What Makes Men Marry...

[Mara]

Whenever I see articles like this plastered on the MSN homepage...I always think of the LIW...

True? False? Undecided?

http://www.yahoo.com/s/784439

 

[Selkie]

I agree with pretty much the whole article, and I'd say that most of the guidelines work for either gender as well. The only thing I don't totally agree with is number 4. I think it's TRUE, in general, that men appreciate women who can balance various aspects of their personality, but this statement (which is probably meant to be a bit tongue-in-cheek) puts me off a little:
"It's the all-in-one woman who can equally pull off the roles of wife, mother, boss, friend, neighbor, vixen. That's not asking too much, is it? After all, if a guy is going to commit for a lifetime, he'll want his partner to be able to react to a lifetime's worth of challenges and opportunities, right?"
We all try so hard to be superwoman already, and it's statements like that can make even the most well-rounded person feel inadequate.

 

[Erin]

I liked the ultimate question on the "Is She the One for You" quiz...

"Can I ask these questions (about money, religion, her family, your work, etc.) and have an honest, intelligent conversation with this woman when we disagree?" Because if you can''t, none of her answers really matter.

So true, so true.

 

[bee*]

I agree with that article completely. I remember my mother saying never marry someone who you haven''t had a fight with. I thought it was strange at the time but after D and I have had our disagreements we are so much stronger after talking things through. We''ve never had a proper fight where we''ve broken up but we have had some pretty fiery disagreements and I think it''s how you get through these that seal your future.
I agree with you Selkie about number 4-I think most women try and be wonder woman anyway and I know that the article was more than likely written in humour, but it still makes you think gosh I''m not doing enough.

 

[MissErin]

Date: 1/16/2008 2:32:10 PM
Author: bee*
I agree with that article completely. I remember my mother saying never marry someone who you haven''t had a fight with. I thought it was strange at the time but after D and I have had our disagreements we are so much stronger after talking things through. We''ve never had a proper fight where we''ve broken up but we have had some pretty fiery disagreements and I think it''s how you get through these that seal your future.
I agree with you Selkie about number 4-I think most women try and be wonder woman anyway and I know that the article was more than likely written in humour, but it still makes you think gosh I''m not doing enough.

I love when Moms give us advice that really relates to the rest of our lives. Thanks for posting this!!

 

[designchica]

It''s not that you argue, but how you argue.

 

[TravelingGal]

Ah...there it is all laid out...the reasons why TGuy wanted to marry me! Not.

TGuy wanted to marry me because he can always beat me at Yahtzee. What more could a man want?

(Actually, we did decide our wedding date by rolling Yahtzee dice...)

 

[~*Alexis*~]

Date: 1/16/2008 2:45:32 PM
Author: designchica
It''s not that you argue, but how you argue.

I totally agree...but I dont always think that its healthy to fight for the heck of it..unless its in good fun of course...

the really funny thing is that Frankie printed it out and had it sitting on the table for me when I got home....LOL

I told him none of it mattered...I fit all the categories....ha!

 

[louisvgirl]

I agree with most of what the article stated. I found #4 quite appropriate today out of all days. I sent my FI a "nasty little" text. He laughed so loud that his students asked him what was so funny? ha ha. I then said "well, is that a yes". "hell yah" he said. Guys need that little "vixen" every now and then.

 

[NewEnglandLady]

I liked this article--I like to read articles written by men about what makes them tick. I definitely agree on all points. I really think the first three points all boil down to being independent. The fourth is a good point, too--we all have different personalities for different situations. At work we''re professional, at office parties we''re interesting and engaging, with friends we''re goofy, at home we can be all of those things and vixens, so our boyfriends or husbands are really the only ones to see every facet of our personalities and I think they value that.

Still, I think that when it comes down to it, timing is still the primary reason men choose to marry. The thing about dating an independent, successful, self assured, non-doting woman is that if the timing is off and he drags his feet, she won''t be waiting around for him

 

[doxielover]

LOL, my FI sent this to me at work today

 

[cruiserhead]

Date: 1/16/2008 5:43:35 PM
Author: NewEnglandLady

Still, I think that when it comes down to it, timing is still the primary reason men choose to marry.

that is the 'truest' statement of all.

The thing you may not know is; every man knows the point where he became a man. What makes men marry has nothing to do with the woman.

that is all of the secret men's chit-chat I can let out!

 

[Sparkalicious]

Date: 1/17/2008 1:16:12 AM
Author: cruiserhead

Date: 1/16/2008 5:43:35 PM
Author: NewEnglandLady

Still, I think that when it comes down to it, timing is still the primary reason men choose to marry.

that is the ''truest'' statement of all.

The thing you may not know is; every man knows the point where he became a man. What makes men marry has nothing to do with the woman.

that is all of the secret men''s chit-chat I can let out!

Too funny .. Thanks for the tidbit. We won''t report back to your counterparts for fear that you might be punished for releasing a sacred secret such as this.