Weird Question

[ladypirate]

So we''re not engaged yet (obviously I would have mentioned it if we were!), but there is this dress that I am pretty much in love with. There is one shop that carries the designer here in town. Said designer is having a trunk show next month.

Would it be totally weird to go try on the dress that I love to see if I even like it on? There''s no guarantee that this time next year when I''m shopping for a dress they''ll have another trunk show and I''m not sure that they''ll have a sample of the dress for me to try on then.

It seems logical to me, but I don''t know if it''s against the "rules of engagement" or whatnot. (OK, and yes, I just cracked myself up). What do you guys think? Am I insane to make an appointment?

 

[dragonfly411]

I would... I''m drooling over this Casablanca that I"m afraid I''ll never have, and if I don''t I might die. Go try it on and see if you like it! DO IT!

 

[ladypirate]

LOL, Dragonfly--you''re such an enabler!

Maybe I''ll drag my BFF who actually is getting married next year so I don''t feel quite as crazy.

 

[Inanna]

Um yeah, I''d totally DO IT! I''m not sure if it even is against the rules, but rules are meant to be broken. Anyway, in this economy, I think it would be a wise choice.

 

[Dreamgirl]

I know how you feel. There was a Pronovias gown from last season that I was SOOOOO in love with (and still am.)

I say its totally up to you. It sure would be fun! I didn''t go try on my dream gown but that is because I KNOW there isn''t a proposal coming anytime soon. That and I didn''t want to jinx myself or anything. But that''s just me. It would be so much fun though that''s for sure!!

 

[galeteia]

Eh, if your engagement is a question of ''when'' and not ''if'', go ahead and try it on. No sense dreaming about something that doesn''t measure up to reality, so take and look and see if it does measure up to your hopes.

It''s the sensible thing to do.

 

[Sabine]

I would say that you''ll have to be prepared for all the sales associates to be asking you about your wedding etc., and how awkward it might be if you tell the truth, but like others have said, if you are confident that you will be engaged soon, then go for it. I''m a big fan of trying on the things that I love online because unfortunately for me, most of the time they don''t look nearly as good on me, and then I can finally stop obsessing.

 

[FrekeChild]

Do it! But you have to post a picture! (On the model, on you, on a mannequin, whatever!)

We need eye candy, woman! You know this!

 

[gladyskristen]

Oh, do it do it do it!!!

It''ll be so much fun and will probably help your LIWitis for a while...

 

[dcgator]

Hi Lady,

Well, there was a similar post to this a few weeks ago, however, my response will be somewhat different now then before. I was originally not really for it, specifically for the fact that there will be (and were) questions about my ring. Like you, my engagement is coming soon, and we already talk about the impending wedding, so I didn''t really see the harm in trying on dresses. However, I didn''t want to do it before actually having the rock.

That being said, I ended up going to Boston for work, and of course, the meeting conference location was only a few blocks from the famous Priscilla of Boston. So, depsite my ring hesitation, I had to check it out...

. I did get the question about my ring, and I simply answered that it is getting sized, but was able to describe it, since I already know what it is going to look like

. That was the only real question I got at the beginning other than the "when is that wedding," which I already have an idea of as well.

As long as you are prepared for those two questions, then I would say go have fun. I totally understand the rarity of certain dress situations, and sometimes you just can''t find a good enough reason not to take advantage of such situations.

Good luck and have fun!

 

[sunnyd]

You traitors!!!

You all told me to wait!!

So LP, yes, I say go. Go and enjoy. But yes, they do ask about when your wedding is and if you really reallllly like it, they''ll want you to buy it. That was kind of awkward...hahaha.

 

[Pushin40]

Do it! There are no rules! You also don't need to tell the SA the truth about a wedding date or where the ring is. Tell them you just want to look!

I have a question - do you tell SO about going to the trunk show or do you keep that to yourself? Would HE think its weird?

 

[dragonfly411]

Enabling is my specialty! NTM everyone on here does it to me

I wouldn''t tell SO about it if I"m just going to try on btw, only if I bought it

 

[sunnyd]

Date: 10/10/2008 12:28:23 PM
Author: Pushin40
Do it! There are no rules! You also don''t need to tell the SA the truth about a wedding date or where the ring is. Tell them you just want to look!

I have a question - do you tell SO about going to the trunk show or do you keep that to yourself? Would HE think its weird?

Mine didn''t.

 

[Bia]

For the perfect dress rules do not apply.

 

[ladypirate]

LOL, OK guys, I think I''ve decided to go (and yes, Freke, I will post a picture--assuming they let me take one!). When I mentioned it to BF, he looked at me like I was crazy and said "Well, yeah--why wouldn''t you go try it on?" so he''s all for it.

I can probably muster up a RHR to wear on my left hand for the sake of appearances. So at least that will be easy.

Thanks for all the input--I''ll let you guys know when I make the appointment!

 

[Amanda.Rx]

Well, how much dress looking have you done?

If you''ve only skimmed the surface, then you may want to look some more before you decide on THE dress.

However, if you''re the kind of girl that KNOWS what she wants when she sees it, then go for it... as long as it doesn''t freak out your SO.

Who cares about rules- do what makes you happy in life.

 

[mynewobsession]

I say go for it. I''ve been eying a specific dress for about a year now (since I went dress shopping with my friend for her wedding) and was convinced it was THE ONE. Well, I checked in on it the other day and was devestated when I saw that it had been discontinued and no longer available.

That''s the crappy part about dress shopping before actually having the ring...

Good luck! I hope it looks great on you!

 

[FrekeChild]

LP! Did you go?

 

[ckrickett]

OF COURSE!
How much fun would that be.
Even if you''re not going to be dress shopping soon (but I hope you get to dress shop sooner then you think

) It would be great and fun to try it on and/or maybe find something you like better. It''s kinda like ring shopping and trying on different styles to see what you love, you might love something in a picture/on the rack but on it might not be as pretty, then something you might never have thought of catches your eye and you try it on for fun and you fall in love!

I''m guessing you can try on more then one but I say go for it!!

 

[jcarlylew82]

i would say that i am NOT dress shopping before the ring is on my finger. parts of it is becuase i really want my mom and friends to be there. Here is the other part:

I totally want to start looking now (who doesn’t?!?!) and yes, my friend and I have checked out a few styles online. And even though it’s a “When” we get engaged (not an “if”) I would hate (for me) to fall in love with a dress and not be able to wear it 4 years out… hopefully E wont take 4 years to propose, but you never know.

Also, E gets pretty perturbed when I do too much wedding “shopping” and I have to respect his wishes to not get carried away. Thank god for pricescope, or else I would go crazy!!
The other thing is that I am not 100% sure who is paying for what regarding the wedding – I know my parents want to help, but again, we can’t really talk to much about it until there is a ring on my finger.

So if I was shopping on MY budget.. well.. I better start saving every pretty penny now to make a dress in 4 years