Where to stay the night before and on the wedding night

[zoebartlett]

We''ve blocked off rooms at a hotel 1 mile from the place we''re getting married. I''m not sure what to do for the day before the wedding and for our wedding night.

I have a few questions:

1. Should my FI and I book a hotel room together for Thursday night and then sleep separately on Friday night? If so, I guess I could room with my aunt who will be by herself while my FI keeps our room for Fri night. There''s a two night minimum for all rooms.

2. We''re not going to leave for our honeymoon the day after our wedding. We''ll most likely leave for our trip on Monday or maybe even Tuesday. Where would we stay on our wedding night -- in the same room we''ve booked together? If so, we''ll be among the other blocked off rooms (so, not a whole lot of privacy). Do we get another room at a different hotel all together? This sounds like a good option but there''s a two or even three night minimum at all the hotels in the area. We''d only need it for our wedding night and then after breakfast with family and maybe an outing of some sort, we''d just head home to pack for our honeymoon.

How did you handle this, especially when dealing with 2 or 3 night minimums?

 

[Tacori E-ring]

The night before our wedding I stayed at my parents and DH stayed in his parents hotel room (where the rooms were blocked off). DH REALLY felt strongly about NOT staying there for our wedding night so he got a suite at a fancy downtown hotel (my parents actually stayed at the same hotel on their wedding night 30+ years ago

) so that is where we stayed. Good think b/c I heard there was quite an after party at the main hotel (where our friends and family stayed). The next night we both stayed at my parents (we left the monday after our wedding).

 

[musey]

I assume you don't live close enough to the venue to stay at home the night before? And are there other hotels in the area that don't have minimums? ETA: just saw that there aren't... hmmph. I'm quite unhelpful.

 

[Pandora II]

Our plan is:

Night before

I stay at my parents
FI and some of his Best Men and their partners book into a cottage on a lovely farm near my parents that sleeps 7 with FI getting the best double bedroom.

Night of

FI and I and the Best Men & Partners all stay at the cottage.

After living together for nearly 4 years at that point we''d rather have a fun wedding night chatting with our friends and playing poker before bed than going off on our own to a hotel.

Probably sounds a bit odd, but we used to all go away for holidays together and have a great time so it''s not as if I''d find it embarrassing that they will be in the same house or anything!

We''re going away for a few days after that on our own as a mini-moon and then honeymoon in Nov/Dec

 

[havernell]

1. Staying with your aunt sounds like a good option. Or, would your mom or a close girlfriend want to room with you that night to share your excitement (and then just room with someone else the second night)? Maybe one of your FI''s guy friends could stay with him in his room on Fri night (and, again, then room with someone else the second night)


2. Are there any bed and breakfasts in the area? They may be more flexible than a hotel with the minimum night stays...

If not, you could always call hotels in the area and explain your situation. If they hear its for the night of your wedding, maybe they''d be nice and waive the two night minimum. You never know, and it can''t hurt to ask!

If that doesn''t work and you are stuck at the same hotel as all of your guests, perhaps you and your FI can request a room that is located as far away from your guests'' rooms as possible so you can at least try to have a little privacy. You could also bring a cute "do not disturb" sign to hang on the door to give people the message!

Good luck finding something that works for you!

 

[zoebartlett]

Date: 8/14/2007 7:05:04 PM
Author: musey
I assume you don''t live close enough to the venue to stay at home the night before? And are there other hotels in the area that don''t have minimums? ETA: just saw that there aren''t... hmmph. I''m quite unhelpful.

Unfortunately, all the hotels in that immediate area have minimums since they''re in beach towns, BUT I suppose we could stay at a hotel about 20 minutes away (closer to where we live) on our wedding night. We could travel back the next day to where guests are staying and have breakfast with family before everyone leaves. We''ll see. We live an hour or so from the venue and we really want to be there the day before just to do last minute stuff.

 

[zoebartlett]

Thanks for the suggestions! I may try to call around and explain the situation and see if the minimum can be waived. I''ll also look into B&Bs.

 

[Haven]

I''m late here, but two of my good friends did the same thing and loved it.

Night before: The entire bridal party stayed in a hotel together (and NOT the one that the guests were staying at,) we sat up watching girlie movies (Girls Just Want to Have Fun, When Harry Met Sally, etc.) and acting like little kids at a sleepover. It was so fun!

Night of: The couple got very snazzy rooms at gorgeous downtown hotels far away from the hotel where all the friends and family were staying.

Both couples loved what they did, and the bridal party had so much fun together, AND there was no way anyone could be late the day of the wedding since we all started out together, too.

 

[Kissmark]

Zoe so your wedding is on a Saturday right? Are there other guests who will stay in the same hotel or near the hotel? if so can your FI double up or triple up w/ them the night before your wedding? and you can stay in that hotel by yourself?

 

[sumbride]

I would definitely call and plead your case! We have 3 hotels in our block and FI is staying at the one where all his family is staying, but on the wedding night we''re checking in to another one. The nights we needed (staying thru Tuesday) weren''t available in our room block, but I begged and said "But we''re the bride and groom!" and they allowed it. It NEVER hurts to ask.

FMIL was confused... she just assumed we''d be staying at my PARENT''S house on our wedding night! I said "umm... NO."

 

[kcoursolle]

Fi and I are staying at our parents the night before and we got a hotel room far away from the area where other guests will be staying for the night of. We thought it would have more privacy and we''d be more relaxed at another hotel.