Who should pay for hair/make-up?

[charbie]

kind of along the same lines as "can the BM dress be the gift"- who is paying for hair and makeup (if you have someone else doing it) at your wedding?

i assumed that it was part of the package like the dress, and if girls wanted their hair done, they would pay for it. i found less expensive dresses so that in the end, no one was going to pay more than $200 total to be in the wedding. then i went to a wedding and the bride paid for it (and she is in my wedding). Her dresses were twice the cost of mine though.

i bought all the girls shoes ($45) and am having someone come to do both hair and makeup ($85 combined)- I just figured each girl could give me $100 and that would cover all three.

and i''m getting them each unique earrings in the same color for the wedding, plus flip-flops and a vera bradley cooler (we are getting the GM''s personalized coolers, so i thought i''d keep it in the same kind of family...)

 

[DiamondsforDee]

I''m of the opinion that if the bride requires the bridesmaids to get their hair and make-up professionally done then the bride should pay for it. Now if the bride simply says "Hey Nancy the hairdresser and make-up artist will be at the hotel with us and if you want to get your hair and make-up done it''s $100" then the bride isn''t obligate to pay for anything. She''s just letting the BM''s know that it''s an option.

In my circle it''s fairly common for the bride to require hair and make-up and for the BM''s to pay for themselves so while I wouldn''t do it, if I did no one would think anything of it.

 

[sunnyd]

Date: 8/10/2009 6:02:48 PM
Author: DiamondsforDee
I''m of the opinion that if the bride requires the bridesmaids to get their hair and make-up professionally done then the bride should pay for it. Now if the bride simply says ''Hey Nancy the hairdresser and make-up artist will be at the hotel with us and if you want to get your hair and make-up done it''s $100'' then the bride isn''t obligate to pay for anything. She''s just letting the BM''s know that it''s an option.

In my circle it''s fairly common for the bride to require hair and make-up and for the BM''s to pay for themselves so while I wouldn''t do it, if I did no one would think anything of it.

Agree. I told my girls they could get their hair done if they wanted. I plan on gifting part of the expense as part of their BM gift. It should cover most of it because we found a great stylist who does updos for $40!!

 

[Yimmers]

It varies. I had a BM who expected to cover it herself, as long as the price was reasonable. My friend paid for her dress, hair/makeup, and accessories. My friend paid for the dresses and accessories of her BMs.

I had the BMs pay for their own dresses, but I paid for hair/makeup, some shawls, and individual gifts.

 

[Diva0413]

Date: 8/10/2009 7:49:57 PM
Author: Yimmers
It varies. I had a BM who expected to cover it herself, as long as the price was reasonable. My friend paid for her dress, hair/makeup, and accessories. My friend paid for the dresses and accessories of her BMs.

I had the BMs pay for their own dresses, but I paid for hair/makeup, some shawls, and individual gifts.

Agreed. I have a BM that refuses to let me pay for anything, as long as the price is within reason.

 

[charbie]

Date: 8/10/2009 6:19:14 PM
Author: sunnyd

Date: 8/10/2009 6:02:48 PM
Author: DiamondsforDee
I''m of the opinion that if the bride requires the bridesmaids to get their hair and make-up professionally done then the bride should pay for it. Now if the bride simply says ''Hey Nancy the hairdresser and make-up artist will be at the hotel with us and if you want to get your hair and make-up done it''s $100'' then the bride isn''t obligate to pay for anything. She''s just letting the BM''s know that it''s an option.

In my circle it''s fairly common for the bride to require hair and make-up and for the BM''s to pay for themselves so while I wouldn''t do it, if I did no one would think anything of it.

Agree. I told my girls they could get their hair done if they wanted. I plan on gifting part of the expense as part of their BM gift. It should cover most of it because we found a great stylist who does updos for $40!!

I just wanted to make sure I wasn''t way off base. I''m not requiring it, but everyone expressed an intrest in it when I mentioned that she would be travelling to the house. I definitely didn''t require make-up, but again, said "Hey, she''s going to be here...let me know if you want her to do yours" and everyone loved the idea of getting make-up done. I just didn''t know if it would be rude, and I''ll also be gifting part of the expense- around $25/BM plus the other gifts I''m giving. Thanks for the input!

 

[VRBeauty]

Date: 8/11/2009 12:42:24 AM
Author: charbie

Date: 8/10/2009 6:19:14 PM

Author: sunnyd

Date: 8/10/2009 6:02:48 PM

Author: DiamondsforDee

I''m of the opinion that if the bride requires the bridesmaids to get their hair and make-up professionally done then the bride should pay for it. Now if the bride simply says ''Hey Nancy the hairdresser and make-up artist will be at the hotel with us and if you want to get your hair and make-up done it''s $100'' then the bride isn''t obligate to pay for anything. She''s just letting the BM''s know that it''s an option.


In my circle it''s fairly common for the bride to require hair and make-up and for the BM''s to pay for themselves so while I wouldn''t do it, if I did no one would think anything of it.

