What have you wanted for years but still haven't gotten, for one reason or another?

[Kim N]

Something for *yourself* that's actually within reach (i.e. not world peace or winning the lottery). It can be jewelry or absolutely anything else.

missy's thread on sleep got me thinking. I've had insomnia for the last 20 years. Sometimes I'll have better nights, but I can't remember the last time I had a really great night's sleep, feeling completely well-rested in the morning. So that's one thing I've wanted for years.

Looking forward to hearing yours!

 

[jaysonsmom]

I've always wanted "couples" friends, that dh and I can have game nights with, double date with or even go on vacations with. Unfortunately, dh and I are very different people and we have our own friend groups. We have gone out on occasional outings where we hung out as a couple with my friends ant their spouses, or his friends with their spouses, but they have been one-off events....and didn't become life-time couple's outing kind of friends.

 

[missy]

A rescue puppy!!! Or a rescue adult dog. I love dogs so much. But I also love our kitties and they wouldn’t do well with a dog. So for as long as our cats are here (and I hope they’re here for a looooong time) we’re not getting a dog. But one day yes. We will. And it will be a rescue. I love our rescue animals.

In the meantime I get my puppy love from our friends dogs.

 

[missy]

I asked my dh this question. He said a new table saw. I asked him why he just doesn’t get one. He said it’s too big and heavy to get into the basement and he said the one he has works well so it’s just an unnecessary luxury.

 

[missy]

Something for *yourself* that's actually within reach (i.e. not world peace or winning the lottery). It can be jewelry or absolutely anything else.

missy's thread on sleep got me thinking. I've had insomnia for the last 20 years. Sometimes I'll have better nights, but I can't remember the last time I had a really great night's sleep, feeling completely well-rested in the morning. So that's one thing I've wanted for years.

Looking forward to hearing yours!

Wishing your dream comes true @Kim N
I know how draining not sleeping well is.
Sending you many sweet dream wishes

 

[rocks]

I asked my dh this question. He said a new table saw. I asked him why he just doesn’t get one. He said it’s too big and heavy to get into the basement and he said the one he has works well so it’s just an unnecessary luxury.

I think are married to the same man…

 

[Kim N]

I've always wanted "couples" friends, that dh and I can have game nights with, double date with or even go on vacations with. Unfortunately, dh and I are very different people and we have our own friend groups. We have gone out on occasional outings where we hung out as a couple with my friends ant their spouses, or his friends with their spouses, but they have been one-off events....and didn't become life-time couple's outing kind of friends.

We've had periods where it was easier to have couples friends than others. We've moved multiple times over the years, so that makes it harder to keep friends, and we had to make new ones. Right now we have only one couple with whom we do double dates and game nights. Have you found, as we have, that it's been harder to make new friends (by yourself or as a couple) as you've gotten older?

 

[dk168]

Can't think of anything to be honest.

If I want something, I would normally make it happen.

If it has not happened, it means I don't want it that much to be bothered.

Hope that makes sense.

DK

 

[Kim N]

A rescue puppy!!! Or a rescue adult dog. I love dogs so much. But I also love our kitties and they wouldn’t do well with a dog. So for as long as our cats are here (and I hope they’re here for a looooong time) we’re not getting a dog. But one day yes. We will. And it will be a rescue. I love our rescue animals.

In the meantime I get my puppy love from our friends dogs.

Your friends' dogs are such darlings, missy. I'm glad you're still able to get your puppy love in and hope one day you get your own rescue pup.

 

[Kim N]

Wishing your dream comes true @Kim N
I know how draining not sleeping well is.
Sending you many sweet dream wishes

Thank you, missy. I'm thinking of trying the Delta 9 gummies soon.

 

[Kim N]

Can't think of anything to be honest.

If I want something, I would normally make it happen.

If it has not happened, it means I don't want it that much to be bothered.

Hope that makes sense.

DK

That makes complete sense, DK!

 

[jaysonsmom]

We've had periods where it was easier to have couples friends than others. We've moved multiple times over the years, so that makes it harder to keep friends, and we had to make new ones. Right now we have only one couple with whom we do double dates and game nights. Have you found, as we have, that it's been harder to make new friends (by yourself or as a couple) as you've gotten older?

We don't problems making friends on our own, and our individual friend groups have continued to grow throughout the years, but we have yet to have a couple that we both like hanging out with together.

 

[Avondale]

I asked my dh this question. He said a new table saw. I asked him why he just doesn’t get one. He said it’s too big and heavy to get into the basement and he said the one he has works well so it’s just an unnecessary luxury.

That's the reasoning I use for why I haven't bought a new stove. The old one is working perfectly. It's just so old now... so old... But it's working perfectly! So I make do with my ugly old stove that cooks and bakes everything perfectly for me. I'll get a new one when this one breaks.

 

[Austina]

There are things I wanted when I was younger, that I don’t want now. I almost bought a Porsche a few years ago, until I realised that for my lifetstyle (at the time), it would be totally impractical.

I can’t really think of anything I want that I couldn’t have if I really wanted it, so I think that must mean I don’t want it badly enough.

