What does it mean if he has the ring for 3 months?

[SparklyDiamond]

Hi , I need some opinions from you. My boyfriend has the ring in his possession for three months now, and yet he has not said the word....

He told me he was just thinking about how to propose.... it took the ring maker 4 months to make the ring, so its been 7 months since he express his desire to marry me. He''s always been a procrstinator, but 7 months? And he haven''t start to think about how to ask?

I feel like this should be one of those things that he should be on top of, I feel like if he really want to marry me, he should be more than excited about starting a life together, and can''t wait to tell the world. If he''s not excited to share to the world that we''re about to start our lives together, and wait 7 months and didn''t think to start thinking about how to propose..... maybe he doesn''t care about this as much as I do..... maybe he''ll feel this way when he meets the right girl...


I really don''t know what to think.... tell me your thoughts....

 

[mimzy]

i feel you on this one. big time. i''ve thought these exact same things hundreds of times, as my bf also has had the ring for a couple of months now.

he actually gets really pissed whenever i bring any of these sentiments up. he argues that it''s the biggest deal of a person''s life to get engaged and that "guys aren''t as stupid as girls - they don''t just think with their emotions" and that it "takes a long time to get yourself pumped up to do something like this". soo if your bf is anything like my crazy a-hole of a bf is, it doesnt'' mean anything that he hasn''t asked yet. chances are he is waiting for the right time

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i was really worried about why my bf didn''t seem to be as excited about it as well until i just accepted that guys are different. i know it hurts, but don''t don''t don''t take it personally <3

 

[Rhea]

Maybe to him he has the ring, you know that he has the ring, he knows that you know that he has the ring so in his mind it''s a done deal. Not done deal as in you''re engaged, but done deal as in you know it''s going to happen so it''s no biggie if he waits for a bit and thinks about how to do things. Or maybe he''s waiting for a special date or time that means something to him.

He''s probably completely unaware that you''re concerned that there''s a problem. I''d talk to him and let him know that you''re getting a bit nervous and are wondering what''s going on.

 

[Aloros]

For him, proposing may be a really big deal. He may be thinking of how to do it, when the right time is, etc. My bf has been sitting on the ring for four months now. I get a little anxious at times, but he does talk about how much he wants to marry me, so I can''t complain.

It''s hard for us, when we don''t know what''s going on in their heads, but at this point, he''s 99% likely to do it, you just don''t know when. He went to all the trouble of getting a ring, right?

Just saying...I feel you.

 

[heather318]

Maybe he HAS thought of how he is going to do it but just told you he doesn''t.. And it just isn''t the right time for his plan..

 

[whenharrymetsally]

HI Sparkley,

I can absolutely understand your feelings. My FI had the ring for 4 months before he proposed and it was agony. I kept wondering why he was waiting. Afterwards, he told me why. A lot of the times the ''wedding'' is about the bride her day, her dress, her entrance...etc. The proposal was something that he could plan especially for me. Apparently he spoke to alot of his friends and they all told him "its all about the presentation" and he stressed for months and months and months about how he could ''present'' the ring in a special way. We''ve been engaged since the end of july and the question i get over and over is ''how did he do it''. He keeps grinning and telling me ''see? its all in the presentation!" Maybe your b/f is just taking his time and trying to think of the most special way to propose to you. Don''t worry. He has the ring..so you know its coming! *hope it happens soon for you*

 

[bee*]

D had our ring for just under 3 months before he proposed. His reason was that he wanted to do the perfect proposal and he had it all planned. Looking back, it was definitely worth the wait, although at times I did get impatient. Hopefully your bf will surprise you with it soon!

 

[Deelight]

Ummm plain and simple it means he is a boy

In all seriousness do you know he has not thought about the proposal? or is he making you think that to put you off the scent?


I would guess that he has something planned and he may have a particular day he would like to enact this moment or a special time or he is just as nervous as you and is gearing himself for the right proposal . Boys also don''t get excited in the same way girls but they do get excited


Have faith sparkly this is the toughest part the waiting but it will be over soon

 

[SparklyDiamond]

Thank you for all the nice words, its really encouraging ! I guess i really won''t know until he propose.

Best wishes to you all!

 

[gwendolyn]

Date: 12/3/2007 9:36:13 AM
Author: Deelight
Ummm plain and simple it means he is a boy

This is what I was going to say! In boy-time, a few months is nothin''. Plus, it''s sooooo much harder to be the one waiting than it is to be the one planning. You''re agonizing over every minute that goes by, while he''s probably getting more and more excited because the time is getting closer.

My suggestion would be to try not to stress about it and enjoy yourself instead; I''ll bet the time will pass much more quickly for you AND you won''t give yourself grey hairs in the process.

 

[Izzy03]

There is a good chance that he HAS thought about it and already knows what day he is going to do it. The holidays are right around the corner and maybe he has plans to it then and make the proposal really spectacular. Maybe even Valentines day, or your anniversary.

One thing is certain, most guys do want to make their proposal unforgettable, so I wouldn''t worry quite yet...... The really BIG proposals may take a long time to plan!

GOOD LUCK!!!!

 

[gwendolyn]

Date: 12/12/2007 10:21:43 AM
Author: Izzy03
The really BIG proposals may take a long time to plan!

Very true, although I know some of the sweetest, most intimate proposals can take a long time too. I remember Pandora II''s sweet, personal engagement story (one of my favourites), and it took six months to plan. He''s creating a memory to cherish for a lifetime; give the guy some time to mull over a few ideas.

 

[kcoursolle]

I really don''t think it means anything, except that men''s version of soon is different that girls. My DH had the ring for 4 brutal months before he finally popped the question. He just figured, "what''s the rush, it''s obvious that we are going to get engaged." He might have something special planned, so just try to stick it out without bugging him...even though it''s really tough.