Agree. I told my girls they could get their hair done if they wanted. I plan on gifting part of the expense as part of their BM gift. It should cover most of it because we found a great stylist who does updos for $40!!

I just wanted to make sure I wasn''t way off base. I''m not requiring it, but everyone expressed an intrest in it when I mentioned that she would be travelling to the house. I definitely didn''t require make-up, but again, said ''Hey, she''s going to be here...let me know if you want her to do yours'' and everyone loved the idea of getting make-up done. I just didn''t know if it would be rude, and I''ll also be gifting part of the expense- around $25/BM plus the other gifts I''m giving. Thanks for the input!

A nice idea! Just as long as you''ve made it clear to the BM''s that they''ll be expected to contribute towards the cost...

 

[wannaBMrsH]

FI and I are paying for all BP expenses. Considering the dresses came from the Gap and the shoes from Charlotte Russe...the most expensive part was the spa package at $190 per BM. That includes, mani/pedi, 30 minute massage, hair and makeup.

I am not requiring any particular hairstyle or makeup, but these will be the first real family photos for both of our families in many many years. I wanted everyone to look really fabulous!

 

[Dannielle]

Date: 8/11/2009 12:57:04 AM
Author: wannaBMrsH
FI and I are paying for all BP expenses. Considering the dresses came from the Gap and the shoes from Charlotte Russe...the most expensive part was the spa package at $190 per BM. That includes, mani/pedi, 30 minute massage, hair and makeup.

I am not requiring any particular hairstyle or makeup, but these will be the first real family photos for both of our families in many many years. I wanted everyone to look really fabulous!

Thats really nice of you and your FI wannaB

I am also of the opinion that if you want the hair and makeup to be done professionally you should pay for it.

 

[honey22]

It depends on each bride I guess.

I am paying for my BMs flowers, part of their dresses, jewellery and gifts. They are paying $200 for their dresses and their own hair and makeup.

 

[Deelight]

Last wedding I was in the bride paid for the dress (which was really lovely and unexpected) and I paid for the hair/make-up/shoes etc - the hair and make up was expensive ($190) and I personally could have done a better job on the make-up myself and my stylist on the hair.

- For my wedding I am having 2.5 BM's (one is a junior hence the half) and I limited it to that because I plan on paying all expenses associated

My understanding though from other BM's brides say this much and BM's pay and all my other friends have always had to pay for it all themselves - but again it depends on the bride really.

 

[mrscushion]

Date: 8/10/2009 6:02:48 PM
Author: DiamondsforDee
I''m of the opinion that if the bride requires the bridesmaids to get their hair and make-up professionally done then the bride should pay for it. Now if the bride simply says ''Hey Nancy the hairdresser and make-up artist will be at the hotel with us and if you want to get your hair and make-up done it''s $100'' then the bride isn''t obligate to pay for anything. She''s just letting the BM''s know that it''s an option.

That''s what I''m going to do.

 

[princessplease]

My BM's are paying for their own dresses and shoes. They have the option of getting their makeup done by the artist, who charges $50. They already know that the option is there. Updos are $30 at the hairstylist I'm going to, but they have the option to go wherever they want if they want to use their own stylist.
When FSIL got married, we had the option to have our makeup done for $50. She did not pay for any of our makeup or hairstyles.

I'm paying for their jewelry (necklace and earrings) as part of their gift.

 

[musey]

Date: 8/10/2009 6:19:14 PM
Author: sunnyd

Date: 8/10/2009 6:02:48 PM
Author: DiamondsforDee
I''m of the opinion that if the bride requires the bridesmaids to get their hair and make-up professionally done then the bride should pay for it. Now if the bride simply says ''Hey Nancy the hairdresser and make-up artist will be at the hotel with us and if you want to get your hair and make-up done it''s $100'' then the bride isn''t obligate to pay for anything. She''s just letting the BM''s know that it''s an option.

In my circle it''s fairly common for the bride to require hair and make-up and for the BM''s to pay for themselves so while I wouldn''t do it, if I did no one would think anything of it.

Agree. I told my girls they could get their hair done if they wanted. I plan on gifting part of the expense as part of their BM gift. It should cover most of it because we found a great stylist who does updos for $40!!

Agreed here, too.

I was a BM this past spring, and I was not given an option as to whether or not I wanted to get my hair done. I was just ''informed'' (um, the day before the wedding) that I was expected to be at the salon at 7am for my appointment. I paid $60 for a genuinely awful style.

On the flipside, for my wedding last year my MOH (no ''maids) had all her expenses taken care of in my budget. I viewed it as my responsibility to pay for her stuff, unless she made the choice to do extra things. Not everyone sees it that way, though.

 

[ficklefaye]

when the bride wanted our hair and makeup done, she paid for it, otherwise i just did my own hair and makeup, i''m paying for my bms hair and makeup so they don''t have to worry about it on the day off