What do you love about your SO?

[Quinnie]

Okay, since I''m feeling especially emotional and lovey-dovey right now I thought I would pose this question: What makes your SO special to you / your favorite things about them?

Last night I forced BF to watch "Under the Tuscan Sun" with me (adorable movie, BTW!) and he started tearing up over a scene where an old man walks down a long dirt road every single day to bring fresh flowers to honor his dead wife. He also cried during the last scene of "Forrest Gump" when Forrest is reading the note at Jenny''s grave. I asked him why he cries at scenes like this and he said that that kind of love hits home with him because that''s the way he loves me! (I started crying at that answer

) I absolutely love this about BF! He''s such a gruff and goofy guy, and that he cries at heart-wrenching love scenes makes me melt.

...Just one of the cutest things about the love of my life. Thanks for letting me share, and I can''t wait to hear yours!

-Quinnie

 

[rubybeth]

Aww, that''s sooo cute, Quinnie! My guy isn''t the tough type, but it touches my heart an awful lot when he tears up at movies (last night it was "It''s A Wonderful Life," which he had never seen before, the shame!).

Some of my favorite things about S are that he''s a wonderful listener, and he knows how to make me feel better when I''m anxious. He calls me his "cuddlebug," since I guess I''m pretty into the love language of touch.

I get lots of little shoulder massages, hand-holding, etc. which makes me feel very cherished. I''ve also got him hooked on my nerdy PBS mysteries that I love to watch, and so now he''s asking me, when we have a free evening, "Can we watch another episode of Poirot?" It''s so great to be able to share something I thought I would end up watching alone as an old maid.

 

[Aloros]

He''s my biggest cheerleader. I always know he''s behind me, 100%, and he is so encouraging. He is so generous - and he doesn''t expect anything in return.

When I''m feeling down, he always knows how to cheer me up - whether it be with a silly text message, or a nice, big hug.

He''s always doing little things that show me that he''s been thinking of me. I''m not into flowers or chocolates - he brings me home books, fancy cheese, and cute little stuffed animals (to keep me company in my lonely office cube!).

He has never been ashamed or embarrassed by how much he loves me, not even in front of the "guys".

He is extremely appreciative, and never leaves me feeling undervalued.

In short, he''s the sort of guy who sits down with your mother and aunt, and spends an hour helping them put together boutonnieres for a wedding, while everyone else is in the next room playing games.

Just a few of the things I love about him

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[sandia_rose]

Date: 12/24/2007 9:02:18 AM
Author:Quinnie
Okay, since I''m feeling especially emotional and lovey-dovey right now I thought I would pose this question: What makes your SO special to you / your favorite things about them?

You''re having a lovey-dovey day? Well, then, Sister...come on over here and gimme a high-five! Christmas and New Year''s always do that to me!

My boyfriend is the kind of man I should have married and had my son with instead of my ex.

He''s physically gorgeous, an amazing lover and a talented musician, but those are not the huge things. What I keep going back to is his sense of responsibility and integrety. He''s raised two teenagers single-handedly (his ex has substance and other issues and doesn''t want to be involved unless convenient for her, which is pretty much never) for the past 4 years....one of which has severe psychological and behavioral problems. He NEVER complains, never loses his temper when his daughter flips out - just does what he has to do. For his daughter, he will make appointments with the school and her doctor/therapist to talk and discuss her life, because he sincerely wants to do what he can to make sure she works through her problems and grows up normal. He goes to every PTA meeting and open house, even if he has to cancel work to do it. I have a 7 year old son, and he treats my son as if he were his own child. He and I will take out kids out together, and he''s never treated my son any differently than his own kids. My son''s father is emotionally cold and not the type of guy who remembers being a little boy, so looking back on it, my son was eager to bond with an adult male when I started dating my boyfriend. What''s really funny to me is when we go to dinner with, say, people he knows. He talks about my son with the same pride and amusement as he might his own kid. He tells people all the time, "I love that little dude. He''s an incredible kid."

