What other planning have you done?

[jesterjigger]

Someone mentioned bridal magazines in another thread and that got me thinking. I know a lot of you know that the proposal is coming soon...so what planning have you done? Picked a year? A month? A date? Location? Photographer? Colors? Flowers? Dress? Do you own any bridal magazines? Is your bf aware of what you''ve been looking at? Have you talked about any of this stuff with him?

Also, feel free to post what you''ve picked for those things, if you have made any decisions or are trying to choose between a couple of things...

 

[anchor31]

A few months back we had a bit of fun in here... https://www.pricescope.com/community/threads/how-much-pre-engagement-wedding-planning.35583/

A few of the ladies who posted in this thread are engaged now, but it was fun.

 

[Scooba]

You are reading my mind, i am having a really hard time with this.

My boyfriend has the ring, I know I''m getting it soon, and we are planning on having 2 engagment parties between mid June and mid July, and planning on getting married July of 2007. We want to get married in July on a Saturday and one of the best places in a big city, hard to do 15 months out, no? So I asked him if he would mind if I start doing some planning and he said to go ahead, this was last week. I just don''t feel comfortable doing this. I am browsing online and stuff but I feel so stupid calling anywhere or really doing anything not being engaged, it makes me feel a little crazy.

I just keep thinking another week won''t change anything, but I also told him say we narrow it down to 3 places we would have the wedding, there are only 3 Saturdays in july open for us, that means only 9 spots to get the place we want, AHHH! Anyone know how fast places do fill? I have a feeling we are going to get stuck at the private country club where my parents got married (which is weird because they are long divorced and it''s a bit jinxed for me) just because it doesn''t get booked up by the public. I am also frusterated because I don''t work so I have nothing to do all day and I feel like these planning projects would give me something productive to do, but instead I just sit on PS and wait for my ring...

 

[meepcat]

Date: 4/18/2006 12:45:29 PM
Author: Diamonds are Hot!
You are reading my mind, i am having a really hard time with this.

My boyfriend has the ring, I know I''m getting it soon, and we are planning on having 2 engagment parties between mid June and mid July, and planning on getting married July of 2007. We want to get married in July on a Saturday and one of the best places in a big city, hard to do 15 months out, no? So I asked him if he would mind if I start doing some planning and he said to go ahead, this was last week. I just don''t feel comfortable doing this. I am browsing online and stuff but I feel so stupid calling anywhere or really doing anything not being engaged, it makes me feel a little crazy.

Girlfriend, don''t sweat it. I also thought, late last year, that I''d start planning a wedding. But after a few months of thinking about that, I decided that I just wanted the damn ring. I wanted the fantasy of being elevated to what *I* consider an honour, to be a fiancee. However, I''m keeping that fantasy, and I know that when the time is right, I will have it. In the meantime, I won''t berate myself for desiring it, nor will I position myself uncomfortably with the traditions of foregoing planning until engagement.

A stitch in time, saves 9.

I just keep thinking another week won''t change anything, but I also told him say we narrow it down to 3 places we would have the wedding, there are only 3 Saturdays in july open for us, that means only 9 spots to get the place we want, AHHH! Anyone know how fast places do fill? I have a feeling we are going to get stuck at the private country club where my parents got married (which is weird because they are long divorced and it''s a bit jinxed for me) just because it doesn''t get booked up by the public. I am also frusterated because I don''t work so I have nothing to do all day and I feel like these planning projects would give me something productive to do, but instead I just sit on PS and wait for my ring...

Go ahead and start planning! If you started your first research paper in high school, and then had to turn it in at the end of an English 1A class, you''d probably win a prize for such well-thought out writing. Planning a wedding is the same. You want your day to have all the things you WANT, not just what you need. What you WANT to do is plan your wedding. What you NEED is to be engaged. How often do we only fulfill our needs? Like shopping, planning a wedding can give you gratification that you''re thoroughly preparing for what''s more important: the beginning of your MARRIED LIFE together.



