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squeaksluv

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Okay, I just have to vent.

For those of you who don''t know my story here it is in a nutshell. My FI and I recently broke off our engagement although it was an amicable split. Since then I''ve become great friends with his best friend, "J", although we''ve always been good friends (we knew each other in college). He was engaged to a girl (a real beotch) whom he broke up with a couple of months ago. He lived with my exFI and I for a bit until she moved out of his place last weekend (finally).

So here is why I need to vent!

"J" and I were out with friends at a bar with some friends and I had to go pee really badly. Unfortunately the line to the woman''s bathroom was so long I was ready to pee in my pants. Since J lives around there he said why don''t we go back to his place so I can pee. So we''re in his apartment and when I came out of the bathroom he had two cocktails mixed up so we decided to drink them since the line at the bar was also 10 people deep. We''re having a good time listening to some tunes and finishing our drinks so we can go back to the bar. I''m sorta lying next to him on the couch as we''re talking about really deep stuff (my break up, his break up, etc.) when we heard his front door open and who walks in but his exFI!!! Now keep in mind this chick was always jealous of me and acted very nasty torwards me. So she walks in and takes one look at us cozying up on the couch and says to me "what in the h*ll are you doing here" in the nastiest voice possible. J looks at her and says "nevermind what she''s doing here but what in the h*ll are YOU doing here and where did you get that key". She of course gets all beotchy and they start fighting. I''m standing there not quite knowing what to do. She then accuses us of breaking up our engagements so we can be together which is a total lie. J demands the copy of the key she made and she throws it at us and storms out. J and I laugh it off and go back to the bar thinking what a beotch she really is.

So the next day I get a call from one of my best friends and she said she thought I should know that there is a rumor going around (started by the beotch) that J and I are together which is why we broke off our engagements. My friend knows it isn''t true but she wanted me to know so I should call my exFI before the rumor gets back to him because it could really hurt him. I call him and he''s really cool about it and says not to worry because he knows what beotch she is and even if we did like each other he knows our respective breakups had nothing to do with each other (huh??). I feel like saying something to her but not sure if I should just leave it. She makes me soooooooooooo mad!
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Wow! Now THAT''S drama!!! I''m glad that your friend broke it off with her because he does NOT need that in life! And I''m glad your ex-fi has a good enough head on his shoulders to not believe any potential rumors.

My BF and I have something we say when stuff like this happens.... "I hate people sometimes."

Tell the guy he might want to go ahead and change the locks!
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Ditto, Sum!
 
Hey squeaks,

It sounds like you are doing well, aside from this drama, so happy to hear it.

Do not confront this girl, it will only add fuel to the proverbial fire and cause more problems. Ignore her and continue to take care of you, that''s the most important thing you can do.
 
Oh boy. I wouldn''t do anything about the rumor - ''cause, *gasp* you MIGHT END UP WITH J. Even though you both know that wasn''t why your relationships broke up ... it seems like you guys are very good friends and that CAN develop into something else.

You know that old expression "thou dost protest too much" ... don''t. Don''t protest too much. It''ll only end up making things look "fishier", IMO.

YIKES. DRAMA. Hang in, gal. Things''ll smooth out soon!
 
My thoughts, too Deco - on both points!!!
 
Thanks, you guys are right. I needed to calm down and breathe deep (as well as listening to your sound advice) before I say something I''ll regret. I just can''t believe she can be so nasty. Nobody in their right mind believes her for they all know J and I, but for her to try and start something going is just beyond mean and wrong.

As for J, he just wrote it off as to how lucky he is he got out of it. He thinks it''s funny while I''m just pissed!

My friend Jenna called me today because she too heard the rumor and wanted to know the deal. She was one of my friends who was really upset that my FI and I called it quits. I told her that J and I are really just good friends but she seemed a bit skeptical. I kept trying to explain to her our friendship and she said wouldn''t be surprised if we ended up together. I left it alone because as you said decodelighted ""thou dost protest too much"!!!!!!
 
Date: 7/27/2006 4:46:48 PM
Author: squeaksluv

My friend Jenna called me today because she too heard the rumor and wanted to know the deal. She was one of my friends who was really upset that my FI and I called it quits. I told her that J and I are really just good friends but she seemed a bit skeptical. I kept trying to explain to her our friendship and she said wouldn''t be surprised if we ended up together. I left it alone because as you said decodelighted ''''thou dost protest too much''!!!!!!

Stranger things have happened... good friends can always become something more... but it''s not why the two relationships ended. If you two do end up together, this will make a great story to tell your kids!
 
Date: 7/27/2006 4:46:48 PM
Author: squeaksluv
Thanks, you guys are right. I needed to calm down and breathe deep (as well as listening to your sound advice) before I say something I''ll regret. I just can''t believe she can be so nasty. Nobody in their right mind believes her for they all know J and I, but for her to try and start something going is just beyond mean and wrong.

As for J, he just wrote it off as to how lucky he is he got out of it. He thinks it''s funny while I''m just pissed!

