Wedding on a Sunday?

[ladypirate]

Hi Ladies! So now that I have FINALLY been able to get FI to come look at venues with me (his argument is that he wanted to get everything taken care of with the house before we looked, mine is that I wanted to...you know, actually FIND A VENUE WE LIKED

), everything that we have seen that we really like is already booked every Saturday from June through August of next year.

I''m really bummed about it.

FI can''t figure out what the big deal is and wants to have the wedding on a Sunday. I''m not opposed to this, but I''m worried that fewer people would come/people would leave early if that was the case. On the other hand, many of our friends would be coming from out of town anyhow so would probably be taking at least one day off of work to travel, and maybe it''s just as well to have that be Monday as Sunday. The other thing is that we are not huge late-nighters anyhow, so if the party doesn''t go until the wee hours of the morning, that''s not the end of the world.

What do you guys think? Is a Sunday wedding a big faux pas?

 

[FrekeChild]

Nope! Do it up!

 

[sba771]

I am getting married on a Sunday. My feeling is those who really love you and want to celebrate with you, with enough notice, will make it work. Its a great way to save a little moolah too!!

 

[choro72]

The local guests will probably leave before 9PM. The OOT guests will take Monday off. So no problem, do it! It''s cheaper too

How about a Sunday lunch?

 

[neatfreak]

As long as you understand and are ok with not as many people coming-go for it! Some people though will find it inconvenient and won''t come. But likely they''ll be the "extra" people anyway.

 

[mayachel]

Is having an earlier evening wedding possible? Say a 3pm ceremony and start the party by 4pm-9pm seems like it would give you dinner/dancing and time for an after party while not keeping people too late if they need to travel early on Monday.

I was at a Sunday wedding this spring, but it was a noon start, reception done by about 5 or 6pm, and then a pizza and beer party in a hospitality room till midnight back at the hotel.

 

[smiles]

I think it comes down to you knowing your friends and family best.
In my circles not only are Sunday weddings common but people have weddings mid-week!! (often Tuesday or Thursday nights!!) I have never seen it to be a problem of people not coming, and while people may have left earlier than they would have on the weekend, it was not that much earlier.... Probable around 11 p.m.!

Do what is best for you guys! I do not think this is a faux-pas by ANY means!

 

[SapphireLover]

We are getting married on a Sunday! 1st august 2010!

I''m Jewish so wouldn''t get married on a Saturday. Most of the weddings I go to back home are on a Sunday too. DF isn''t Jewish and found it strange at first but is ok with it now. It''s a pain for him as he is a teacher and can''t just book a Monday off work like most people.

We are having a day wedding where the main bits will be over at 6ish which is plenty of time for OOTers to shoot off and drive away.

 

[Octavia]

I'm having a Sunday luncheon wedding, and nobody seems to mind a bit. We kept it earlier in the day so people who have to travel, but not too far, can get home before it gets too late. We'll probably after-party with our local friends and the people who have come far enough that they're taking Monday off. The downside is that the wedding reception itself probably won't be as much of a "party" (more of a garden party) but the upside is that I think we'll save a lot on alcohol costs because people won't drink as heavily in the afternoon.

 

[Dannielle]

I wouldn''t have a problem attending a wedding on a Sunday, some people may leave early but there are some people that will leave early even on a Saturday.
I say if you and your FI want to get married on a Sunday, do it

 

[Diamond Confused]

I''m having it on Sunday. It''s a three day weekend so most of our guests will have Monday off. Having it on Sunday affects cost considerably (for the better). If you want to do it

 

[MommaChristine]

I''m getting married on August 2 which is a Sunday so I say go for it! Of the 130 guests that I invited 110 RSVP''d yes! I couldn''t believe it .. just make sure you send out a Save the Date or memo letting them know ahead of time!

 

[ilovesparkles]

I''m also Jewish, can''t have a wedding on a Saturday unless it starts one hour after sunset (Our days start and end at sunset, so the sabbath ends at that time and it is allowable to then have a wedding). So, of all the Jewish weddings I have been to, they are always on a Sunday. And like others have said, no reason it should be different to take off Monday rather than Friday! And everything can be a bit cheaper, mostly venues and food. Just makes sure your florist etc is obviously open and delivers. That has been the only glitch I ran into so far. Good luck picking a venue and a date!

 

[Clairitek]

I personally much prefer a Sunday wedding to a Friday wedding. Go for it!