 

[hardwear]

I've always wanted "couples" friends, that dh and I can have game nights with, double date with or even go on vacations with. Unfortunately, dh and I are very different people and we have our own friend groups. We have gone out on occasional outings where we hung out as a couple with my friends ant their spouses, or his friends with their spouses, but they have been one-off events....and didn't become life-time couple's outing kind of friends.

This! so so important as we get older and kids go away for college. Friends in general are important.
We have accumulated a few great lifelong friends, throughout living in different states, a few of them live overseas, and we've lost a few along the way. We now have some very nice couples/families close to home. I have traveled separately with friends and have ladies night out. And we have started couples only travel with our local friends here. It takes a while to figure out if traveling with certain people will work or not. So far, so good.

I hope you find your best couple friends soon.



@Kim N - Agree..it does get harder to make good friends. Is it because people are pickier? They don't want to make the effort, because all is good in their world?
Judgy? Or maybe they are happy the way they are?
I wouldn't mind meeting more new people, makes life interesting.

 

[Mreader]

In terms of jewelry, it’s 4 ctw (or bigger) studs. And I really don’t have nor want to spend the money for mined ones so I think I would be content with labs. But I always find something else to buy instead because the thing that I tend to purchase is antique or unique for some reason or another, so the studs go on the back burner because they will always be available.

The other is to move back to my home town but because of my profession and the difficulty in finding work, that isn’t in the cards until
I am done working which won’t be for quite a while I hope!

 

[kenny]

Recovery from childhood trauma.

Note: I really am not seeking support or advice here.
I'm just answering the question.

 

[Matata]

peace of mind

 

[LilAlex]

About 20 different upgrades to our "contractor grade" spec house built thrown up during a boom. Lacked the funds, the time and energy, the interest, and then the motivation -- in that exact chronological order. Now it's mostly an inability to identify reliable contractors, installers, materials, etc. We figure if we don't do it soon, it will be someone else's problem.

 

[secretagentlaura]

My wish is a vain one: quality hair extensions. My hair is a combo of both thin and fine, and as a result I keep it quite short. I dream of having voluminous hair that I can wear in beach waves or do up in the ponytail on a windy day. Why haven't I done this? It seems like more effort than I usually want to put into my hair.

 

[elle_71125]

Confidence! Who knew knowing your self worth and being confident were two totally different beasts? This shy gal dreams of being more confident.

 

[Piper70]

There are things I wanted when I was younger, that I don’t want now. I almost bought a Porsche a few years ago, until I realised that for my lifetstyle (at the time), it would be totally impractical.

I can’t really think of anything I want that I couldn’t have if I really wanted it, so I think that must mean I don’t want it badly enough.

This is me, with a side of Missy’s husband’s practical answer. Because I’m frugal, I take a loooong time to pull the trigger on buying things so half the time I just never do. I like nice jewelry and handbags but I hit a saturation point. Now I’m trying to buy things that make life easier like a cordless vacuum. I’ve been talking about it for 5 months and it’s time ( though funnily enough, the Dyson I’m looking at has a trigger which some reviewers found annoying ).
Sleep is an issue for me as well. Ugh

 

[Piper70]

This! so so important as we get older and kids go away for college. Friends in general are important.
We have accumulated a few great lifelong friends, throughout living in different states, a few of them live overseas, and we've lost a few along the way. We now have some very nice couples/families close to home. I have traveled separately with friends and have ladies night out. And we have started couples only travel with our local friends here. It takes a while to figure out if traveling with certain people will work or not. So far, so good.

I hope you find your best couple friends soon.



@Kim N - Agree..it does get harder to make good friends. Is it because people are pickier? They don't want to make the effort, because all is good in their world?
Judgy? Or maybe they are happy the way they are?
I wouldn't mind meeting more new people, makes life interesting.

We have a friend couple that moved to a new state a few years ago and struggled to meet new people. The wife actually asked a potential new friend about getting together and this person said she didn’t really have the time for new friends which is sad but understandable. We fortunately have a lot of couple friends but my workaholic husband doesn’t have the energy to go out a lot which is a bummer. I hope our friends don’t give up on us!!

 

[Inked]

My back to stop hurting but since that will never happen, i would say a horse.

 

[pearlsngems]

A master bath with a large walk-in shower and a soaker tub. We have a small house with one bathroom and there really is no practical or affordable way to expand, given how the yard slopes.

 

[springerspaniel]

@missy --- Freddie and Clyde (both rescues of different types) say "Hi!!!!"

 

[missy]

@missy --- Freddie and Clyde (both rescues of different types) say "Hi!!!!"

Remember Auntie Missy and Uncle Greg are available for puppy sitting any time

 

[lala646]

A clean and organized home. I can thank my husband and his ADHD/5 million hobbies for that.

 

[Arcadian]

I said I would update my earrings and I haven't. Its within reach but I kinda feel like its an unnecessary splurge.

 

[llamacat]

A clean and organized home. I can thank my husband and his ADHD/5 million hobbies for that.

Yes, this is me too, plus two kids and and two cats. Some days when I come home from work, I think that I wouldn't be able to tell if we've been broken into because it wouldn't look any different.

Another one for me is sleep or even just to be able to relax for a lengthy period of time.