what should we call Mother of the Groom''s boyfriend in the program?

[sumbride]

Seriously, don''t have a clue on this one. M and I want to put him in the program. She says she "doesn''t care" because she''s mad at us right now about something else. She and her boyfriend have been together about 15 years, they are not married and have no plans to marry, but live as if they are. He''s certainly not M''s step-father.

So what do we call him?

Mother of the Groom''s Escort?

Mother of the Groom''s "Special Friend" (my mom says this is standard but it just strikes me as "icky"

Something else? Anybody else in this situation?

 

[ladyciel]

I wonder if there''s a way to do it without giving him a title, per se. Like with a verb: "Escorting the Mother of the Groom is Mr. Longtime Boyfriend."

other idea.... Escort the to Mother of the Groom (for some reason saying it as MOG''s Escort makes me think "hired escort?"

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[labbielove]

Oh God, not special friend

I agree- totally icky.

I think escort would be ok-
Mother of the Groom........"FIs Mom''s name"
Escorted by.................."Mr. Boyfriend''s name"

or
MOG''s Escort............"Mr. Boyfriend''s name"

I can''t decide which.

 

[Tacori E-ring]

Date: 9/15/2007 7:16:15 PM
Author: labbielove
I think escort would be ok-

Mother of the Groom........''FIs Mom''s name''

Escorted by..................''Mr. Boyfriend''s name''

I like that (if you are going to put him in at all).

 

[Independent Gal]

Could you just say "Mrs. XYZ, Mother of the Bride and Mr. ABC." and leave it at that? You know, the way people introduce "His Excellency George Plummymouth and Mrs. Plummymouth''.

 

[karasue91]

Date: 9/15/2007 7:24:54 PM
Author: Independent Gal
Could you just say ''Mrs. XYZ, Mother of the Bride and Mr. ABC.'' and leave it at that? You know, the way people introduce ''His Excellency George Plummymouth and Mrs. Plummymouth''.

Haha I agree with Independent Gal.....I have a stepfather and even though he and my mom are married and have been for quite some time, I certainly don''t want there to be a title with "Parents of the Bride" with his name there. I would much prefer there to be just names and no titles, if people want to know they can ask the other people at the wedding what the relationship is. I like the wording of "Jane Doe, Mother of the Bride, and Joe Shmoe".

 

[lauralu]

i don''t think escort is appropriate at all. i would just put

name of your mom along with mother of the bride. Than just your moms boyfriends name right after that. same sentence. No title , just his name right after your moms.

example. Eileen Sun mother of the bride and Joe Rain.

Anyone who knows your family already knows who he is. People who do not will either ask or won''t be interested in knowing.

I just think special friend and escort is not a good idea.JMHO

 

[sumbride]

These are all great ideas but I'm not sure how they work with the layout I have.

My side says "Parents of the Bride" and then my parents underneath: Mr. & Mrs. Sumbride'sparents. Directly across from that we have "Mother of the Groom" and then her name underneath. There's a space under her name that's blank because on my side I have my Grandmother listed. His isn't attending. I would think he'd go there, but if not, I'd need to change the title for her. Maybe "Mother of the Groom and Escort"

So it's like this, but imagine more space between the two... like columns. it won't let me make it look right.


Parents of the Bride Mother of the Groom
MyParentsNames HisMom'sName



Grandmother of the Bride
Granni's name

 

[door knob solitaire]

Parents of the Bride Mother of the Groom
Mr.Joe Frank JR. and Linda Sumbride Ms. Walker with Mr. Jig Alow

My take is you are already categorizing a union and a single. As in your phrase "Parents", parents=2. And the use of the word Mother is already indicating a single individual. You will probably use a Ms. instead of Mrs...again another indication that you are introducing or announcing ONE person. You are columnizing...and if you want to include the DUDE with respect on the same line as she...the use of WITH or ALONG WITH or simply AND would be most appropriate and understood by most in attendance.

This is also a respectful way of indicating the MAN with her is NOT the grooms father. There will be a few that don''t know it and it is appropriate for you to differentiate and yet still be thoughtful to include him.

Or the easy fix is to ask them to elope before the ceremony and you could then have them as Mr and Mrs Jig Alow.

DKS

I can''t get the font to return to normal size...I tried. Please don''t take these as my screaming!!

 

[sumbride]

DKS... that''s PERFECT! Thank you!!! YAY!!!!!

 

[door knob solitaire]

Really? Cool. Glad to have been helpful.

DKS

you did get what I called him, right?

 

[sumbride]

yeah, "Jig a Low"! love it! he''d actually get a kick out of that! And he''d call you sweetheart for calling him a gigolo!

he says "I ain''t never getting married again!" and she is getting half her ex-husband''s pension so it''s a situation that... ummm... "works" for them... they''re the most dysfunctional non-married couple I''ve ever met. They fight CONSTANTLY. but hey, it''s companionship, I guess. At least FI and I can look at them and say "I never want to be like THAT."

 

[diamondfan]

I think if you put her name and then escorted by, people will know that this is her partner. Most of the guests of your boyfriend will know they a couple I assume.

 

[diamondfan]

I think if you put her name and then escorted by, people will know that this is her partner. Most of the guests of your boyfriend will know they a couple I assume.

 

[Harleigh]

I like her name and "escorted by Mr. Jig Alow" and agree that DKS''s version looked good. That''s definitely an interesting dilemma to have! Good luck!

 

[sumbride]

Ms.HisMom escorted by Mr. JigALow - that will work! thanks!


Most of his guests know but he''s only invited a small percentage of the guests so I''m sure my mom''s friends will be wondering what the situation is... but this will clear it up without making me say "ick".