When everyone ELSE is the bridezilla...

[rfath]

It''s weird.. I''ve gotten stressed over random things concerning my wedding, but mostly I''m pretty relaxed about it.. my fiance, on the other hand - wow! He''s quite traumatized by the whole process, letting his parents push ALL of his panic-stress buttons at once and having complete meltdowns to the point of not being able to cope or complete wedding tasks (which makes him even more stressed and overloaded). Sometimes I get a sneaking feeling that he forgets that I''m also getting married

. Oh, the drama!

My sister honestly complained to my mother that I seemed to have the mistaken notion that the wedding was ALL ABOUT ME. Oh dear...

Fiance''s parents have been spamming my email inbox with random panics and worries - do we really have to be responsible for making sure that everyone leaves their own homes on time for arrival at the rehearsal?

I''m excited about the wedding, but really, I''m looking forward to after the wedding....

 

[MelissaSue]

I''m sorry rfath - hang in there! Just stay relaxed and try to keep your FI and his parents calm..What is FI panicking about so much?!
As for your sister.. ignore her. That sounds like an EXTREME case of jealousy to me!

 

[Rube]

Isn''t it weird when that happens? Everyone wonders why YOU are not stressed? I found that the only times I had any anxiety about planning our wedding was a direct result of OTHER people being anxious.

I told my husband that I had a wonderful wedding day, enjoyed the food, our family and friends, the ceremony was beautiful, the weather was perfect- but the "best day of my life" was the day after when we were alone.

For 48 hours we limited our human contact to room service.

And I agree with MelissaSue, your sister may have a case of jealous-ness. I mean, after reading all your wedding details, your wedding does sound pretty dang FABULOUS!

P.S. I just looooove your flowers!!!!!

 

[LollyBear]

rfath,
Sorry to hear you're having so much drama. If it's any consolation, my sister is being a bit of a bridesmaidzilla! I can't believe that so many people trying to make what is supposed to be OUR day about THEM. What gives?
Just try not to pay too much attention to them. They'll eventualy leave you alone if you don't play to them. Remember it IS all about YOU. Enjoy it!

 

[rfath]

Melissa - the most dramatic was FI declaring that he was cancelling the rehearsal dinner because his parents kept adding people to the invite list as he was trying to book the restaurant. It was an impressing foot-stomping, phone-throwing tantrum the likes of which I've seen in two year olds.

Mostly, though, he's just making me and our housemate miserable with the sulking and declaring that his life is over when something doesn't go the way he'd planned it or if his parents call and bother him.

I think his parents need to feel like martyrs and we just haven't given them a chance to do so, since we've done all the planning ourselves. The only thing we've asked them to be responsible for were their part of the guest list and seating those people. You'd think they were planning how to end world hunger or achieve world peace with the elaborate preparations and considerations.

Cripes. It's a celebration, not a chore. It's not about the obligations of other family members ('their excuse for not coming wasn't good enough! We went to THEIR wedding!') or some tallying of the gifts or favors.

Yes, my sister is jealous. I wish I could understand her better, but somewhere along the way she and I just started thinking completely differently. I understand that she's jealous that her younger sister is getting married before her, but there are probably better ways to deal with those feelings than she's displayed. Not that I can point that out to her, but it makes for some interesting stories to tell other people

Word of the week (actually, word of the month): serenity.

*sigh*