For a single guy, he keeps a neat, clean, comfy house and makes sure he gets a home-cooked dinner on the table for the kids at least 4x a week (and prior to getting divorced, he tells me that all he cooked was microwave pizza). He has his own construction business and hustles like a madman to get business and build clients, because even though he has enough to fill his present needs, he''s already thinking about retirement. He''s an almost 50 year old man doing a 20 year old''s physical-type job and I know he aches all over at the end of each day. Again, never complains about it.

His 80+ year old mother had cancer years back and now it''s returned with a vengence. She''s terminal at this point, is in pain all the time and will not live to see summer. She''s stated that she doesn''t want to go to a hospice or a home and wants to stay in her own place. My boyfriend is an only child and his father is gone, so taking care of her is on his shoulders. No matter what she asks of him or needs, he''s there for her. Lately, the combo of her cancer invading her brain stem and her pain meds have made her confused and emotionally weird - conversations with her can be hard - and he never loses his patience with her or breaks down. He will joke with her and pretend as if nothing is really wrong -- and you can see her emotional state lightening up.

He loves animals - all kinds - and it''s great to see him horsing around with neighbor''s or friend''s dogs or cuddling his own cats. He''s a very, very large man - 6''6" and about 310# - and I have some great photos of him and his cats when they were teeny tiny (see below). And he has a childlike sense about him. He''s obviously an adult but never lost his sense of fun.

And being that my boyfriend is such a big guy - a foot taller than me and twice my weight - he is great to cuddle up with at night. He''s a touchy-feely kind of guy, so if I sit next to him, I have an arm around me, or he pulls me into his lap. When I am in my own apartment and have to sleep and watch TV alone, I miss him.

The last thing I love about my boyfriend is that he makes me feel like the only woman in the world. He tells me I am beautiful and appreciates me for who I am, not who he might want me to be. He''s appreciative of my being in his life and tells me often. My best friend, who lives in another state and who has family down here, was visiting me over the weekend as part of her holiday travels. We were talking about going out for New Year''s Eve and I was mentioning a dress I was going to wear, and he said, right in front of my friend, "You gotta see her in this dress. I NEVER saw a woman wear an evening dress like Bridget does. When she last wore it, I almost went out of my mind looking at her. She was stunning. What she was doing with me, I dunno, but I was pretty proud to be there with her." He has no problem telling people - anyone - what he thinks about me and how he feels.

I would marry that man IN A SECOND if he asked me.

Bridget in Connecticut.

 

[sandia_rose]

style="WIDTH: 99%; HEIGHT: 99px">Date: 12/24/2007 12:41:56 PM
Author: sandia_rose

Date: 12/24/2007 9:02:18 AM
Author:Quinnie
Okay, since I''m feeling especially emotional and lovey-dovey right now I thought I would pose this question: What makes your SO special to you / your favorite things about them?

Oh...and one more thing I wanted to add, but this system doesn''t want to let me add more than one pic:

His band played out Saturday night, and he just has so much fun with it - it''s great to watch someone having a blast like that (see below - he is the guy in the Santa hat on the left). Something about being onstage and putting a microphone in his hand makes the kid in him come out. Not all guys - especially responsible men with their own business - can put aside taking themseves too seriously and just have fun. Music is his passion, and I love that he has that passion for something besides work and other people.

Bridget in Connecticut.

 

[Smurfysmiles]

I love that he brought me flowers on friday when i graduated and kept on telling me how proud he is of me

the other night i wasnt feeling good and he went out in a blizzard to get me some nyquil (seriously...a blizzard, i DO live in fargo)

and he treats my nephews and nieces as if they were his own

 

[FrekeChild]

I love that he is always considerate of me and my feelings. And my need to sleep at least 8 hours every night.