I bought a wedding planner binder, lots of bridal magazines, registered with the knot, etc. I even have a wedding dress from my last engagement, shoes, a veil, a tiara, and a flower girl dress. I have in my mind some idea of what I''d like, but since I want to make it as inexpensive as possible, I bought a book on planning a wedding for less than $5k, as well as books on marriage, divorce, and the meaning of ''wife''. My goals are flexible, but I generally seek to be prepared for squaring away all details of what I and my SO have envisioned in our dream for a wonderful wedding day.

I''ve been penalized for doing the wrong thing at the wrong time. But never for planning details and having contingency plans. However, it''s my daily job to plan releases and juggle many engineering issues that have complex circumstances. For me, planning a wedding is just what I need, to stave off the blues of not-yet being engaged.

 

[Blenheim]

Thanks for that thread, Anchor. I''m slowly reading through it. It seems like so many of the girls have already gotten engaged, so hopefully the same thing will happen to this group of LIWs within the next four or five months.

I''ve thought about some things, but nothing is definite. Part of it is that I want my BF''s opinion, and he doesn''t want to talk about the wedding until we''re engaged. I guess that makes sense. We bickered a little bit about a month ago, because he thinks that planning the wedding is the bride''s job but I''ve already assigned him responsibilites in my head. Example -- I know very little about music, am tone-deaf, and can''t keep a beat. He plays in a jazz band. Who do you think would be the reasonable one to take care of the music here?

Current thoughts on wedding.
Place Either Michigan or Virginia. Pretty broad, huh?
Dress I''d prefer not to have a strapless dress. I like the look of lace on the shoulders (maybe I''ll try to find a picture later), and I''ve spent time in cultures where it''s disrespectful to have bare shoulders in a church and that''s rubbed off on me.
Invitations I''m trying to decide between the classic ivory and script invitations and something like this (from whiteaisle.com):

I think that these ones are gorgeous, but perhaps out of my yet-to-be-determined budget.
Time of day In some ways, I''d like a morning wedding with brunch afterwards. I think that BF''s leaning towards a late afternoon one though.
Size Small
Budget Small, by today''s standards. My parents have told me that they want me to have the wedding I want, but I just don''t feel comfortable spending that much money on one day.
Date I need to figure out what would be the best in terms of being able to plan a wedding and pass my qualifying exams. There are some engaged and married girls in the program that I''m entering, so I hope that they can give me good advice.
Flowers Purty ones. If the wedding is in VA, my parents have a potential florist picked out.


That''s about all for now, and I can almost guarantee that it will change.

 

[Blenheim]

Date: 4/18/2006 1:23:03 PM
Author: meepcat
I bought a wedding planner binder, lots of bridal magazines, registered with the knot, etc. I even have a wedding dress from my last engagement, shoes, a veil, a tiara, and a flower girl dress. I have in my mind some idea of what I''d like, but since I want to make it as inexpensive as possible, I bought a book on planning a wedding for less than $5k, as well as books on marriage, divorce, and the meaning of ''wife''. My goals are flexible, but I generally seek to be prepared for squaring away all details of what I and my SO have envisioned in our dream for a wonderful wedding day.

Would you mind sharing which books you bought and what you think of them so far?

 

[ephemery1]

For some reason I've held off on buying the magazines... maybe I feel like people will look at my empty ring finger and judge me? Haha... who knows.

But my BF and I have discussed just about everything else at one point or another... it often comes up when we're talking about our friends' upcoming weddings, and turns into a conversation about what we envision for ours.

Location... definitely my hometown, reception in a nice hotel there... and ceremony in the church where my parents got married... actually by the same pastor!
Potential dates... we know it will be somewhere between April and September 2007... depending partly on when he proposes!
Size... big - 300-400 people probably, not really by choice... my parents know a lot of people!

Wedding party... 5-7 attendants each - a lot of our friends have dated or gotten together over the years so there was some discussion of matching people by hook-up history

I think less is more so I'm shooting for 5... but a friend of mine is having 13 bridesmaids this fall!!!!
Dress... I (and he) like simple and strapless, maybe something Maggie Sottero-ish rather than more high-end to keep costs down? I can't WAIT to go dress-shopping... it's probably what I'm looking forward to the most! I'm a pear-shape, so strapless dresses are my one time to show off the skinny upper-body parts of me and keep my more "curvy" lower body hidden!
As for flowers, photographers, etc... I've got lots of bookmarks saved on my computer, but nothing remotely finalized... I figure I'll go on friends' recommendations.

