Weird wedding favour question--which date to put? Help, please!

[gwendolyn]

Hello, all!

Ok, so I am not sure but we might do some favours for our US reception party, as a gesture of thanks for the fact that everyone has to travel to get to us. We don''t have a ton of money for favours, but want to do something nice & edible that people would actually use/enjoy, so we were thinking of maybe sparkling cider in mini bottles.

Anyway, on the labels, it asks for our names and the date. Well, do we put the date of that party, or the date of our actual wedding? Actual wedding was April 16th, but the party is May 30th. Which should it be? The date of the party itself, because that''s what they attended, or the date of the wedding, because that''s what we''re celebrating?

What do you think?

 

[choro72]

Gahaha, we had the same situation with our thank you cards (not favors), but we didn''t think about it...For our Japan thank you cards we printed the Japan wedding date, and for the US thank you cards we printed our US wedding date. Our legal civil ceremony was neither of these dates, so they are both technically untrue anyway.
It made sense for us because we had ceremonies with the vows and everything for both parties. But I think this is what we would have done even if they were only receptions.

 

[gwendolyn]

Yeah, we''re not doing any vows or anything in the US (since that would then count as a ''wedding'' and the costs would have been multiplied by 4). So, just the US reception date then, you think?

 

[onvacation]

Do you need to put on the date? Why not just your names, or with a cute blurb underneath that?

FWIW, I had two ceremonies and a legal one, and I always use the date of the first ceremony, since that was the religious one. For legal purposes I answer the legal date. If you had to put on the date, I would probably go for your first original wedding date. And gorgeous pictures by the way! I didn''t get to reply on your wedding picture thread, but I did look You looked incredibly happy, and it was clear that day was YOURS. So yeah, I vote for that day!

 

[PumpkinPie]

I think either your actual wedding date, or no date at all - but ultimately it probably doesn''t really matter. Anyone important enough to be gifted with a favour will probably understand the situation anyway

 

[doodle]

If the favor is a memento of the celebration being attended, I would use the date the guests were actually there to receive the favor. However, I''m totally with onvacation about substituting the date with something else if you can. Seems you''re getting a wide range of answers!

 

[Rhea]

DH & I did the same thing - UK wedding, US reception with no vow exchange. For favours we used the dates that each party was held. March for one, April for another, rather than the actual wedding date for both.

 

[gwendolyn]

Thanks for your answers, ladies! I guess in a way it''s good that there''s a wide range of replies, since that just seems to prove that there is no right answer! And our guests will understand no matter which we choose to do (if any), so it seems I was probably worrying for nothing.

Thank you again!

 

[iheartscience]

I would do the date of the party since that''s what the favors are for.

 

[katamari]

+ 1 to doodle and thing2. That is what we did, too. The favor, IMO, is for the party not the marriage.

 

[iota15]

The date of the reception - simply because I would find it weird to receive a gift on the date of the celebration for something backdated.

 

[iheartscience]

Date: 5/2/2010 2:17:41 PM
Author: iota15
The date of the reception - simply because I would find it weird to receive a gift on the date of the celebration for something backdated.

Very true. If you do the date you got married it will probably seem like they''re just left over from the wedding. But if you want to incorporate the wedding date, maybe you could do both on the label somehow?

 

[gwendolyn]

I sincerely doubt anyone would think I''d be passing on backdated favours, since to do that I''d need to cart 75-100 mini cider bottles in my luggage from England to America, which would be insane and probably not even possible. So people thinking I''d just passed on the leftovers is not really a concern, although if any of J''s family is coming it probably would be something to worry about. They''d be the only ones looking for a negative spin like that.

Thanks for the input, all. Will definitely keep your thoughts in mind when working on the label.

 

[Clairitek]

I had a similar issue when I did favors for my wedding weekend. We had a small ceremony and reception for our wedding and then a sailboat charter and BBQ at my parents house the next day. Most of the people invited to the party the next day were not invited to the wedding as well. It was more for relatives in the area and family friends. So I didn''t want to put our wedding date on there or the date of the party since these favors were doing double duty. I just put ''Thanks for celebrating with us! Love Clairitek and Mr Clairitek'' on the label so no one would feel weird.

If you MUST put a date, I would put the date of the US party since thats when you will be giving them out.

 

[Mrs Mitchell]

How about something like:

G&J
married on X date and celebrated with you on Y date

If you want to put a date on it - I think just your names would be fine though.