well it didnt happen this weekend

[larussel03]

I was really really hoping that my bf would propose this weekend. I guess it was silly, considering how busy we were preparing for a holiday party we had that included 30 of our friends in our one bedroom apartment (there somehow turned out to be more than enough room though). I just had this fantasy I guess that I'd get to announce our engagement at our party, especially since some of my cousins were there and my parents. Unfortunately it didnt go down that way, but while I'm a little dissapointed I know it'll come eventually (bf doesnt know I thought it'd be this weekend).

Plus one of his rude know it all-ish friends who is in his 30's was trying to "advise" me to "calm down about it b/c they've talked about it bla bla bla" at our party.

First of all, I have not brought it up to bf in probably about 2 months now at all! I admit I was a little bratty at first but i got over the initial impatience when you first start talking about getting engaged (that phase prob lasted a week or two). This guy just loves to tell my bf what he should and shouldnt do, (bf knows to take his freinds advice with a grain of salt) and yes he is a mentor type figure to my bf (they're in the same field, and his name means alot on my bf's grad school applications), but he views me as "definately being in her 20's" and "dont worry they calm down when they get older".

Who is he to judge? Yeah, I'm going to be 25, but I take pride in being financially independant (as I should be) and although I go out alot and go clubbing with my friends, and I do value my friendships, and leaving my friends will be sad if bf gets into grad school far away (his friend sees attachment to girlfriends as an immature thing girls in their 20s feel) I'm not immature and I dont constantly bring up the ering?!?

Sorry had to vent....better here than to the bf

 

[BlingBlingMommy]

I'm sorry he didn't propose this weekend...hopefully he'll do it soon! It sounds like his friend should keep his thoughts and advice to himself....

 

[Kaleigh]

Oh that''s a bummer. Hopefully it will happen very soon. His friend should keep his nose out of your relationship. I''m sure he means well, but he is part of the peanut gallery at this point. Sounds like your BF takes him with a grain of salt as you said. Hang in there!!!

 

[anchor31]

I''m sorry to hear that Sweetpea...

I know how frustrating it is to be given "advice" about things they know nothing about, and I despise being patronised. Yes, you are young (which is a very relative concept anyway...), but you have the right to your own feelings and no one should be dismissing them because of your age! A lot of "older people" think they know better, but I''m not sure they really do...

 

[appletini]

sweetpea...cheer up...if my Fiance had proposed way before he did, I wouldn''t have the beautiful ring that I have now. When it happens it will definitely be worth the wait. I know its hard to hear that, but trust me...for the longest time I was so afraid that it was never going to happen. Looking back I was so worried over nothing.

 

[SoonIHope]

Ohhh, Sweetpea, I''m so sorry to hear that! I had a similar situation for Thanksgiving weekend, when I thought it would be so perfect if he proposed before then since we were flying down to visit all my friends and family for the weekend, but of course it didn''t happen, and he had no idea I had even thought that. It is disappointing, but just try to remember what appletini said, it''ll be worth the wait when it happens!! Also, I try to focus my anticipation on the feeling of getting engaged, because that way I won''t be disappointed by any of the actual little details of how/when it happens, because I know I''ll still feel excited in general no matter what!

And as for your boyfriend''s friend...EW!

So sorry you have to put up with him. At least your boyfriend doesn''t take him seriously!!! But HOW exactly is attachment to your SO an immature 20s thing??? Do married people just not care if they live in different parts of the country??????

But best of luck on it happening SOON and being perfect!!!!!

[and on not having to listen to that friend anymore...]

 

[bookworm21]

I''m sorry, Sweetpea. It will happen soon. And don''t pay attention to that nosy friend; everyone has one of those friends who think they know everything. Just brush him off your shoulder like dandruff. Annoying, unsightly, but easily brushed off.

 

[FireGoddess]

Fingers crossed that it will happen soon sweetpea! It''s hard to want something and think it might come a certain day only to see that it doesn''t. Your BF''s dumbass friend probably thought he was helping by telling you not to worry, that your BF has discussed it and it is going to happen, but...they just don''t get it. How would he know if you''ve been calmed down about it or not? Whatever. Just forget that idiot, but know he probably meant it to make you feel better in a dumb sort of way.