As for pre-wedding stuff, my future-MOH has already informed my boyfriend that she's planning on an engagement party for us the 3rd weekend in June, so hopefully there will be a ring by then!

 

[sumbride]

Date: 4/18/2006 2:14:15 PM
Author: ephemery1
For some reason I''ve held off on buying the magazines... maybe I feel like people will look at my empty ring finger and judge me? Haha... who knows.

I had a hard time with it at first, but since I''ve specified that I get to design my ring, and he''s specified that it will be AFTER he proposes, I figure I''ll be engaged without a ring for a while anyway, so why not buy them now! He has "a plan", I can have my "bridal ****".

I don''t tell that many people about them though, just PS. He knows because he''s seen them but he won''t tell me he''s seen them.

I''ve been looking at flowers and dresses, but we''re sort of torn on where to have the wedding. We both really liked the idea of having it in Napa, CA, but since we live in MD, I just think about all the stuff I won''t get to do if we have it there... no DIY anything without excessive shipping costs.... Plus it would be so much more expensive there. but he loves the idea and he''s not really flexing on it (even though it was my idea in the first place) so I think we''ll have to decide when we get to budget. He thinks my parents will pay for most of the wedding, but I''m not so sure. My mom financed a good portion of my early 20''s thanks to my non-profit jobs, and she said once that she had already paid me what she would have spent on my wedding. He thinks she''ll cave because I''m her last daughter and she adores my BF, but I''m not counting any chickens. If we''re paying for it, I bet it will be just us on an island somewhere. But he''s got this whole big party in his head and I really want him to have that.

Am I the only one whose BF has more elaborate wedding plans than the girl? I feel that way sometimes. I guess I should feel lucky that he cares. Not that he''ll care what color linens we use, or the hem length on the BM dresses, but there are a lot of "must haves" for him.

 

[ephemery1]

Sum, my BF is definitely more into the "party" side of the wedding than I am... despite the fact it is my parents and small-town "everyone knows everyone" upbringing that is inflating the guest list. He loves the thought of a huge celebration, great music, lots of drinks, everyone having a grand ole'' time late into the night... and he likes doing the planning for all that, so more power to him!

Personally, if it weren''t for all the family friends that I''ve always envisioned being at my wedding some day, I think I''d be perfectly happy doing it all on an island somewhere (St. John anyone?

) and just having an informal party back home sometime after.

 

[swt_acacia]

I am one hundred thousand percent against planning aspects of the wedding before being engaged. I actually did start trying to "pre-plan" about two years ago when my boyfriend finally showed a real interest in getting married. He wanted me to research wedding ideas, too, since he feels really uncomfortable with the whole wedding process and thought maybe if I could give him an idea he liked for our wedding, he''d be more comfortable proposing. Then, I realized:
#1 that pre-planning just got my hopes up even more, and when at the end of the day I realized that I wasn''t engaged and there wasn''t actually a real wedding to plan, I was even more sad than if I had only been waiting for a ring and a proposal.
#2 I want my boyfriend to propose because he wants to be MARRIED to me, not because he likes the wedding idea I came up with.
#3 I think a wedding is best planned by the couple, not just by the bride, and most guys who won''t propose don''t want to talk about the wedding, either.
#4 Pre-planning aspects of the wedding might actually make a guy LESS likely to propose, since his relationship is once again progressing (and his girlfriend is happy) without him having to take any actions of his own.

Yes, it can take a long time to do the research and plan a wedding, I just think all of it is better done AFTER the proposal.

 

[Mandarine]

well...looks like you guys have been busy!!

All I''ve really done is brainstorm. My BF was the one that got me thinking (and got me to sign-up to the Knot so I could et ideas). That week I went crazy....started thinking about budgets, realizing I can''t have my dream wedding (at least not in the US)...wondering if we should have a destination wedding....

It really started freaking me out...big time!!!!!!!. Apparently I stressed my BF out too and now we just don''t really talk about it. I want to take it one step at a time...

