Who should walk me down the aisle?

[Lucky Ducky]

I have a dilemma - I don''t know who should walk me down the aisle....if anyone.

My parents are divorced and my father never really played an integral part in my life and wrecked my mother''s self esteem while they were married. He will be invited to my wedding, but I don''t want him to walk me down the aisle. My grandfather has been a wonderful person in my life, but I don''t want him to walk me down the aisle if my dad were there - it would be a great insult to my father and might cause unnecessary tension on our special day.

My FI is traditional and thinks I should have my grandfather walk me. I would much rather have my mother walk me or just walk on my own. What should I do?

 

[KimberlyH]

I''m typically all about collaboration and considering what the other half (your fiance) thinks, but in this case I''d have to say you know what''s best. If I were in your shoes, knowing the very little I do, I''d opt for walking down the aisle with mom.

I didn''t think much of the tradition of having my dad give me away, but we actually had a really special, fun moment when he did so. I have a great picture of my laughing hysterically at whatever it was he said while doing so to prove it! ha ha ha Point being, it ended up a much more special moment than I thought it would, and I''m so glad I opted to have him take that short journey with me. I think you''d be glad if your mom does with you.

 

[Kaleigh]

You said you would much rather have your mother walk you down the aisle. I think that's great. She's been the one that's been there for you, so it's fitting that she should be given this honor.

It's about what YOU want on this special day, and what makes YOU comfortable.

 

[gtn]

Date: 1/2/2008 11:00:38 PM
Author: Kaleigh
You said you would much rather have your mother walk you down the aisle. I think that''s great. She''s been the one that''s been there for you, so it''s fitting that she should be given this honor.


It''s about what YOU want on this special day, and what makes YOU comfortable.

I agree with Kaleigh. This is your day. If you want you mother to walk you down the aisle, go for it.

 

[hlmr]

My parents were divorced when I married and I had only my father walk me down the aisle to be "traditional". In retrospect, I wish I''d had both parents, or walked on my own.

Don''t bow to the pressure of others....you''ll never have this day to do over again so be true to your heart, and do what feels right to you.

Best wishes to you.

 

[bee*]

Date: 1/2/2008 11:25:11 PM
Author: gtn

Date: 1/2/2008 11:00:38 PM

Author: Kaleigh

You said you would much rather have your mother walk you down the aisle. I think that''s great. She''s been the one that''s been there for you, so it''s fitting that she should be given this honor.



It''s about what YOU want on this special day, and what makes YOU comfortable.

I agree with Kaleigh. This is your day. If you want you mother to walk you down the aisle, go for it.

I agree with these girls. If you want your mother to walk you down the aisle, then have her.

 

[lauralu]

another vote for mother!

 

[kellybelly]

lucky,
i am in sort of a similar spot. my parents have been divorced since i was about 3 years old, my father never made an effort to really be part of my life (also lived about 1800 miles away). my half brother (same father) i am close with and he will be part of my wedding. however, i am not even inviting my father. we plan on getting married in a church, so it would be nice to have someone "give me away" and i think that will be my mom......either that, or my two nephews, which i think would be sort of cute (they are 14 and 12).

bottom line is that YOU need to feel comfortable either walking alone or with someone. if i were you, i would either go it alone or choose mom.

best wishes!

 

[partyjewels]

My parents got divorced right around the time I turned 18, so while it''s not like my mom raised me on her own, these past couple of years she has been the one to be there for me when I needed her without question. I considered just having my mom walk me, but decided that even though he hasn''t been around lately, he was still a big part of my life for those first 18 years, and I couldn''t ignore that.

From what you''ve written, I think that you should have your mom walk you down. If for some reason your mom wasn''t able too then it would make sense for your grandfather to do it if you are close with him, but since she''s able to do so, I think it makes perfect sense!

 

[Lucky Ducky]

Thanks for all your advice! I think if I were to have anyone walk me it would be my mom. I appreciate all of your responses.
-LD