What are you looking forward to?

[CNYHopeful]

I''m just in a really sentimental mood today. My best friend was sharing with me how there are certain aspects of her relationship with her DH that she didn''t expect to see when they got married, and how blessed they''ve been to deepen their bond in such a way that she couldn''t have even dreamed of. I''ve heard a lot of people complain about the problems they encountered after getting married, so it got me thinking about the things that I''m most looking forward to in marriage. (Those who are already married can feel free to share):

*What are your favorite qualities in your spouse/FI?
*Are there any particular aspects of the wedding that he has/is planning that are a unique expression of his love for you?
*What are you most looking forward to share together as a married couple? If you''re already married, what pleasant surprises have you experienced in marriage?

 

[laughwithme]

Aww what a sweet thread!!

My favorite qualities in FI....his patience. He''s young at heart. He is so LOYAL to me. He always keeps me guessing and on my toes. He encourages me to be a better person. He''s hilarious. He will make an in-cred-i-ble father. He is an amazing kisser, and gives me massages anytime I ask

I am quite spoiled!

In terms of planning the wedding....we are only a month into planning so I can''t say he''s taken control of one particular meaningful area...though is he way more involved/curious/opinionated than I ever dreamed him to be!

I am most looking forward to....just having fun, as best friends, with whatever life throws at us. Buying a home, taking weekend getaways, weekend breakfasts at our favorite place...just being together through both big and small events - making each other laugh, learning more about one another every single day...just everything.

Ah, listen to me! Now I''m getting all sappy

 

[CNYHopeful]

Thank you for your post, laughwithme! Sounds very sweet.
I guess I''ll take a stab at my own questions-

*What are your favorite qualities in your spouse/FI? - FI''s character, honesty, passions, humor, and dedication. He is truly a family man and complements my strengths and weaknesses so well. He is a spiritual and sentimental man. He is bold and he believes in me more than I believe in myself. He will make an outstanding father some day.

*Are there any particular aspects of the wedding that he has/is planning that are a unique expression of his love for you? We''re still far away from the actual wedding day, but he wants seranade me, singing "Ave Maria" while I process down the aisle.

*What are you most looking forward to share together as a married couple? If you''re already married, what pleasant surprises have you experienced in marriage? - I cannot wait to be legally, emotionally, intellectually, spirituall, emotionally bonded with FI for life. I look forward to waking up next to him for the very first time (we don''t live together). I llook forward to sharing the normal, busy, hectic, crazy, challenging, days where we don''t have to wait until we see each other over the weekend to just enjoy each other''s company. I look forward to seeing the years go by as his wife, and intimately learning about his person even more than we already know each other now. Sharing a life together will mean so much more when we''re actually entered into it, the give and take of the demands of marriage and seeing us draw closer in ways I can''t even imagine right now.

 

[sunnyd]

1. My favorite qualities are definitely his sense of humor. He cracks me up even when I''m pissed off at him. I also love that he''s talkative. I''m the quieter one usually, but when we talk, we talk for hours!! He''s also a family man, see #3.

2. He''s surprising me on this. Things that I''ll just do because I don''t think he''ll care, he''ll suddenly have an opinion on. I''d love for him to serenade me, that would be the sweetest thing, especially since he''s an amazing singer.

3. Having kids. Watching him with other kids turns me to mush. And the moms of the kids he plays with love him. He''s like the cool guy that all the kids want to play with. Hahaha, I can''t wait.

 

[SassyB]

I want to play - love this thread!!

*What are your favorite qualities in your spouse/FI?
He is so funny/silly and can always make me laugh - even when I don''t want to I can take him anywhere and not worry that he isn''t having fun - cause he always makes a friend! He is good with his money and I like learning from him on that one. He is a responsible and hard worker at home and at his job. Loyale to all around him and trustworthy.........AND he''s HOT!

*Are there any particular aspects of the wedding that he has/is planning that are a unique expression of his love for you?
He is very traditional and wanted to make sure he paid for the rehearsal dinner. He chose the place and booked it. Like some of you other ladies, I''m VERY surprised by the amount of opinions/feelings he has for certain areas of the big day! Sometimes I like that and others.....well other times I don''t


*What are you most looking forward to share together as a married couple? If you''re already married, what pleasant surprises have you experienced in marriage?
I look forward to years of adventure. Working thru ups and downs - and hoping for more ups than downs We want to start a family right away too!! Neither of us have been married, we don''t have kids and we are not super young! We were both very picky....heehee!!
I LOVE waking up next to him, especially on the weekends when we can be lazy.

 

[PilsnPinkysMom]

1) I love that he is perfect for me

He makes me laugh all the time, even if I''m furious about something/angry at him. He''s the "chill" to my "wound up." His love for his family- he never, ever argues with siblings/parents. His love of our fur-babies! That he breaks out in random dance sessions all the time

That he is protective of me, provides for me, and always wants the best for me. His love of the outdoors, adventure, camping, hiking, etc. That he goes shopping with me and helps me pick stuff out

That he is always "up to something"... which, right now, is buying a new SUV.

Six months before the wedding. Haha... frustrating, but I love it. He keeps me on my toes. That he is HARD WORKING and HANDY!