1) "Enjoy" the waiting...enjoy today, enjoy the little things we enjoy doing together.
2) Get engaged...make it official...spread the news...celebrate!!!!
3) Enjoy the engagement for a few weeks before we start planning. Just brainstorm and dream..
4) Get to planning!
5) Have the wedding!
6) "after wedding" blues...gather pictures, make albums, send thank cars, etc etc etc

Can you tell I''m a Project Manager? hahaha....I just need to have timelines in my head and plan out each phase. Jyst helps me relax

M~

 

[ephemery1]

Acacia, I agree that talking about a wedding before talking about getting engaged can be a huge turn-off with some guys, and possibly make them less inclined to marry that person at all. But I think a lot of us here on Pricescope are in that ambiguous "pre-engagement" phase where we already know the engagement is definitely going to happen... we''re just waiting on the official proposal/ring. And at that point, often the guy is just as involved in the early wedding discussion/planning too. Like I mentioned, we''ve been talking about what we might want for our own wedding for years, often as we attended our friends'' weddings... but actual practical planning didn''t begin until we arrived at a loose timeline for the proposal (this spring/summer) and subsequent wedding (next spring/summer/fall).

Welcome, by the way!

 

[sunkist]

Oooo, Blen I like those blue lace invitations! I love lace! I hope I can have lace on my wedding dress too

 

[Blenheim]

Swt_acadia, I can see where you''re coming from but I have to respectfully disagree that everyone should wait until after the proposal. My boyfriend gave me the go-ahead to coming up with ideas about the wedding. He told me that I have to eventually, so why not start now? It doesn''t get my hopes up because I know that it''s not going to happen for a bit, but I will eventually get to use the ideas that I''m compiling. I''ve also limited myself to things that I''m pretty sure that he won''t care about -- dresses, invitations, etc. (And by pretty sure, I mean that he''s already told me that it''s up to me.) We are going to mutually select a date and location after we are engaged, as well as a time of day. I have a feeling that we may need to compromise on things like number of guests and certain things that will affect the budget (dinner and dancing vs. brunch).

On top of this, I will be deeply immersed in graduate studies by the time that I should probably be deep into wedding planning. I think I''m making it easier on myself by narrowing down certain details beforehand.

Also, I sincerely hope that no man would propose because he likes the idea of the wedding.

However, if you''re afraid of getting your hopes up, don''t want to jinx it, or a thousand other possibilities, then it''s probably best to wait until after you''re engaged.

 

[Blenheim]

Date: 4/18/2006 4:01:46 PM
Author: sunkist
Oooo, Blen I like those blue lace invitations! I love lace! I hope I can have lace on my wedding dress too

Oh, they''d compliment lace on a wedding dress so well! Here is another design from the same website that I also love:

They''re both $4 per invite with matching reply but no other inserts ($1 additional per insert), which isn''t a lot compared to the invitations that I''ve seen some PS brides using but probably doesn''t fit into a budget wedding. Hmmm.

 

[swt_acacia]

It''s true that people on pricescope tend to be much closer to the proposal than some pre-engagement friends I''ve talked to and stories I''ve read on other boards. If you''re really, really close, and especially if you have some sort of restriction on the time you''ll have to plan later, planning pre-engagement is probably a more reasonable idea. Just keep in mind that there may be people on this board who really aren''t close to a proposal (or don''t know that they aren''t super close), and based on what I''ve experienced and seen others experience, I wanted to direct a warning about "The Potential Dangers of Planning" to them in particular. They may not realize their situation is different from yours.

 

[meepcat]

Date: 4/18/2006 1:28:27 PM
Author: Blenheim

Date: 4/18/2006 1:23:03 PM

Author: meepcat

I bought a wedding planner binder, lots of bridal magazines, registered with the knot, etc. I even have a wedding dress from my last engagement, shoes, a veil, a tiara, and a flower girl dress. I have in my mind some idea of what I''d like, but since I want to make it as inexpensive as possible, I bought a book on planning a wedding for less than $5k, as well as books on marriage, divorce, and the meaning of ''wife''. My goals are flexible, but I generally seek to be prepared for squaring away all details of what I and my SO have envisioned in our dream for a wonderful wedding day.

