What to do with the flower girl?

[NuggetBrain]

So my FI sisters are both going to be bridesmaids in the wedding, and our niece (who will be almost 5 at that point) will be the flower girl. I know she''s not too young to be the flower girl, but I''m envisioning all sorts of issues expecting her to stand still next to her mother for 20 minutes during the ceremony. Would it look wierd to have her do her flower duties and then go sit with grandma and grandpa in the front? My FI thinks that will look wierd.

 

[ams0124]

I don't think that'll look weird. I'm doing the same thing. FI's sisters are both bridesmaids, and their husbands are groomsmen, so the flowergirl and both ring bearers will sit with grandpa and grandma. I think the oldest of the 3 (one of the ring bearers) will stand with his dad for as long as he wants...and if in the middle of the ceremony he wants to sit down that's fine.

I don't want unhappy small children yelling in the middle of the ceremony because they don't want to sit or they don't want to stand...as long as they don't run up and down the aisle I don't really care where they are during the ceremony

 

[zipzapgirl]

It is absolutely ok for the flower girl to go sit down after walking down the aisle. Depending on how mature and calm the child is, some of them really wouldn''t make it through the 20 minutes or so standing still up front. With our ring bearer, we told him he could try to stay up there, but if he got shy or restless, he should just quietly walk down to his mom in the second row. I think a lot of people do that when they have young attendants.

It far beats the alternative... I spent a good part of a wedding where I was bridesmaid chasing the flower girl around the front of the church choir area and explaining to her why the bride couldn''t pick her up just then... during the ceremony... with her not so quiet toddler voice...

 

[lala2332]

I would let the child go sit down. It is asking a lot of her to stand still that long, especially because she will be bored. Its just asking for trouble. have her go sit down and maybe even have a pencil and piece of paper for her to color on if the ceremony is going to be long, or if its just been a long day for her in general. Anything to keep her attention and quiet.

 

[sparklyheart]

I''ve only been in 1 wedding where the flower girl stood at the front.. And she spend the whole time picking up petals and re-throwing them, pointing out the airplanes, and talking to the bridesmaids!! It was super cute.. but an example of how they aren''t always able to stand at the front and be quiet. Other than that time, the flower girl always sits in the first or second row with a family member.

 

[Morgie44]

I think that is totally fine, I attended a wedding last weekend they did this and I think it worked out perfect!

 

[CNOS128]

Ours sat down with her grandparents! This was definitely the best option for her.

 

[cocolaw]

not weird at all! she''s a young child! i don''t think anybody will even notice.

 

[NuggetBrain]

Awesome - thanks ladies!