Wedding Rings

[Scooba]

Does everyone here (female) wear or plan on wearing a wedding ring (especially those of you with large diamonds)???

I know many women, especially with large diamonds who have been married many years who wear only their engagement ring. Right now I am thinking I only want to wear my engagement ring. No offense to anyone at all, some of the wedding sets on here are beautiful, but in my humble opinion I think it can make a finger look a little "cluttered" for lack of a better word. In regards to jewelry I am into clean lines and a classic look, especially since my diamond is big (almost 3.5 carats) I am thinking I will just wear that.

just looking for opinions on this, I also don''t want to get asked everyday when the wedding is after I have been long married.

Thanks in advance!

 

[moon river]

I''ve noticed alot of women wearing their ering lately and they''re married. They do change out alot and it is the ladies with the bigger bling. I like the clean look also. Maybe just a plain band or a tiny diamond band. Try a few on at jewelry stores and see if you like any of them.

 

[MissAva]

Where are your pictures of the ring? I think with some it looks nice and other rings which are larger or "busy" look awful with even more stuff on the finger.

 

[ladykemma]

i wear a plain gold band which has never left my finger since the wedding day 12 years ago. When i have to scrub the toilet or work in the garden, it''s all I wear.

 

[Dee*Jay]

This post is so timely!

I agree with your "cluttered" point, and I''ve spent the past week or so wearing just my e-ring as an experiment. My husband mentioned casually one day that he thinks the diamond stands out best when I''m only wearing that one ring, and I think he might be right.

(Of course that makes me want to get a different setting that is more conducive to wearing alone because my e-ring has a very thin band that slides around a bit when my hands are cold, but that''s a whole ''nother problem!)

What about wearing your e-ring on your right hand and your wedding band on your left hand? Or even vice-versa?

By the way, what about this 3.5er you have??? Did I miss the photos somehow?!?

 

[moon river]

Date: 4/16/2006 7:09:45 PM
Author: ladykemma
i wear a plain gold band which has never left my finger since the wedding day 12 years ago. When i have to scrub the toilet or work in the garden, it''s all I wear.

Ladykemma, you''re a gem!! It''s so rare to find anyone doing that these days.

 

[MissAva]

Oh DAH is a LIW I found a post saying she has a 3.5 princess in an eternity setting waiting for her.

 

[Dee*Jay]

Thanks Mat -- I just found the post in LIW, and all I have to say is WOW! Georgous ring DAH!

 

[Scooba]

Here is my ring...

I wanted all the attention on one big stone so I wanted the thinnest band possible, I agree with what Dee Jay said about having all the attention on the diamond, but I love the sentimental value of a wedding ring. I also like the thought of wearing them on different hands, does anyone do this, how does it work for you?

 

[XChick03]

I want a really thin wedding band, no more than 2.5 mm. I don''t want the "cluttered" you were talking about,

 

[decodelighted]

Hey D.A.H. ... I see what you mean ... what about flanking either side with teeny 1mm bands (maybe BLACK DIAMONDS) or thin, thin, thin "ring guards" that are knife edge and look even LESS than 1mm?

Or, the idea about wearing it on a different hand. Great excuse to get an eternity diamond band for one side ... that WHOPPER on the other!

 

[Dee*Jay]

I love Deco's idea of an eternity band, but consider carefully how big the stones are that you choose. I've been trying to wear my eternity band on my right hand this past week and it's not very comfortable. The stones are .35 ct each, and writing with that ring on can be a real pain (literally!). So, if you're considering that as an option just be mindful of what you do with whichever hand you're going to wear it on on a daily basis. (For some reason the eternity band on my left hand is not uncomfortable though; maybe it's just a matter of getting used to it.)

 

[Scooba]

I guess you probably can''t tell from this camera phone picture but my diamond is already set on an eternity band too though so that could add to the busy-ness/

 

[Mara]

I''m totally a two ring person...It would just drive me insane with everyone asking when you are getting married or whatever. I would do a 2nd ring that matches your e-ring band but maybe thinner, I don''t think it looks cluttered if it''s the same ring or style, aka I have two matching rings and it''s not cluttered at all but looks like it ''goes''. I do like less on the hand though but I don''t think I''d wear one ring unless it was a split shank or something that didn''t just scream engagement.

 

[Kaleigh]

I agree with Mara. I love the two band look. Recently I got a thinner diamond eternity band from SP. I love the way it looks with my ering. Makes it pop. I'd go with a matching band and if you want one that is thinner, then do that. But having people ask when the wedding is, would drive me insano.

 

[tawn]

I got a split-shank style for that very reason...but then felt very "unmarried" after wearing a set for 11 yrs. I got a 2mm plat band to wear with it, and it feels right to me!

 

[glaucomflecken]

man I WISH i had the problem of my diamond being so big I was afraid another ring would make it cluttered!

I think wearing a wedding set IS a classic look and as long as your ring is complimentary style to your e-ring i dont think it would take away from the big diamond. i actually felt my ring looked incomplete without the wedding band and silly as it sounds i would be more inclined to wear just a wedding band than just an e-ring after i was married even if my ering did have a big rock only because i would not want to look "engaged" forever.