Would you mind sharing which books you bought and what you think of them so far?

I have a few that I''ve been reading.

1. Priceless Weddings for under $5000, by Kathleen Kennedy: it''s a list of examples of various wedding budgets, ideas, including recipes for catering your own wedding. It''s as DIY as you can get, with good ideas for getting your budget down, if that''s truly more important than the wedding itself.

2. The Meaning of Wife, by Anne Kingston: a vitriolic litany of marriage in modern-day, cult-of-personality-filled society; I bought it to ascertain one person''s research on the fallacy of what a wife should be, and what a wife actually is (both culminated from examples of public scrutiny a la Diana, and real-world examples of the most un-romantic circumstances for being a wife (ie, murder, money, and mental problems).

3. Why Marriages Succeed or Fail..and how you can make yours last, by John Gottman: full of short questionaires that give the reader something to think about, as far as relationship habits and co-dependency. I bought this as a personal test to personal and relationship responsibility (asking the hardest questions), and colouring my view so I could see our long-term relationship potential from difficult positions. There are examples of conversations which I found interesting, somewhat similar to a typical male mindset, which helped me to rationalize some of the lesser-complicated discussions I have with my BF.

4. The Starter Marriage and the Future of Matrimony, by Pamela Paul: A start-to-finish book on researched social, society, and cultural pressures towards marriage and sociological conditioning. The book was written to appeal to the reader''s cynical mindset or emotional discord with the experience of having a "starter marriage" or fearing it. A starter marriage is considered one between the ages of beginning adolescence to 30. Or, it is the marriage that eventually is rushed into, without concise and deliberate consideration on the part of seriously considering what tools each individual has to contribute towards a long-term relationship. I found it interesting in its approach to the reader, and bought it in order to seek out my own selfish interests in the institution of marriage, as well as confronting fears of being socially pressured or influenced into marrying.

Aside from all this, I''ve also created for my future bridal party and groom, a Wedding Wiki, which is just a Tiki Wiki that has all our wedding info in it. I think we will have our wedding in a couple of years, and since our goal is to have the "best quality for the lowest price" (quote my future MOH, here), we''re going to take the time to plan it out right. We only have one chance at making a 24 hour day be as worthwhile in planning as it is in experiencing.

In addition, I''ve got a MOH already, who understands my desire to plan this far in advance. She''s also an organized and neat person, with inherent precision and anal-retentiveness to rival my own, that I''m comfortable with give her schedules, timelines, plans, and task lists that she will execute, and communicate with me if things aren''t working out.

 

[JenStone]

Date: 4/18/2006 3:28:10 PM
Author: sumbride

Am I the only one whose BF has more elaborate wedding plans than the girl? I feel that way sometimes. I guess I should feel lucky that he cares. Not that he'll care what color linens we use, or the hem length on the BM dresses, but there are a lot of 'must haves' for him.

MINE TOO!!! My boyfriend has very specific ideas about what he wants in/at our wedding. He says he would never go to a bridal showcase but I have seen him taking looks at bridal spreads in magazines, commenting on weddings we attend together, etc.

I myself haven't done any actual planning but the one thing I do look forward to after getting engaged are the bridal magazines! I already told my boyfriend, "You know when we get engaged, our apartment would be stacked with wedding magazines."

But I refuse to buy one until I have a ring on my finger.

 

[akw94]

I have hesitantly done some "planning". Of course, only since I found PS! Before then, I was quite content just thinking about planning.

