When did you know?

[redfaerythinker]

I was leafing through a bridal magazine this evening (my secret passion) and I got to thinking about how exactly I knew that my FF was the one for me. And I decided that it would be interesting to see how everyone else knew. Was it love at first sight, or was it a moment in time?

I''ll start... Although there are many times that I can think of there are two that really stick out to me. On July 3 of 2007(wow) my bf fell off his bike and broke his arm in three places. He was immediately rushed into surgery and even though he was gonna be ok it scared me sooo much. Then later that night my father died. The funeral was four days later and my bf didn''t leave my side, even though he must have felt so sick, on all this medication which made him nauseous and tired. He couldn''t move his whole arm and his fingers were all swollen and he couldn''t even straighten them out but as he sat next to me at the funeral, he tried to "stroke" me. It was so sweet and a little funny because it ended up being more of a petting motion. But it was so "him". And then the second was a couple weeks later when it was finally starting to hit me that my dad was really gone, he sat up all night with me and held me in his lap and rocked me. It made me cry even harder, but he never let me go. I''m all teary eyed just thinking about it. I just feel so lucky.

Sorry this was so long!

 

[ktdid]

Hi! I''m new to the forum so I hope it''s ok to jump in and post! I work nights so I have time to lurk on all the boards

I''m dating a guy that I was set up with through his brother! We talked for 2 weeks on the phone and emailed before we finally met for dinner. I pulled up at the restaurant and saw him sitting in his car. As we walked in to eat and as we sat there for a few hours I knew I was going to marry this man! And less than 1 year ago I went through and ugly divorce and I''ve sworn I''d *never* get married again! This guy has taught me to trust and to love again and that is amazing to me : )

 

[FrekeChild]

Ooo...I like this one.

We had an amazing connection over the internet (IMs, e-mails) and hours and hours of telephone time before we actually met face to face, and I really thought, it''s really only a matter of time before this becomes something big...

For me it was the day after we made it official when we were walking through Mandalay Bay, past a advert for the wedding chapel, and I thought to myself, "Wow, I could marry this guy." After knowing each over for only a little over a month. Some things have just reaffirmed it, like when we stayed up talking all night the night before he had heart valve replacement surgery (he''s only 25! It was a birth defect). When my mom suggested that we move in together to help save money so he could pay his medical bills from his surgery faster-and she''s a staunch Catholic who is against cohabiting.

Or when my mom''s friend asked, "Is he The One?" and in my mom''s presence, I said, "Yeah, he''s it." without any hesitation. And I''d never told her that before. Or a night only a couple of weeks ago when I was talking on the phone to my mom and she was telling me that her cancer had come out of remission, and I stopped moving and talking except to respond. And he sensed that something was wrong, and came up from behind to hold me.

He''s pretty amazing, and I''m awfully glad he''s mine.

 

[sunnyd]

i think for me it was similar to freke's - i have no problem talking about our future to both of our moms! though i think they knew already, because they've told us that we can't breakup because our families are now close friends and it would ruin it (haha). and when my BF tells them that we won't, it just makes me weak!

being able to do that (expressing to the moms) is new for both of us, it makes me feels like neither of us have any doubt about our future, so that's how i know. ...at least that's one of a hundred reasons.

 

[MissErin]

Great post RedFaeryThinker!! This is a fun topic!!

Let''s see... Eric was actually my teachers assistant in an emergency medical tech. class I was taking. He used to try to give me a hard time with CPR. (even though I have been a lifeguard for over 7 years and kind of know CPR - haha) He would also stare at me a lot... Which I found odd... haha Then one night he asked to walk me up to my car at the end of class and we stood in the parking lot for 4 hours just talking. That''s when I knew he was the guy for me. He had all the qualities I wanted and he was who I pictured spending the rest of my life with.

Now we look back and crack up about those days. He always tells me I gave him dirty looks. hehe It will make a fun toast on our wedding night. hehe

 

[Keepingthefaith21]

My SO and I, like many on this board, had many long in-depth conversations. We spent almost 3 years becoming the best of friends.

