Women: Do you know your place?

[ang3199]

Got this in an email and apparently it is from a real magazine from the 50''s. I got a good laugh out of it! I hope you can all read the tiny print!

 

[door knob solitaire]

What...isn''t that the norm?

 

[ang3199]

hehehhehhehe. Oh DKS...

 

[TravelingGal]

This has been circulating for ages. Obviously some of the advice sounds outdated, but I know a lot of women that follow quite a few of these tips without being some kind of bassackwards house slave....

 

[monarch64]

I''ve seen this before floating around in email and even here on PS maybe a year ago. It''s pretty funny to read and compare to today''s gender roles. I have never shown it to DH, though...he''d probably say he wished he lived in the ''50s.

 

[lyra]

Unfortunately I know someone (relatives) my age who are actually still living within these sorts of doctrines. I swear one day she is just going to up and smash him on the head with a frying pan or something.

As for moi, hahahah! As if!

 

[Sparkles22]

I''ve never seen it before. Oh those poor women, I would have been a bad bad wife

by those standards

They are really hard to read, anyone have a link where they are a little larger?

 

[musey]

heehee! I just showed this to FI, and he said "yes, PLEASE, be 'a little bit gay' for me." (bullet point #3)

(yes, we know it meant something different back then... doesn't make it less funny, though!)

I don't feel like it's ALL bad, most of what's weird about it is how they choose to word things.

Can you imagine being expected to follow these guidelines in a society where women are ALSO expected to work?

 

[mimzy]

my FI actually GAVE me that ENTIRE COPY of good housekeeping (jnuary thru june) JUST for that one article! (it's still on my bookshelf). I had always joked that that a 50s housewife was all i really aspired to and he found that and gave it to me as a joke. it was even funnier when the picture was scanned and his face was photoshopped onto the woman and mine was photoshopped onto the man.....

 

[777_LDY]

Date: 2/21/2008 2:35:35 PM
Author: TravelingGal
This has been circulating for ages. Obviously some of the advice sounds outdated, but I know a lot of women that follow quite a few of these tips without being some kind of bassackwards house slave....

Ditto what TGal said. I don''t think there is anything wrong with trying to be a good housewife as long as you are being respected and appreciated for it. It is a tough job but a respectable one nonetheless.

TGal, I just have to say that every time I see your avatar I can''t help but think that all that head banging is going to hurt the baby, lol!!

 

[TravelingGal]

Date: 2/21/2008 3:08:20 PM
Author: 777_LDY

Date: 2/21/2008 2:35:35 PM
Author: TravelingGal
This has been circulating for ages. Obviously some of the advice sounds outdated, but I know a lot of women that follow quite a few of these tips without being some kind of bassackwards house slave....

Ditto what TGal said. I don''t think there is anything wrong with trying to be a good housewife as long as you are being respected and appreciated for it. It is a tough job but a respectable one nonetheless.

TGal, I just have to say that every time I see your avatar I can''t help but think that all that head banging is going to hurt the baby, lol!!

Nah, TTot is tough.

I''m a working woman, and I do some of the things on the list. Not because I "know my place" but because I quite simply love my husband.

 

[777_LDY]

Date: 2/21/2008 3:18:25 PM
Author: TravelingGal

Date: 2/21/2008 3:08:20 PM
Author: 777_LDY

Date: 2/21/2008 2:35:35 PM
Author: TravelingGal
This has been circulating for ages. Obviously some of the advice sounds outdated, but I know a lot of women that follow quite a few of these tips without being some kind of bassackwards house slave....

Ditto what TGal said. I don''t think there is anything wrong with trying to be a good housewife as long as you are being respected and appreciated for it. It is a tough job but a respectable one nonetheless.

TGal, I just have to say that every time I see your avatar I can''t help but think that all that head banging is going to hurt the baby, lol!!

Nah, TTot is tough.

I''m a working woman, and I do some of the things on the list. Not because I ''know my place'' but because I quite simply love my husband.

Well said... your avatar still cracks me up!

 

[777_LDY]

Date: 2/21/2008 3:35:19 PM
Author: SanDiegoLady
My husband thought it was pretty funny.. I did too. Oh golly how times have changed!

Not long before I asked for a divorce, my EX husband presented me with the book The Submissive Wife.. astonished, I told him where he could firmly stick it.

Hahaha, that''s funny!

 

[Independent Gal]

I''m with T''Gal. I would despise for this to be ''my place,'' but sometimes it''s nice to do some of these things for your guy, just because you love him. He also does things like this for me: makes me dinner and tidies up for when I get back from traveling, let''s me vent first, etc.

But the idea that women should put up with what is obviously adultery... etc. It would be interesting to know how many women died of cervical cancer (most often caused by a strain of the virus called HPV...we''re all infested with lots of different strains of it, but this particular one is transmitted sexually) because of their husbands infidelities, before pap smears became common.