I just can''t help myself now. There are so many ideas in my head and I want to see what things look like and get ideas. I also think that since it will be a bit before the engagement, we will be planning w/not as much time as I like. I totally agree about making decisions together though. I feel like everything that i''m looking at is not definite and just ideas. I haven''t actually picked out anything, just in a research gathering mode. If I see something I like, I save it. I have started buying magazines. It''s fun! I do feel silly and feel like people must be wondering why i''m buying w/no ring on my finger, but I gave up and decided to do it b/c it makes me happy. I''ve started a binder w/pages of things that I like (also a PS idea), such as: websites i''ve encountered or specific ideas, for e.g., someone on PS suggested something other than a typical guest book..have everybody sign the mat part of the frame and put that around a wedding pic and frame it. So I wrote that down and put it in my binder so I won''t forget it. If we use it, great, if not, that''s ok too.
Place: I know this gorgeous garden nearby that I would like but haven''t looked elsewhere and it''s probably way too much $.
Size: my bf and I just talked about this and he thought he''d invite about 10 people total

while my guest list will be a tad bit bigger..maybe 50ish. So that will be interesting.
Dress: cut out some pics but don''t want to spend that much so i''ll see what works w/in the budget. I''m not a fan of my arms though so i''d like to find a non-strapless dress. Maybe by then i''ll be in better shape!
Invitations: i''d actually like to do my own, not sure what style but fairly simple and pretty and maybe have a little ribbon attached somehow..maybe cut out two holes at the top and tie a little bow.
Blenheim, those invitations are really pretty! Maybe you can somehow add a graphic like that to your invitations if you''re trying to save $.
Date: I just want it to be warm out, and I''d prefer not to have it in the month which he was previously married. He thinks that is a bit silly but would anyone else feel the same?
Centerpieces: I like the idea of floating candles and a flower or two in an inexpensive glass bowl.

So yes, i''m guilty! This has actually helped me not focus on the proposal so much. Now I have all these other things that i''m thinking about so it''s easier for me to wait. No, I haven''t talked to my bf about buying magazines or any of these specific ideas. We talk generally and have talked a little about various things but I don''t see him wanting to get into details until we truly are planning. And i''m ok w/that.

 

[firebirdgold]

oh, I''m very guilty! I have a hidden stash of bridal magazines and books. But we are close, and we have talked about it before... and I just don''t care when people (mother) tell me I''m jinxing it because it can''t be jinxed! (not by a bridal magazine at least)

Location: A sandy beach on some Island in Hawaii. Dependent on bf''s opinions and plane ticket prices for his family.
Date: Optimistic = Jan 1st - 10th ''07. Middle ground = March 9th - 11th, Pessimistic = May 12th through June. (I''ve gone back to college for a cs degree.)
Size: Basically elopment + immediate family for a grand total of 10 including us.
Budget: who knows. probably under 15k. and yes I can manage to spend that much on a wedding this size

Dress: er... obviously something fit for a beach that''s not too fussy.
Food: Sushi. (bf loves his sushi!)

 

[Selkie]

Indie, what happened to the Oregon coast hotel idea? Not that Hawaii isn''t nice too!

 

[E B]

Blenheim, your dress description immediately made me think of this gown from Watters (Watters gowns tend to be pretty affordable, too!):

Watters Lace Gown

You like?

 

[firebirdgold]

I think he''s been getting a bit traumatized by his sister''s traditional wedding.
And now my sister is getting married this summer at a very non-traditional DW in Tuscany. He has made a few jokes about marrying the wrong sister when I''d tell him about her plans.

So it''s mostly his idea to do the elopement + family-only on a beach (barefoot). And, no offense ladies, but the more I read on the BIW board the less I want anything remotely resembling a traditional wedding! No centerpieces, no band, no favors, no guests, nada! I''ll probably get more ideas from sis-dear''s wedding. (mine not his... oy!)

Ebree Thanks for the dress link!

That''s a beautiful dress perfect for a beach.

 

[Blenheim]

Ebree, thanks for the link! The shoulders and the overall look are exactly what I was talking about, but I''m not sure if the silouette would be as flattering on my body as I would like. Hmm, maybe this means I need to go dress shopping?

Indie (heehee), I know what you mean. The more I read about wedding planning, the more I don''t want to deal with most of it. I think it''s wonderful when brides can find beautiful centerpieces and favors that they love but I personally don''t feel like looking for them or spending the money. We''ll be married whether we have them or not, and that''s the important thing, right?

But I generally love dresses and stationary, so of course I''m focusing on those two aspects right now. Oh, and I''ve picked out three attendants. They just don''t know it yet.

 

[firebirdgold]

Ok, I''ll admit to loving stationary too! Even though we''ll have no call for invitations.. we can do announcements instead! Right! I still get to use stationary, right!

heh heh heh.

