Whooo hooo!!! We''re Married!!!

[Sujuann]

Our day was great!!! Fabulous!!! Awesome!! I can''t wait to really write about it so that will be later. We did get rained out and I threw a two-year old temper tantrum but it was still beautiful!

Before we leave for our honeymoon tomorrow, I wanted to ask my Pricescope fam a question. See, we had so much going on... becasue of the rain we were 30 minutes late (worked for guests though becasue traffic delayed them); we played a very cool video as our entrance (which went off GREAT!!); Dinner was fantastic; had a dress change; bouwuet toss; garter retrival; choerographed first dance; dance with parents.... but I have this uneasyness.

I think it could be that I did not get to get to all of our table to say thank you. But we did say thank you on the mic before we cut the cake. Was that enough? I feel horrible about not being able to get to all of our guests but there was so much going on. Was I mean? ARRRGGHHHH!! I can''t shake this feeling. I cried now twice but everything else was PERFECT!!! There were a ton of people that came ot us which I so much appreciated. But we didn''t to "table touches" with everyone and I jsut don''t want to be looked at as mean. But EVERYONE said they had a great time! They said it was a great paty! Heck we even had a ton of people ther euntil the end!

I don''t know if it''s that or the fact that I have been planning this wedding for 15 months and now is done. Maybe that is the uneasiness. But I was wondering if anyone knows what I am feeling? Did you all get to talk to every guest? Is there something called, "After-The-Weddingitis"? I just thought I would ask.

Can''t wait to give the details with pics!!!

 

[robbie3982]

I didn''t get to talk to everyone either and I definitely felt bad about it too. As far as I know, no one else is upset about it though. I think most guests realize that there''s so much going on that it''s really hard for the bride and groom to get around to everyone.

 

[sumbride]

Oh honey, I''m STILL going through that!!! I think it''s totally normal... we spent all this time planning and then it''s over... and we can''t change how it went, and we can''t do it over, and I think there''s always a bit of regret. I''m sad about doing my father-daughter dance while everyone was in the other room in line for cake. I mean REALLY sad about it. I was listening to the song yesterday and cried a bit because I can''t do it over. But that''s regret for you. What can you do? I''m thinking about having a "the wedding is OVER" party with some wine and some sage to cleanse myself of the wedding planning vibes. We''re not planning weddings anymore, we''re in our marriages now and we have to move forward!

As for whether people thought it was rude, I have been told that everyone realizes how busy it is and people understand. I still feel bad that I didn''t even recognize my great uncle because I hadn''t seen him in 15 years and when I did see him it was all of 3 minutes. My mom''s drunk neighbor? I had to talk to her for 15 minutes. Wish I could have switched that.

Enjoy your honeymoon and try to shake off the regret. You can''t do it over again. And when it''s thank you note time, make them personal!

 

[RoseAngel04]

We also weren't able to visit every table....we tried, there just wasn't enough time. I think guests understand it. Thankfully a lot of our guests came to us, which was nice. My feeling is, if they wanted to talk to you that badly they would have made sure to come and say hello. For the most part I think people understand that in a large wedding it's really hard to thank everyone personally. Don't let it bother you anymore! Enjoy your newlywed bliss and honeymoon!

 

[janinegirly]

same thing happened to us, and we had a small wedding! people kept coming up to us and then all the sudden the night was over. we did start at one table but then stayed too long (started talking too much) and then everyone was on the dancefloor so tables were empty!

it''s not an easy feat...i''m relieve to hear we don''t have to feel too guilty about it

 

[Sujuann]

Date: 10/31/2007 12:55:37 PM
Author: robbie3982
I didn''t get to talk to everyone either and I definitely felt bad about it too. As far as I know, no one else is upset about it though. I think most guests realize that there''s so much going on that it''s really hard for the bride and groom to get around to everyone.

Thanks, Robbie! So far, no one has said anything about it but just me apoloqizing! LOL One guest said that it was a shame that they could not spend more time with us but they understood. I think I was beating myself up more than anyone else. But it''s good to hear that I am not crazy for thinking/feeling that way. Everyone said they had an awesome time so that''s great!

 

[Sujuann]

Date: 10/31/2007 1:26:15 PM
Author: sumbride
Oh honey, I''m STILL going through that!!! I think it''s totally normal... we spent all this time planning and then it''s over... and we can''t change how it went, and we can''t do it over, and I think there''s always a bit of regret. I''m sad about doing my father-daughter dance while everyone was in the other room in line for cake. I mean REALLY sad about it. I was listening to the song yesterday and cried a bit because I can''t do it over. But that''s regret for you. What can you do? I''m thinking about having a ''the wedding is OVER'' party with some wine and some sage to cleanse myself of the wedding planning vibes. We''re not planning weddings anymore, we''re in our marriages now and we have to move forward!

As for whether people thought it was rude, I have been told that everyone realizes how busy it is and people understand. I still feel bad that I didn''t even recognize my great uncle because I hadn''t seen him in 15 years and when I did see him it was all of 3 minutes. My mom''s drunk neighbor? I had to talk to her for 15 minutes. Wish I could have switched that.

Enjoy your honeymoon and try to shake off the regret. You can''t do it over again. And when it''s thank you note time, make them personal!

Thanks, too, Sumbride! I love the idea of the wedding is over party!!! and I''ll definitely take your advice on the personal thank you notes!

 

[Sujuann]

Date: 10/31/2007 1:34:30 PM
Author: RoseAngel04
We also weren''t able to visit every table....we tried, there just wasn''t enough time. I think guests understand it. Thankfully a lot of our guests came to us, which was nice. My feeling is, if they wanted to talk to you that badly they would have made sure to come and say hello. For the most part I think people understand that in a large wedding it''s really hard to thank everyone personally. Don''t let it bother you anymore! Enjoy your newlywed bliss and honeymoon!

You make a GREAT point, RoseAngel04! There were a lot of people that came up to us during the reception and we were on the dance floor all night! We make it a point to visit the bride and groom before we leave weddings jsut to say hi. So, I think you have a great point! I won''t let it bother me anymore!! :

Thanks!

 

[Sujuann]

Date: 10/31/2007 2:09:08 PM
Author: janinegirly
same thing happened to us, and we had a small wedding! people kept coming up to us and then all the sudden the night was over. we did start at one table but then stayed too long (started talking too much) and then everyone was on the dancefloor so tables were empty!

it''s not an easy feat...i''m relieve to hear we don''t have to feel too guilty about it

Definitely, Janinegirly, it does feel good that we don''t have to feel guilty!

I knew you all would help me feel better! Thanks!!!!