what do you guys think (last minute invites)

[janinegirly]

so it's 5 days before my wedding and my mom says she wish she had invited 2 more friends who are part of her group of friends. She said she didn't invite them b/c i wanted to keep the numbers down (she invited 6 which meant 12 more heads).

Now she says she feels bad and they might not be happy with her so can she mention to them that she only didn't invite them b/c of the restriction on numbers and they can come if they'd like. the reason she's thinking of this now is b/c one of the friends in the "group" sent an email to everyone (including the 2 non-invited) and said see you saturday.

what do you guys think? i don't want my mom to feel like an outcast among her friends, but it's 5 days before and i'm not so sure they'd be so thrilled with this random verbal invite.
i told her to leave it alone, it's too late, things are done. but of course i feel guilty..

 

[sumbride]

Do you have room for them now? In the venue? In the budget? If yes, and if you really don''t mind, I doubt they would be upset by the verbal invite IF they are truly your mom''s CLOSE friends. If they are just random people, then don''t bother, but as long as you have the space and it would make her happy, I think it would be ok.

In the end, it is of course, YOUR decision!

 

[NewEnglandLady]

Hey, Janine,

We verbally invited a couple of people last week as well. I know Emily Post wold tssk at me, but they completely understood and appreciated the invite, anyway. They ended up not being able to come, but I''m glad I extended the invite, even if it wasn''t in the most formal way. I think that if it''s important to your mom for them to be invited and it''s not going to be a headache for you, then go ahead and extend the invite. I think anybody who genuinely wanted to come wouldn''t be upset they didn''t get a formal invite.

 

[aljdewey]

If she wants to extend the verbal invite, and you''re ok with them coming, I think it''s fine.

She could easily say "I couldn''t invite everyone I initially wanted due to space restrictions, but but there''s been a cancellation that would allow us to invite someone we wished we''d been able to if seat space hadn''t been an issue. I''d love for you to join us if you''d like to."

Most folks have been through the wedding budget/space hustle at some point, so most folks understand and don''t get offended.

 

[Haven]

I agree that you should invite them if you are comfortable with that, and if your budget allows. I''m a die-hard Emily Post devotee, and I believe Ms. Post would agree that a sincere verbal invite shortly before the wedding is absolutely fine if you make it clear to the guests that you truly want them to attend. I''m sure if they are reasonable people they will; be thrilled to get an invite, verbal or engraved, and they''ll understand that budgetary restrictions were most likely the reason they were not originally invited.

 

[Jas12]

My mom did the exact same thing to me and I ended up having to make some silly excuse as to why i didn''t invite them earlier--. I second what others are saying. If it is fine with you, go ahead. Chances are they will already have plans.

Oh and just make sure you can add extras to your venue--some caterers have dealines on when extra ppl can be added