2) He hasn''t chosen any one project, but he has helped with a lot of things. He cares a lot about our music selections. He was picky about photographers... And... Picky about our venue. Recently I tried to change my processional/walk down the isle, and he is Not. Having. It. :sigh:

3) Fixing up our first home together

Raising a puppy, haha... Going on walks and runs together for the rest of our lives. Waking up on Sundays and making each other breakfast for the next 50 years. Starting our family. Traveling, learning, growing together. I am so excited for all that is to come, and while I know there are always ups-and-downs of marriage, I feel no nervousness and dread right now. I feel like we''ll conquer all

 

[MonkeyPants]

Date: 6/4/2009 10:07:08 PM
Author:CNYHopeful
I''m just in a really sentimental mood today. My best friend was sharing with me how there are certain aspects of her relationship with her DH that she didn''t expect to see when they got married, and how blessed they''ve been to deepen their bond in such a way that she couldn''t have even dreamed of. I''ve heard a lot of people complain about the problems they encountered after getting married, so it got me thinking about the things that I''m most looking forward to in marriage. (Those who are already married can feel free to share):


*What are your favorite qualities in your spouse/FI?

*Are there any particular aspects of the wedding that he has/is planning that are a unique expression of his love for you?

*What are you most looking forward to share together as a married couple? If you''re already married, what pleasant surprises have you experienced in marriage?

So sweet!!!

1) He loves ME! haha...umm...He is incredibly patient and flexible and tries so hard to make me happy
2) We''re just in the beginning stages of planning so I guess I''ll find out!
3) BABIES! and we also laugh a lot together so I''m hoping we continue to share lots of laughs! Oh and also a comforter. Right now we live together, but we don''t share the same comforter because we both "burrito." I''m hoping when we''re married we can learn to share

 

[Lilac]

I love sentimental questions like this

*What are your favorite qualities in your spouse/FI?
My DH is amazingly supportive, so sweet and kind to me, protective, funny, and always knows exactly how to make me smile. He''s so loving and generous and caring and I know one day he will make an amazing father.

*Are there any particular aspects of the wedding that he has/is planning that are a unique expression of his love for you?
He did a few things at the wedding just for me, mostly when we were alone together though - he gave me a very long letter he had written for me just before the ceremony (and I was able to read it right before walking down the aisle) - that was a complete surprise and so incredible to be able to read his loving words and his hopes and dreams for us and our life together right before we actually got married.

*What are you most looking forward to share together as a married couple? If you''re already married, what pleasant surprises have you experienced in marriage?
Marriage has been amazing. Incredible. Without a doubt the best thing I have ever done in my entire life. I love my husband with all my heart and being married to him makes me feel like the luckiest and happiest girl in the world every single day. Yes, we have our good days and not-as-good days where we may argue, but even those not-as-good days are better than they ever were before the wedding! We never lived together before the wedding (we also abstained before the wedding and had never been with anyone else either) so getting married opened up so many new and incredible doors for us. Living together has been amazing and just everything in general has deepened our bond and our connection to each other. We just took our first vacation together and it was SO much fun! Falling asleep together every night and waking up next to each other every morning and being able to come home to each other from work and school every evening and being able to spend the weekends with each other has been even better than I ever could have imagined. Even now - almost 4 months after our wedding - DH and I still turn to each other multiple times a week and say "I LOVE being married to you!!!" It''s like a sleepover with my best friend every single day and night. It''s really amazing.

In case you can''t tell, I love my husband and I love being married.

 

[merrymunky]

*What are your favorite qualities in your spouse/FI? - His sense of humour. It is very offbeat. He is more about word play than crass jokes. We have a lot of injokes that no one else seem to get. It''s like we have our own language. We will be laughing like idiots about something that might not seem funny to other people, but we know exactly what we mean. He is very spontaneously funny. He is generous, but fair. I sometimes feel spoiled by him, but I appreciate it when I am. I don''t take it for granted. He does not judge people. I love this in him because most guys his age would rip me to shreds for my appearance (I am very large) but he sees me for me, not my weight. He is tolerant, which is also great because I am moody and temperamental. He has a huge love for nature and the environment. He is very passionate about his beliefs and hates to see people destroying the world. He has a young outlook on life. He is 32, but, like me he retains his youthful outlook on life. He is courteous, well mannered and kind. I could go on for hours. I could probably go on for hours about all the things that annoy me about him too. It makes for an interesting partner though.


*Are there any particular aspects of the wedding that he has/is planning that are a unique expression of his love for you? - It is kind of a joint venture, but I suggested to him trying to find a classical instrumental version of one of our favourite band''s songs to play for the ceremony. He immediately got online and located LOADS of string quartet tributes. He acquired about 6 albums worth and in it we found the perfect song. It is actually more one of MY favourite bands than his, but he loves it too and wants it. He also went through our own musical collection to find an appropriate song for the end of the ceremony. It''s so fitting an upbeat. I love it. It will make people say "That is SO typically them!"


*What are you most looking forward to share together as a married couple? - A deeper loves that carries on beyond what we have now. I look forward to buying our first house and decorating it to our tastes rather than all these rented accommodations we cannot make our own. I really hope we can then get our first dog and enjoy taking it out together for walks. The biggest thing I am anticipating is hopefully having children. I look forward to many more years of laughter and silliness. I look forward to long walks round all our favourite locations (we are lucky enough to live in an area surrounded by natural beauty, so many places still to visit). I''m just looking forward to life in general with him. The last 7 years has had its ups and downs and we have always got through whatever has been thrust our way, I''m sure we can continue on to live a long, happy life together.