 

[Scooba]

I love all you gals ideas and opinions, keep em coming! I feel like everyone on here is so smart you all make such good points! I guess I can get a thin matching band and wear it or not, they made my ring on a CAD cam (or something, you guys probably know what this is) so they said they could always make me a matching wedding band if I decide I want one.

PunchNPie- I love you signature, sparkle is definitely my favorite color!!

 

[decodelighted]

One more quick thing I just thought of ... def do get SOME kind of band ... because with 3.5 carat e-ring there will be some times where its just not prudent to wear it!!! I''m nervous about my 1.5 carat sometimes ... & twirl it around & hide the stone in my palm! You can always do that too .. but that''s a palm-filler!!

 

[fatafelice]

I agree with Deco. I am planning on getting a wedding ring that I like enough to wear by itself occasionally -- there just might be times when your arm gets tired and needs a break!

(note: my ring won''t make my arm tired, but I still can envision times when it would be best not to wear it!

)

 

[FireGoddess]

Sometimes I only wear my ering. Ironically, the only time I''ve been asked when the wedding was, was when I was wearing the ering and wband. When I''ve been wearing the ering alone, I get asked how long I''ve been married. Odd. I think that basically means it''s a crapshoot depending on who''s looking at your ring. Do what you want.

 

[glaucomflecken]

Date: 4/17/2006 12:08:55 AM
Author: Diamonds are Hot!
I love all you gals ideas and opinions, keep em coming! I feel like everyone on here is so smart you all make such good points! I guess I can get a thin matching band and wear it or not, they made my ring on a CAD cam (or something, you guys probably know what this is) so they said they could always make me a matching wedding band if I decide I want one.

PunchNPie- I love you signature, sparkle is definitely my favorite color!!

My friend went to France a few years ago and met an adorable little girl on the train. She must have been about 4 years old and was decked out in a frilly pink dress and lots of bling (talk about starting the obsession young!), very girly girl.

My friend started chatting with her and told her what a pretty dress she had, and asked if pink was her favorite color. The little girl nodded her head and said (vin a very exaggerated way), "Mmm mmm. My favorite colors are bluuuuuuue, and piiiiiiink, and spaaaaarkle."

I couldnt have said it better myself! LOL

 

[Scooba]

Awww cute cute story, I am very pink and blingy myself, so I guess it only makes sense!

 

[moon river]

PNP that story is precious. Thanks for letting us in on it''s origin.

 

[diamond_quester]

I second the do whatever you like. It''s jewelry, and people have different tastes. I like my ring band(s) to meet a certain width so I plan to wear a wedding band with my solitaire, but if I had a 3-stone ring I would wear that alone.

Also, I think it can be hard for the common observer to even tell if you are wearing one ring or two if your rings are slender and match well. Especially if they are soldered together.

 

[Blenheim]

PNP, that''s such a cute story!

My university has a "My favorite color is shiny" Facebook group, but I''m just not feeling it. Sparkly is so much better, IMHO.

 

[Sundial]

That is a cute story PunchNPie! My diamond isn''t anywhere near as large as 3.5 carats, but it is a three stone ring and I wear it all by itself because I darn well like it that way. Trust me at my age NO ONE ever asks me when the wedding is!!!

 

[Odilia]

I am glad to see this topic come up as well. DAH, I know what you mean. I think a lot of times two rings together with diamonds can look ''cluttered'' or too much or whatever, and that the center stone can tend to get lost. This was my problem when I got my first ER setting - it had side diamonds, and my original intent was to wear a simple plain band with it. But after I got the ring, I realized it probably wouldn''t really look right with a plain band (not to mention it was one of those that would have been better with a ''bent'' or V-shaped ring, which I don''t like - you can''t wear it alone). With a diamond wedding band it just looked like it was too much diamond - I know that might sound like ''heresy'' here on PS, but to me it was. I like both rings to match well, but it seemed you either have matching blingy e-ring with blingy w-band, which felt like too much bling, or else plain solitaire/plain metal w-band, which, while classic, is just not what I wanted, or blingy/plain, which to me doesn''t match. I like a blingy ring, but just one per hand.

Since getting married, I''ve seen sets like Ritani Endless Love (or other pave) and Michael B Lace, both of which would have done the job, having a little bling in each but not too much when put together. But as it is, I have the wedding band I got married with, found a little antique ring that matches it well enough, so now I am going to reset my e-diamond into the type of setting I like without worrying about wearing it with a w-band, and hopefully also get an anniversary band, which I would wear on the other hand. So although the traditional part of me wishes I could have found one set that meets all the criteria, and wear both rings on one hand, in the end I agree with those who say ''do what you like''. I''ve met so many who wear only one ring on the L hand ring finger, or had their diamond set into their wedding ring, or so many other options; you can really do what you want. (Also, although they aren''t as popular now, there are those who got the "ring wrap" as a wedding band, and then soldered the two together, which winds up looking like one ring, so why not just get one ring?) And frankly I don''t think people pay much attention to our rings except when engaged or newly-wed (except for PS''ers of course

). I was glad to hear what FireGoddess said - you just never know what people will think or how they will react. Plus, I don''t automatically assume someone''s just engaged if I see only one ring with a diamond.

I do agree with those who recommend that you do at least get a wedding ring, even if you only wear it on the other hand or when not wearing the e-ring.