Went to a wedding yesterday....

[therighttime]

My boyfriend has always enjoyed photography, and recently started doing some small weddings for friends and relatives. Yesterday he did his first wedding for someone through a referral. I help out by taking some candid shots, holding the reflector, making sure all the requested formals are taken, etc. It was such a sweet wedding!!! Outdoors at a home... only about 50 people.... and the couple looked SO happy. The wedding was personalized in small ways that made it unique.
So... it made me depressed. ugh! All these thoughts of why am I not the one getting married? why does he love her enough to marry her, but my bf doesn''t love me that much? When is it my turn?

I couldn''t help but plan my nonexistent wedding on the way home since I was in the wedding mood. I also couldn''t help but being tired of this LIW status. I posted on LIW that my bf called my dad on August 7th (yep I know the exact day) and asked for his blessing. Then he also told my mom at dinner (my parents are divorced... my mom lives close by, my dad doesn''t.) So, since August 7th I have been very antsy wondering when it''s going to happen! My mom is even getting curious now, wondering if he has changed his mind! They are very close, and actually knew each other long before I knew bf. She said she is going to call him and ask what the hold up is!!! ugh!!!

My bf told me that I needed to be patient and that ''good things come to those who wait.'' I guess I better get used to being around all these happy couples and great weddings if I''m going to be helping him out with his photography. Still... it hurts, so I thought I''d share that with those of you here who can understand!

Thanks for listening.... sending lots of sparkly vibes to all !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

 

[Curls]

From the sounds of it, you don''t have too much longer to wait, with the preparations you know he''s making. He''s probably holding off so you''ll either be surprised or so he can plan out all the details. Just try to focus on that and how he''s trying to make it special and not how others are getting married before you. I know it''s hard though.

Oh, and it''s ok to plan a little of your "nonexistent wedding". I do.

 

[firebirdgold]

Heh, I had like 9 different types of weddings planned out before hand. Oregon Coast, Local, San diego, Carmel, Winter, Spring, Early Summer, Late Summer, Big, small, really small, etc... oddly though, it''s been three months and we still don''t have anything final other than the date!

Go right ahead... just don''t let him catch you at it! Mine recently found a stack of bridal **** from december and was horrified!

 

[moremoremore]

I'm sure it is very frustrating for you...my only 2 cents is to NOT have you mom get involved....She should stay out of it e/t they are close...he will do it in his own time I'm sure since he already went to the trouble of asking her for her blessing. It may be innocent enough, but I wouldn't put any more pressure on him since he already told you that good things come to those who wait... That's just me.

 

[KimberlyH]

It sounds to me as though it''s matter of when, not if. So go ahead and plan in your head, but don''t pressure him or you may cause it to take longer, or perhaps even question whether or not he wants to marry someone who already knows it''s going to happen but can''t just wait a bit longer until whatever he has planned in his head can be put into effect. He sounds like a thoughtful guy, both you and your mom need to give him the benefit of the doubt and let him do his thing. I know, I know, easier said than done...but try and distract yourself.

And as MMM said, do NOT let your mom call him...you are adults making an adult decision to get married, this is when she needs to step back and let you be a couple.

Good luck and happy secret planning!