt like that idea. I could book it on the 22nd (Thurs) b/c most of them will still be in town, but FI isn''t too keen on a Thursday wedding. What would you guys do if you knew about 10-15 of your close friends may not make it because of an out of town function?

Would you send the invites and ignore it in hopes they would show up, or would you try to plan around it?

 

[Hera]

I''d plan around it as I would want my close friends there. I don''t see why you couldn''t get into the beginning of June even with his internship starting.

 

[E B]

Are you absolutely attached to whichever venue is booked?

 

[curiopotter]

I''ve become really attatched to the place, yeah. It''s basically (after looking at 100 venues) the only place that offers what I want, and the style I want. They have a Thursday May 15th date.

What do you guys think about having a wedding on a Thursday?
My FI is sitting in the room with me and looks dissapointed about the date, but what else can I do other than start looking at other venues.... ugh.

His concern is that people in his family will have to take an extra day off to come for the wedding, and people won''t enjoy themselves because it''s a Thursday. Has anyone been to a wedding on Thursday?

 

[Hera]

How about May 30th or 31st (Fri or Sat)?

 

[Hera]

A Thursday event would be a big ole bummer. Sorry to be so blunt.

 

[curiopotter]

His best man will be leaving for Norway as soon as school gets out in May. I know he''d wait a few weeks for our wedding, but I don''t know if he''d wait a month. His wife is moving there short-term for a job position, and his best friend got an internship up there. dIt''s a big deal, because we really want him at the wedding as he''s become so close to FI.

The other friends we have are people from our motorcycle group, who we rarely see anymore, but nonetheless get to see on occasion.

uggghh... what to dooooooooooooooooooo...........

 

[misysu2]

What about the 25th (Sunday)? Maybe your friends would be back from OOT, and BTW, vendors will all still be available! And, of course, since i''ts Memorial Day weekend, everyone will still have Monday to travel.

 

[Pandora II]

Why is mother's day such a big deal?

I would go for that one personally - celebrate them both...

I definitely wouldn't go for a Thursday.

 

[sumbride]

Mother''s day does tend to be a big deal in the states and could cause lots of grumbling. I would pick Mother''s day over a Thursday though. If it''s a small, mostly family wedding, it would be ok, but if it isn''t, it could be an issue for some people.

My best friend had a Wednesday wedding, and it certainly wasn''t the end of the world, but it was a little awkward, especially since it was out of town for most everyone. It works if it''s a small wedding and you know that the people coming would drop everything to be there and will stay and have fun. If they are local and planning to go to work the next morning, it won''t have quite the same amount of revelry.