One 4th of July we had spent the day celebrating with a small group of friends. We decided to hit up the local 7-11 for some supplies we were running low on. It makes no sense at all but as he was walking out of the store he shot me a smile a mile wide and I remember saying to myself “I’m going to marry this man.” The kicker is I felt that sure of him and we did not begin dating for another 11 months. I knew he was the one for me long before we ever kissed or shared some of the more difficult aspects of life together.

 

[musey]

I didn't have a "moment" before we got engaged, it just always felt right.

However, I did have a post-engagement "moment" that quelled my cold feet! I was in a car accident a couple months ago, and without my even asking, FI excused himself from work in the middle of the afternoon and rushed to my side. He was there, within minutes of the tow truck pulling my car away, to take me home.

It wasn't even that bad of an accident, not an emergency situation at all, and I was close enough to home that I could walk quite easily. But he didn't hesitate.

Any second thoughts or nervous energy I had towards spending the rest of my life with him... gone after that day. I knew that I'd chosen a guy who would always have my back--and not just when it's convenient for him, either.

 

[MissErin]

Date: 1/2/2008 3:17:43 PM
Author: musey
I didn''t have a ''moment'' before we got engaged, it just always felt right.

However, I did have a post-engagement ''moment'' that quelled my cold feet! I was in a car accident a couple months ago, and without my even asking, FI excused himself from work in the middle of the afternoon and rushed to my side. He was there, within minutes of the tow truck pulling my car away, to take me home.

It wasn''t even that bad of an accident, not an emergency situation at all, and I was close enough to home that I could walk quite easily. But he didn''t hesitate.

Any second thoughts or nervous energy I had towards spending the rest of my life with him... gone after that day. I knew that I''d chosen a guy who would always have my back--and not just when it''s convenient for him, either.

*awe* I love that story. It really shows how much he loves and cares for you. Definitly a "he''s the one" moment.

 

[2BMrs.D]

Mine moment was on our second date... New Year''s Eve 2005 we went to one of his friend''s apartments for a get-together with 4-5 other couples (I didn''t know any of them). We were all drinking and having a good time celebrating, then made our way up to the rooftop to see the fireworks being shot off at midnight. My bf and I shared our first kiss that night and that was all it took, I knew from that moment on that he was the one I wanted to spend the rest of my life with!

 

[bee*]

I never had a real moment as I was kind of like Musey in that it always felt right, but I remember after dating for a couple of months and he was driving me home from somewhere and I just said to him, I can''t see us ever breaking up and he totally agreed with me. When my childhood dog had to be put to sleep also, he came straight into see me in work and took me out for lunch. When Amber had her stroke a couple of weeks ago too he was up at my house as soon as he heard, which meant a lot to me.

 

[MoonWater]

Hmm...I don''t remember the exact moment. I can say I knew after 3 months. Not that I was ready to get married, not by a long shot. But somehow I knew that when I did decide to get married, it would be to him.

 

[princesss]

I never had a moment, but if I had any doubts they disappeared a long time ago. I guess it was when I stopped planning my grand escape from the country (originally I was going to be gone the week after graduation) because I didn''t know if he would be up for it. When I couldn''t plan my future without him, it cemented what I already knew. I found my Prince.

 

[Jewels305]

I knew pretty early on, but there was no specific thing initially that made me sure, it was just a feeling.

However, since there was no specific thing that made me have that AHA! moment, I still doubted my feelings. For me, there were a few things in the past year that convinced me that the feelings I was having were legitimate, and that I really did want to spend my life with this man.