For instance, we were up until almost 3:30 this morning and so we decided to sleep in today, but his sister called and wanted to talk to him for almost an hour, so he stayed in bed with me for a bit talking to her, and then went into the living room so I could sleep more. Finally when they got off the phone, at around 9:40 he got ready and decided to go out and buy stocking stuffers. He came into the bedroom, woke me up to let me know he was going out. He HATES buying groceries, but he went out and bought food for dinner tonight and he brought home snow peas-one of my favorite foods, and something he won''t touch with a 10 foot pole. It was so sweet to wake up to him coming in, and saying, "Guess what I bought for you! You''ll never guess!" excited like a little kid. And he was right, I would never have guessed. But the best part is, now I don''t have to worry about what to do for dinner.

I also love that he does his very best to surprise me. I have three gifts under the tree right now, and I have absolutely no idea what any of them are, because he''s wrapped them up in boxes that are too big.

I love how he goes out of his way to do nice things for me. And I love that he loves me for me and wouldn''t change a thing even if he could.

 

[princesss]

Ooooh, boy, I''ll try not to write a novel.

I love his sense of humour. We think the same way, so he knows exactly how to phrase something so that I won''t be able to stop laughing.

I love that "I''ll try" means "I''ll try". I spent ages with different guys that used that as a way to leave me hoping for something that never happens, but when BF says it, he means it.

I love that his family is so important to him. I love that if his dad called him and said he was starting up a new business and needs help, that my BF would be there, without question, for a few years until it got going. I love that the first thing he thinks of when we play the "What would we do if we won the lottery?" game is that he''d pay his little sister''s college tuition. No fancy car, no crazy trip.

I love that he''s opened me up to a whole new world that I never would have seen. He grounds me and keeps me from getting too materialistic, too caught up in what other people think, and too focused on the wrong things. He''s taught me that being happy and being smart with my money are some of the best things I can do for myself, and he''s taught me how to do that.

I love that we were friends before we started dating, and that I knew I genuinely liked him as a person before anything romantic happened. It''s helped us maintain a level of respect I never knew with any of my exes.

I love that he wanted me to meet his family and friends, and had told them about me long before I met them. I love that he''s proud of me no matter what I do.

I love that he understands that I''m independent and will get up and go for what (or to where) I want. I love that he can relax when I''m gone because he knows I''ll come back. I love that he''s willing to go with me, even if it means leaving family and friends for months or years at a time.

Mostly, I just love him.

 

[nebe]

His sense of humor. He can make me laugh so hard my teeth chatter. Seriously. That gut wrenching, hot cheeked, folding over, makes you want to just kiss him but you can't breathe long enough to put your lips together kind of laughter. And he does it on a regular basis.

I also loves the way he pats my tush everytime he walks by. It's one of those kind of funny little things that just makes me feel good but not objectified. It makes me feel like he finds me so attractive that he can't help but touch me even if it's only for a split second.

And his hands. He has really rough, strong hands. It shows to me that he's a hard worker and he can take care of me. He makes me do stuff I would never try on my own, too. He got me into rock climbing and camping! He's very productive.

I could write so much more but I'll spare you all

 

[misscuppycake]

I love so much about his actual personality and not necessarily the way he treats me. I mean, don''t get me wrong, he is an amazing boyfriend but the things that make me most attracted to him are just who he is as a person. He is so kind to children, he is gentle, he is loving, and he has a good heart. Lately, things have been going really well for us. Our relationship got off to a very rocky start because my parents disliked him for many reasons (they are a bit racist and they also were unhappy with his financial status) but we''ve managed to fight through. I admire him and love him for being able to stick it out.

 

[Deelight]

To keep this short and sweet is that fact that he would do anything in his power to make me happy and see me smile

That and many more things that I could write a million pages about I love him all over with all of my heart

 

[bluebubbles]

I just want to say thanks girls for sharing your stories. Your men sound absolutely amazing. Which made me think about my own...I need to find guys like yours. hahaha...

I hope there will be more post for me to read. Reading them is like watching a chick flick. You girls are REALLY lucky!!! I wish you all a life time of lovey doveyness and everlasting feel good moments.

