What''s the threshold for "________ and ________" versus "+1"?

[musey]

When you address your invitations, how do you decide who to address them to?

For example, my brother has a girlfriend who he will have been with for a little less than a year by the time we send out our invitations. Should I address the invitation to "Musey's Brother and ____________" or as "Musey's Brother +1"? (If that makes sense...)

 

[neatfreak]

My rule is if I know their name and know that they WILL be the guest of choice for that person, I write their name. Hope that helps!

 

[chicagolawyer]

I don''t know what the actual rule is, but if the relationship is serious and you know the primary invitees significant other by name, I think it''s nice to include them.

I have been upset at being "and guested" twice. The most recent one was just a few days ago. FI and I have now been engaged for 6 months. The bride to be was friends with me in college (better friends w/ FI though), and she knows we are engaged as she has asked FI several times how the wedding planning is going. I mean seriously...is it really that much trouble to write my freaking name down?

 

[KimberlyH]

DH and I recieved invites to 3 weddings while dating. The first was from my friends who had never met him (we were LD and had only been together for 6 months) and he was an "and guest" the second and third were after I moved to live near him and were both from his friends, I was included on each invitation. It was a nice touch on the part of the bride and groom, but I also understand why my friends didn''t include him at that stage in our relationship. If they''re serious and you know for sure she is who he''ll be bringing I''d write her name. If they''re dating, but you''re not friendly/familiar with her and their relationship I''d put "and guest."

 

[musey]

Date: 5/5/2007 10:13:58 PM
Author: chicagolawyer
I have been upset at being ''and guested'' twice.

So, if I don''t like his girlfriend, I should "and guest" her?

(kidding, of course!!

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Thanks everyone! That one was really stumpin me.