In February my Grandfather had a stroke. Right after I heard, I called my BF because I just felt like he was the one I needed to talk to. He insisted on leaving work and driving an hour to be with me and my family. He spent many days and nights with me and my family in the hospital; more time than many of my other family members did. It meant a lot to all of us having him there, and it allowed me to really be able to picture him as my partner for the future. My Grandfather was in the hospital for 2 weeks before he passed away. When my Grandfather passed away, my BF left work right away to come

Then in August, my family had to put our dog to sleep suddenly because although we did not know it, he had a cancerous tumor on his spleen that ruptured. It was a huge shock to all of us because he was fine one day and then he was sick one day so we brought him to the vet, and were told we really didn''t have much of an option, and that it didn''t look good. I called my BF and he drove an hour so that he could be with me for an hour and then drive another hour back home.

Then in October, my other Grandfather was taken to the hospital and was in a nursing home for a month and a half (he got out last week!) and my BF went with me to the nursing home a couple of times each week to be with my Grandfather.

All of these things have been extremely difficult for me, and that he has been there for me each time has been such a consolation, and also helped me to be sure that he''s the man I want to be with through all of the ups and downs that I will go through in my life.

 

[Gemini85]

Funny, we recently asked each other this. We met at 17, and he made less than 1k per month. He wanted to give me a ring for my 18th bday/graduation gift. He saved up about $600 in his bank account and took me to Kay''s to buy a 1/2 ctw three-stone diamond ring for $599. When I found out he spent every single dime he had on me, I just knew I should never let this guy go. He later told me he borrowed an additional $300 from his sister just in case I wanted something bigger. I felt even more sure guys don''t get any better than this. Our graduation date happened to fall on the same day, and he didn''t even attend his HS graduation in order to see me walk and make my speech.

Then I went off to college and was about 1 h 45 mins away from home and him. He would drive after work just to go visit me twice a week, every week. He would take days off of work to take me out, and he even went as far as quiting some of his part-time jobs when he felt like being with me more than working. To save money for our wedding this year, he took on a job out of state that paid him more(2 hours away). He drives 2 hours to be with me on Wednesdays and Saturdays nights. His day off (Sunday) is spent with me until he leaves for work again Monday morning. Even after a long day of work, he would sit up to give me massages that lasts more than 1 hour. I''m not an easy person to please, and after seeing what kind of b***h I can be, he''s still always by my side.

I don''t want to make a long post boring.

You wanna know what he said (as to when HE KNEW)? He said- After 3 weeks of talking, he was driving me home(I was sitting in the back), and he was mad at me from something that happened while we were ice skating, and I touched his face to let him know that I was sorry. He laid his cheek on my hands and then.......he''s been stuck for the past 5 years.

 

[EricaR]

I don't think there was an "ah-ha" moment, it just sort of developed.

I was completely smitten from the moment I met Ken and I think I knew he was going to stick around when I tried to say "good morning" but "I love you" popped out. I turned bright red and went running from the room.

Ken has been by my side through good times and bad and I really can't see myself having gotten though some things as well as I did without him. I've never had any doubts in the back of my head, never any moments of "I can't take this" or "I want to leave" or "I want to see someone else." He's my best friend and I am so thankful to have him in my life.

I look back at previous relationships and there is no comparison between those and what I have now. I am so glad I didn't end up with my high school and college boyfriend because even though we loved each other I think both of us had some growing up to do and in order to do that we had to be apart. Even though I have been through some bad relationships and have been badly hurt, I am almost thankful for all of those experiences because they left me who I am and in the right time and place to meet Ken.

Not sure if I answered the original post or went off on a meaningless rant, but it just sort of flowed off my fingers tonight.

 

[Miscka]

I dont think there was a specific moment, but I knew from very early on that this could be it, and that it was different from the way I felt in the past about other guys. There HAVE been moments that solidified that feeling, just little things he does. Good question!

 

[ksprincess]

I knew that FI was the kind of man I could marry when we first went out as "friends" one summer we were both in NYC during college. Although we didn't start dating until four months later we said our "I love you's" after only like 2 weeks. I think I realize he's the one for me more and more each day as I realize that our love for each other is truly unconditional. I truly realized I could marry him when I saw that even when we were going through bad times and it wasn't any "fun" neither one of us was going to walk away.