My friend Jenna called me today because she too heard the rumor and wanted to know the deal. She was one of my friends who was really upset that my FI and I called it quits. I told her that J and I are really just good friends but she seemed a bit skeptical. I kept trying to explain to her our friendship and she said wouldn''t be surprised if we ended up together. I left it alone because as you said decodelighted ''''thou dost protest too much''!!!!!!
I totally agree with Deco. You remind me of my cousin...we affectionately called her "The Queen of Denial". She always said "we''re just friends" but it ALWAYS ended up being more than that. At the very least, the guy ended up wanting to be more than friends, and we always told her not to mess around with guys hearts as she did.

BTW, I don''t mean you remind me of her re: the messing around with guys'' hearts part...just the denial thing.
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I remember your other threads about Ms. Evil and I always had a feeling that she wouldn''t go away queitly (kind of like the Glenn Close character in the film "Fatal Attraction"). Next time she drops in on you and J and asks what you''re doing there, tell her you were invited and she wasn''t.
 
Wow, that girl has some major issues. We''ve got our own daily soap opera right here on PS, LOL. And I agree with Deco, protest too much, and others may think that there really is something going on. And also agree on the point about friendship developing into something more.

And I also agree with Madam Bijoux, tell her she''s not invited and have your friend tell her to get lost and change the locks immediately!

What was she doing there, by the way? Did you guys ever find out? Sorry, just curious.
 
Eck, I hope you don''t have to cross paths with *her* again anytime soon. Makes me wonder what has made her so gloomy, desperate, and well, quick to pass judgment on situations she''s not involved in.

Good luck in keeping away from her!
 
WHOA
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about the "beotch" not your situation. But she''s got issues and its not worth giving her any validation by trying to defend yourself for having done NOTHING wrong.

And say, hypothetically, you and J do end up together. So what? Your relationships were flawed for their own reasons. If the timing was right then..oh well. It''s none of anyone''s business but yours.
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I''ve said it before and I''ll say it again, you and J definitely have a connection. I think he was trying to set the mood with the cocktails and his ex rudely interrupted his plans.

Also I wonder how many times the ex has snuck into his place while he''s gone. And wow it took her a really, really long time to move out. i think he should get the locks changed, she might have more keys.

And everyone knows what a looney she is anyway, so I don''t think you need to say anything, obviously no one would believe her, and if it were true, I''m sure y''all would make a much better couple anyway.
 
I think the same about the connection appletini. I cant believe that the exFI had copied a key to his apartment-how weird is that. What a psycho
 
You guys are right on the money about her being wacko. She ''claimed'' to have left some cd''s there and conveniently thought he was out of town. My guess is she knew he was down at the bars with friends as someone might have mentioned it and she wanted to sneak into his place, for what I don''t know though. J called last night and said he didn''t see any cd''s of hers laying around and was thinking she was snooping. I told him to change his locks and he said he might just have to do that. He also told the doormen to NOT let her up anymore unless they call up first! This time she said she was expected and they let her go up. We couldn''t believe it when she finally moved out. I think J was feeling a little odd staying at my exFIs, especially since we were talking all of the time. I''d call on his cell and my ex would be sitting right there. My ex and I only talk once a other week or so but I talk to J all of the time. I wonder if he knows we''re such good friends?? I would love to know if he''s dating anyone but I don''t want to ask J and put him on the spot like that.

Madam Bijoux, OMG you are so right!!!! she IS like Glenn Close in Fatal Attraction!! That is so funny because she even looks like her. One time a bunch of us were hanging out at my exFI''s apartment (when we were still together) and that movie came on. Psycho said that her ex boyfriend said she looked like Glenn Close and we all looked at her and said wow, you''re right!!! She was pissed at that because she doesn''t think she looks anything like her.

TravelingGal, no offense taken! If anything, I''m the one who gets my heart broken! Once, when I was living in Boston, this one guy I was dating took me out to a really nice restaurant just to break up with me! We had been dating for a year and he just ''wasn''t into me anymore and that he wanted to see other people''. What was awful is that we worked together so I had to see him everyday. It didn''t take me long to get over him though since there were so many other cute guys at the company!!!
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fisherofmengirly, she is not someone I''d want to run into in a dark alley at midnight that''s for sure!

appletini, Jenna mentioned that she thought he had ulterior movtives too but I don''t know. He had at least an hour to make his move while we were hanging out on the couch (I''m a slow drinker!) but all he did was lounge with me. It''s funny though I was talking to a coworker about him and she said I talk about him all of the time like he''s my boyfriend. It made me step back and think wow, I really do. It''s because we hang out a lot together and lately not a day goes by where we don''t talk at least twice. He always calls me in the morning to see how my night was if I was out the night before and usually at night to say goodnight. The weird thing is that he told me he met his old girlfriend (not psycho but this girl he dated a long long time ago) for drinks and I actually was a little jealous! WEIRD!
 
I agree with Deco...first, she is trouble and it really does not matter what you say or not, she is nasty and jealous and will make issues regardless. Do not give it the time or breath, it is a waste. Second, I think "J" cares about you. I do not think he broke up with her for you, or that you and your guy ended because of him. BUT, maybe he cares for you and knew he could not be with HER and have those feelings for YOU. I take this as likely because he made that comment to you about "even if we end up together" so I have a sense he cares for you and is giving it time and space to develop naturally. She is clearly odd, using a key to just show up at his place is off kilter to me...and I would change the locks even if she handed the key over.
 
hunney he has designs on you!
 
If you have nothing to defend, defend nothing! Seriously though, tell J to change those locks ASAP.
 
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