-bluebubbles

 

[sweetjettagirl04]

I could say everything - but that''s a little far-fetched.

He makes me feel like I''m the only person in the world.

He can make me laugh when the only thing I want to do is cry.

He''s not scared of me being stubborn or hard-headed, rather he enjoys it.

He can admit when he''s wrong.

He can admit when I''m right.

I just love him. I can''t name all the reasons.

 

[sunnyd]

I love that he tells stories about us to friends and family (I don''t know why it''s so cute, but it is!). I love that he loves children! I love that he makes it his mission to make me laugh all the time. I love that I can be myself around him, whereas in a previous relationship I felt I had to ''tone it down''... a lot.

I love the most that I feel like I want to take care of him. Not in a motherly weird way, but I guess wifely way?

I can''t really explain it apparently...it''s a good thing though. Haha!

 

[MissErin]

I know I am a little late but I wanted to chime in anyway...

I love how Eric just understands me without me having to tell him. He knows when I need a quite day or even just a hug. I also love how Eric understands me and all of my silly quirks. I dragged him to a Disney premire and instead of complaining, he just looked at me, smiled, and said "You are my Disney Princess". It''s quite comforting.

 

[idreamofice]

Awww this is really cute!

I love that my SO was so concerned about our dog not eating her food while we were out of town that he drove to Applebee''s and had them grill a chicken breast for her. Not only that, he cut it up with a knife and fork then proceeded to hand feed it to her piece by piece with a fork!!

 

[FrekeChild]

That''s really cute idreamofice.

One other thing that I wanted to add:

He''ll read his boring Statistics books out loud to me when I can''t sleep, which makes me fall asleep about 5 minutes after he starts.

 

[sred2]

I have a ton of reasons... but here are just a few...hehehe

I love that we are 10000% honest and open with each other.

I love that he makes me feel taken care of and that I know he will be there for me no matter what.

I love that when we moved in together my pets (6 (now 5) bunnies! 2 parakeets and lots of fishies) became his pets also

I love that before we go to bed at night we lay there in the dark and talk.

I love that we encourage and motivate each other.

I love when we're hanging out with other people and we respond the same exact way to something.

I love that we can talk about the yucky stuff like poop, farts, zits and not be weirded out with each other lol

I love when I look like crap and he tells me I look beautiful.

I love that he is so much taller than me (6 inches!) and he holds me tight and I feel completely protected.

I love when he kisses me on my forehead.

I love when I look at him and I know exactly what he's thinking.

I love having a total lazy day with him and catching up on our shows.

I love that he spoils me rotten

I love when he can't keep his hands off of me.. even after being together for awhile.

I love that every time we talk about the future... buying our own house, getting married, growing old together he starts to tear up a little.

 

[somethingshiny]

Oh, I just found this thread. You all have such sweet SOs!

DH is a tough guy, which I adore.

Also, his sense of humor. Sometimes it is SOO off-the-wall, I have to laugh and really appreciate that I''M the one who gets to hear these things.

I love that he can''t come up behind me without touching me.

And, possibly the best reason, in eight and a half years of marriage, I''ve only pumped my own gas maybe a dozen times. He always checks my odometer (gas gauge isn''t dependable) and will fill up my truck if he knows I''m going somewhere. He''s so thoughtful that way.

 

[gwendolyn]

This thread is just so sweet, and really a good reminder for the times when we get more caught up in the worries than in remembering the good things we have.

There are lots of things that I love about J, and a few things that I don''t, but hey, he''s human just like me, and although we''re both pretty close, we ARE still human.

I love how we can talk about absolutely anything--we can be really serious, or extremely silly, or (usually) anywhere inbetween and it all feels good. I don''t worry about him saying topics are off-limits.

I LOVE how he makes me laugh, and I love that he is really smart in subjects where I''m severely lacking in smarts. He is just brilliant in history, and has shown me how much more interesting things like art, music and travel can be if one knows the historical info about them like he does.