 

[E B]

Blenheim,

I love the invitations from whiteaisle.com too, but they're way over our invitation budget. $4.00+ per invite was about twice what I wanted to spend, so I did a little research. Turns out, with some cool graphics (that you can buy from a vector site for $1 a graphic!), we're going to create one that'll look a lot like the whiteaisle invite we love, but for half the cost (including petal envelopes!). If you're keeping your wedding budget small, I'd suggest checking out DIY options.

www.paper-source.com is a great starting point.

 

[Blenheim]

Ok, I''ve collected my thoughts on wedding dresses a little bit more, and these are the kind of things that I''m talking about:

Lazaro

White One/W1

Plus the one that Ebree suggested. Or, if we decide to get married in the winter, maybe a strapless gown with a white fur stole.

Ebree, thank you for the invitation idea. When I''m not so sleepy, I''ll have to look into it.

 

[swt_acacia]

Date: 4/18/2006 12:39:52 PM
Author: anchor31
A few months back we had a bit of fun in here... https://www.pricescope.com/community/threads/how-much-pre-engagement-wedding-planning.35583/


A few of the ladies who posted in this thread are engaged now, but it was fun.

Hah! Cool! Anchor - I just happened to notice your post was number 1234 for you! That only happens once!

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[jesterjigger]

I have to say I''m glad to see I''m not too alone. I didn''t start really looking at anything until three or four weeks ago when we went ring shopping for the first time. Since we bought one on Saturday I can''t stop! My big dilemma is that my bf and I are moving to Korea for a year in June. I''m trying to decide if we should do some planning beforehand or not, since I don''t want to be engaged for much over a year if possible. But I think we''ve kind of decided to wait and see if the locations we like are available once we get back for a time far enough out to allow for planning, and to take it from there. Though I''m seriously considering dress shopping when I''m home in Ohio for a few days before shipping out, so that I won''t have to wait for the dress to come once I''ve picked it upon returning. I don''t know though...I''m just itchy to do *something*, anything, lol. But I haven''t bought a bridal magazine yet, I''ll wait until I have the ring for that. But I do watch "Whose Wedding is it Anyway" obsessively. Last night we were watching it and bf tells me that if there''s one thing he''s learned from this show is that he wants a wedding planner, that whatever it costs, it''ll be worth it. I''m not sure we''ll be able to afford it, but he''s worried about me being too stressed out with actually planning a wedding. Anyone have any idea as to what a wedding planner costs?

 

[laurel_aurelia]

BLENHEIM:

i got engaged about 7 months ago.. (i feel like it was just yesterday!).

a)i live in Virginia and can give you ideas for if you want to get married here (i''m a photographer so i know a lot of other wedding photographers, caterers, florists, etc.. i have tons of stuff from OUR planning!).

we''re getting married at Maymont in Richmond, virginia: www.maymont.org in the italian gardens.
other places in richmond:

the jefferson hotel (not cheap but BEAUTIFUL -- think Tiffany''s stained glass ceiling)

lewis ginter botanical gardens

bristow manor

etc.

and, as far as lace dresses are concerned, i am IN LOVE with this one (although mine is like the exact opposite of it haha):

http://www.maggiesottero.com/dress.aspx?pageSize=8&style=J977

http://www.maggiesottero.com/dress.aspx?pageSize=8&showAll=1&style=A563

http://www.maggiesottero.com/dress.aspx?pageSize=8&showAll=1&style=J135 (lots of lace!)

http://www.maggiesottero.com/dress.aspx?pageSize=8&showAll=1&style=J111

(maggie sottero has others with similar lace sleeves, as well.)

http://www.davidsbridal.com/bridal_gowns_detail.jsp?stid=2293&prodgroup=127


and, for the girl who liked lace in general - this is strapless; i almost bought it with an ivory ribbon. TONS of lace, very sparkly. HUGE beautiful train. (it''s quite heavy though!). i ended up buying something 3 times as expensive, oops.

http://www.davidsbridal.com/bridal_gowns_detail.jsp?stid=962&prodgroup=127