WEIRD reply card question

[Independent Gal]

FF and I just got an invitation to my grad school roommate''s wedding (the first piece of mail EVER with both our names on it... how cute). The reply card is really weird and I''m not sure what the etiquette is. I haven''t been to that many weddings, so maybe it''s often like this?

Anyway, it''s a rectangular piece of stock and across the very, very top it says:

"The favor of a reply is requested by the 15th of June, 2007"

...and then the rest of the card is completely blank.

So what do I write? Just ''M and Indy Gal are very pleased to accept your invitation''? Do I make it all formal? Do I specify that we''ll be there for both wedding and reception?

ARGH! Help.

 

[FireGoddess]

I''m totally low key about these things...I''d do something like ''dh and I are coming. Looking forward to it!''

 

[Independent Gal]

Hey, that''s a good idea. Duh! Thanks.

I wrote "Both Indy Gal and M are excited to attend. We''ll be staying the weekend!" [It''s at a resort and maybe they need to know that?].

Done. Phew. Funny how easy it is to get worked up over nothing.

 

[sumbride]

Well done!

This is actually a step past the traditional way to do it which was just to request an RSVP but then put no card of any sort with the invitation. The lady of the house was to write a delightful note on her personal stationery talking about how excited she was to be attending!

Then things got practical and it was "tell us if you''re coming" and then "beef or chicken" and then "email us"...

I''m glad that we have reply cards these days, but I still like a place to leave a little note! The last one I filled out was just a postcard and I had to squeeze in my sentiment on the front, which had a gold embossed cross and made me nervous!

Our RSVP cards are actually folded over so if the want, they can open it up and write a whole lot. Or just fill in names and check a box!

 

[zoebartlett]

I''ve never seen that and if I got a reply card like that it would stump me at first. However, I do kind of think it''s a good idea. I''ve often wanted to write a personal note on reply cards I''ve gotten but there''s not enough room.

 

[cara]

what they said!

miss manners implies there was a time when proper guests were insulted by the reply card as it insinuated that they did not know how to write a proper reply on their own. ha! how times have changed.

 

[NewShiny]

That is exactly the way we set up our reply cards and my mom was mad at first b/c she said no one would know how to reply and it would be so confusing. Then, the replies started coming in. Everyone figured out what they were supposed to do.

Each reply card had really a great personal message and I consider my response cards a wonderful wedding keepsake. I''m so glad I did this despite the initial resistance from my mom. For anyone thinking about this style response card, I highly recommend it!