I love how sweet he can be. Sometimes he leans over and kisses my forehead or my hand just because, and it always makes me feel cherished. He also constantly tells me that he''s really not bothered about the things we do, because as long as I''m happy, he''s happy. Which is true most of time--obvious there are times when he will really want to do something specific, but most of the time, as long as I''m smiling, he is happy.

More practically, I love how recently he''s been making great strides to providing for us in the future. Because I''m in grad school right now, the time I have available to work is very limited, so for the next 9 or 10 months, our savings will depend (essentially) solely on him. It took a little time for him to mentally adjust, but I feel like we''re on the same page now and he''s been looking for a new, better-paying job so that he can save for us. The last time we talked about it, he told me that he really wanted me to be able to depend on him in every possible way, including financially, and that he knew what he needed to do to make that happen. Which made my heart go pitter-patter because that''s much more encouraging for our future together than just daydreaming about getting married and having kids (which is what he''d been doing until recently--which is VERY sweet, but not practical). So I feel really good about where we are right now. Hopefully he will find a job soon so the savings can begin and I can feel even more excited (and less worried) about starting our life together!

 

[idreamofice]

Date: 1/11/2008 6:20:03 PM
Author: FrekeChild
That''s really cute idreamofice.

One other thing that I wanted to add:

He''ll read his boring Statistics books out loud to me when I can''t sleep, which makes me fall asleep about 5 minutes after he starts.

Thanks FrekeChild! Thats really cute! Your SO sounds like my FI lol. My FI can be a bit of a nerd sometimes...but so can I

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He has a 1 carat (created...i think) sapphire that he is going to set as a pendant for our dog...

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[Erin]

How I love his self deprecating humor.
Mind you this stuff is only when we're alone.
He makes really goofy faces when trying to open the pickle jar like it's impossible to open. It's really not attractive but hilarious. Or he'll get out of his recliner after watching a show and then waddle to the next room hunched over and legs spread like the old man he thinks he is (3. He'll catch his reflection on something like a chrome fixture and pretend to pluck a grey hair (reminding me that 90% of his hair has been grey for years). He's always singing songs out of nowhere for no good reason and I swear he doesn't know the real lyrics to ANY songs and he's a horrible singer (and he knows it) but he always gets a laugh outta me. Or he'll hand me a cup of coffee and let his hands tremble and shake to the point of dripping coffee on the kitchen floor (again reminding me that he thinks he's old). Or he'll undress for the evening to go to bed - take his shirt off and push his stomach out and walk around until it hurts (reminding me that he thinks he needs to lose weight).

He always asks me "What's a gorgeous, young, smart woman like you doing with an old decrepit man on the death acceleration program?"

 

[Patchee]

He is my best friend. One of those great ones who does not judge you in anyway.

His laid back to professional style is the best!

 

[bee*]

He''s always there for me and supports me with everything (he even got excited for me when I rang him to tell him about the Jimmy Choo bag!). He loves my darling Amber and took great care of her when I was in NY. We have fun together. We get along so well when we''re travelling and have similar interests while still having some differences so we can talk about lots of different things. I think he''s gorgeous and am so proud to have him on my arm when we go out. I love that we grew up pretty much together and instead of going our separate ways, we''ve gotten closer.

 

[zilaras]

He is supportive and immensly appreciative. It''s the little things really. Like today was day two of our opposite schedule ( I am a teacher so I work 7am-4pmish most days...and he works at a hotel...rotating schedule this week 3pm-11:30 pm) , and we don''t get to see a lot of each other. Normally I love to cook ...but on days when it''s only me...i don''t see the need...so i end up having a sandwhich...or if i am extremely tired popcorn. He left me a message while I was at work telling me that he had run to the grocery ( picked up my favorite chips) and had chicken in the fridge marinating for me when I got home. I love him for that...for knowing that little things make my day.