 

[honey22]

I don''t think there is a problem at all. Most healthy adults can handle a single late ''school night''

If they can''t make it, there is more to it, and they are using it as an excuse (obviously not applicable for OOT guests)

 

[HollyS]

We had a Sunday wedding, and it was perfect for us. Your venues choices will be less likely to be booked, your choice of photog is probably available, and some vendors will actualy charge you less based upon the day of the week.

I think the guests liked the day too; it didn''t interfere with anyones'' plans.

 

[princessplease]

That''s so awesome to have it on a Sunday. A friend of mine recently went to a wedding on a Sunday, but it was a 12:00 start time, and they had a lunch/champagne reception. The couple was Jewish, so they were unable to do Saturday.

The 4th of July is on a Sunday in 2010, so if you have the wedding that day, you may have more of a turn out since a lot of people will likely have off on that Monday.

 

[Dreamgirl]

I don''t see anything wrong at all with a wedding on Sunday! Plus the venues could be cheaper too!

 

[princesss]

I like the idea of a Sunday wedding. It seems more relaxed, somehow. Plus the extra availability of vendors is nice. And if people have to travel for a wedding, they''re going to take a day off no matter what. And Fridays off never seem to extend the weekend the way Mondays off do. Not sure why, but a Monday off feels far more luxurious (spelling???) than a Friday off does.

 

[Londongirl1]

Date: 7/12/2009 1:04:46 PM
Author:ladypirate

What do you guys think? Is a Sunday wedding a big faux pas?

There''s no reason why Sunday should be seen as faux pas for a wedding although I could see my mom freaking out if I suggested it

. In the UK I''ve seen many Asian weddings take place on a Sunday. I think you should go for it - you could start a new trend

 

[marlie]

I think a Sunday wedding is totally fine! I''ve been to quite a few. Plus you''ll get a wayyyyy better price! I''ve realized in my planning that whatever day you pick is going to be an inconvenient date for someone so just do what''s best for you and those closest to you!

congrats on finding the venue!!

 

[Gypsy]

We had a Sunday wedding honey. And it was great. Sincerely. I''ll tell you more if you want.

You also get better pricing from a LOT of vendors for a Sunday wedding.

 

[Hudson_Hawk]

I just got married on a Sunday and we had no problems with people not showing up due to work. And note that the majority of my guests had an hour or more to travel. Many took the next day off and stayed over, but some left around 10pm, which was fine with us. The important people will be there regardless of the day, time, and/or weather.

 

[jstarfireb]

My wedding was on a Sunday. Only one person said "if it were on Saturday, I would have been able to come." It was great because we saved a bit of money and didn't have to worry about people having trouble getting to the rehearsal, since that was on Saturday rather than Friday. Go for it! But please consider having it earlier in the day. Mine was a 1 PM ceremony and a lunch reception. It was all done by 6. That allowed a lot of our guests to go home on Sunday and not miss work the next day.

ETA: Ditto on stuff being cheaper...site fee, vendors, everything!

 

[ms.halo]

Date: 7/13/2009 8:05:20 AM
Author: ilovesparkles
I''m also Jewish, can''t have a wedding on a Saturday unless it starts one hour after sunset (Our days start and end at sunset, so the sabbath ends at that time and it is allowable to then have a wedding). So, of all the Jewish weddings I have been to, they are always on a Sunday. And like others have said, no reason it should be different to take off Monday rather than Friday! And everything can be a bit cheaper, mostly venues and food. Just makes sure your florist etc is obviously open and delivers. That has been the only glitch I ran into so far. Good luck picking a venue and a date!

Yes, it is very common for Jewish weddings to take place on Sundays (except during the winter when it gets dark early enough to have a Saturday wedding or some creative friends who had cocktail hour first and then the ceremony). I''ve found that people leave a little bit earlier, but more like 10 p.m. instead of 11 p.m. I think out of town guests will come anyway as it''s as easy to take off a Monday as a Friday.

 

[tigian]

I think a Sunday wedding would be lovely. I would go for it if I were you. The people who are most important to you would not miss it for the world. I think a lot of people would be willing to take Monday off, or just travel late on Sunday.
A couple factors would be how many people have young children and are children invited to the wedding and how many out of towners are invited?
When I got married last year, I thought a Sunday brunch wedding would have been great since I had a small wedding of 70. I ended up having a whole weekend affair and the wedding had to be Saturday evening at the venue, but I still love the idea.
Good luck!

 

[ladypirate]

Thank you so much for all the input, everyone! As it turns out, someone canceled on a venue we''re considering for a Saturday in July so we went ahead and booked it and I''m going to go look at it today. If we like it, we''ll stick with that, but otherwise it sounds like a Sunday wedding is just fine.