TheNextMrsB
Rough_Rock
- Joined
- Jul 20, 2008
- Messages
- 44
I''m afraid that I''m going to go crazy. How do you ladies avoid bringing up marriage every two hours? It''s gotten to the point where I make a comment at least once a day, at which time my boyfriend will kindly say, "I was wondering when that was coming," or "wow, you waited a long time today," or something along those lines. He''s never accused me of nagging-he understands how I feel.
Anyway, we''ve agreed not to talk about it for a year. A whole year. We had planned to get engaged next year, but after he''s given it some more thought, he''s not sure, anymore. He says he COULD do it next year, as in, he thinks he''ll be ready emotionally, but, like many men, he expects certain things to be in place before he proposes, and after giving it some more thought, he doesn''t think next year would be the proper time. He believes that in a year he''ll have a better grasp on the specifics of his future, and I''m hoping that giving him some time will allow him to figure out what he wants and when, and hopefully, it''ll give him some room to get excited about engagement again all on his own.
Of course I''m upset that he didn''t think that through before he told me we''d get engaged next year, but I''ve gotten over it. He''s only 21, and I''m his first serious girlfriend, so I''m trying to give him his space and time to figure things out. He has assured me that he is going to propose, but he just doesn''t know when that will be. He could surprise me and propose next year like he had planned, but of course, I''m not going to plan on that.
It''s just that now, I don''t really know what to do. I was already in that mindset of "we''re getting engaged next year." I don''t think about it constantly, but it pops into my head quite often. How do I forget about getting engaged? How do I stop myself from bring it up in conversation? How do you ladies keep yourselves from bugging him constantly?
Anyway, we''ve agreed not to talk about it for a year. A whole year. We had planned to get engaged next year, but after he''s given it some more thought, he''s not sure, anymore. He says he COULD do it next year, as in, he thinks he''ll be ready emotionally, but, like many men, he expects certain things to be in place before he proposes, and after giving it some more thought, he doesn''t think next year would be the proper time. He believes that in a year he''ll have a better grasp on the specifics of his future, and I''m hoping that giving him some time will allow him to figure out what he wants and when, and hopefully, it''ll give him some room to get excited about engagement again all on his own.
Of course I''m upset that he didn''t think that through before he told me we''d get engaged next year, but I''ve gotten over it. He''s only 21, and I''m his first serious girlfriend, so I''m trying to give him his space and time to figure things out. He has assured me that he is going to propose, but he just doesn''t know when that will be. He could surprise me and propose next year like he had planned, but of course, I''m not going to plan on that.
It''s just that now, I don''t really know what to do. I was already in that mindset of "we''re getting engaged next year." I don''t think about it constantly, but it pops into my head quite often. How do I forget about getting engaged? How do I stop myself from bring it up in conversation? How do you ladies keep yourselves from bugging him constantly?
300x240.png)