 

[musey]

TGal, I think there''s a great difference between doing some of these things out of love and because it comes naturally, vs. being expected to do all of these things because a magazine (or husband, or whatever) tells you so.

The second option is what my "working woman" comment was referring to.


I love my FI, and there are many "wifely" things (like the ones on the list) that I choose to do because I like to make him happy... but I don''t think any amount of love for any man could make me "remember [that] his topics of conversation are more important than yours" or "remember that he is the master of the house."

 

[joflier]

I agree with doing small things to make him comfortable and let him know you care esp. when the favor is returned .but when it comes to not questioning him for staying out all night because he had a bad day..........hmmm......might be a slight disagreement there!

 

[ang3199]

Date: 2/21/2008 2:55:09 PM
Author: Sparkles22
I''ve never seen it before. Oh those poor women, I would have been a bad bad wife

by those standards


They are really hard to read, anyone have a link where they are a little larger?

Here is the link where it is a bit bigger. Hope it works!

http://gallery.pcapex.com/data/500/good_housekeeping1955.jpg

 

[Matata]

Yes, I do know my place and it''s on top. (for those of you with dirty little minds -- ya''ll know who you are ellen, dks -- I mean top o'' the heap, as in all powerful

)

 

[joflier]

Date: 2/21/2008 7:59:29 PM
Author: SanDiegoLady

Date: 2/21/2008 3:39:06 PM
Author: 777_LDY

Date: 2/21/2008 3:35:19 PM
Author: SanDiegoLady
My husband thought it was pretty funny.. I did too. Oh golly how times have changed!

Not long before I asked for a divorce, my EX husband presented me with the book The Submissive Wife.. astonished, I told him where he could firmly stick it.

Hahaha, that''s funny!

It was unbelievable. The more he lost control the most aggressive and abusive he got on all sorts of levels.

Loserrr

You know, I love doing little things for my husband NOW.. but its also reciprocated. I make a special pork chop dinner, he brings me pepper spray in a pink container for my key chain.. you know, it evens out. lol

Teehee - You make me giggle! I''m glad you have a good man in your life now, worthy of your porkchop dinners!

 

[FrekeChild]

HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA...(gasping for breath)...HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA!!!!!

I''m so going to be the worst wife ever if I have to follow THOSE rules.

My favorites:
1. Catering for his comfort will provide you immense personal satisfaction
2. Remember, his topics of conversation are more important than yours.
3. Take off his shoes.

HAHAHAHAHA!!!I can just picture it now:
FC: Welcome home honeycakes!
D: Uh, hi.
FC: Please sit down! Can I take your flip flops off for you? Here''s a nice cold glass of Lemonade!
D: I think I''m in the wrong house.

 

[Dreamer_D]

I love it! haha. When I got married, my mom gave me a book written in 1928 called "The Woman You Want to Be: Complete Book of Charm." It is pretty funny. My DH whips it out every once and a while to give me tips on how I should be behaving!

DD

 

[ladypirate]

Date: 2/21/2008 3:00:13 PM
Author: musey
heehee! I just showed this to FI, and he said ''yes, PLEASE, be ''a little bit gay'' for me.'' (bullet point #3)

LOL--I showed it to my bf and told him, "Don''t worry, I''m totally gay for you *wink*" I agree with some of the other posters that it''s nice to do some of these things because you love the person, but this article is SO one sided. "His topics of conversation are much more important than yours?" and "You have no right to question him?" Please. Also, I think if anyone''s shoes get taken off for them, it should be mine because they''re heels. Followed by a footrub.

 

[FrekeChild]

I showed it to BF. This is what he said, "You''re going to be a really sh*tty wife." after laughing hysterically about the "gay" comment as well as the "taking off his shoes"- to which he said, "I can take off my own flip flops, thanks."

I love him.

 

[777_LDY]

Date: 2/21/2008 7:59:29 PM
Author: SanDiegoLady

Date: 2/21/2008 3:39:06 PM
Author: 777_LDY

Date: 2/21/2008 3:35:19 PM
Author: SanDiegoLady
My husband thought it was pretty funny.. I did too. Oh golly how times have changed!

Not long before I asked for a divorce, my EX husband presented me with the book The Submissive Wife.. astonished, I told him where he could firmly stick it.

Hahaha, that''s funny!

It was unbelievable. The more he lost control the most aggressive and abusive he got on all sorts of levels.

Loserrr

You know, I love doing little things for my husband NOW.. but its also reciprocated. I make a special pork chop dinner, he brings me pepper spray in a pink container for my key chain.. you know, it evens out. lol

That''s too cute!
I''m sorry that it sounds you were once married to such a jerk. Maybe you can use that pink pepper spray on him if he ever tries to get near you again.

I happen to know the type too

(but not my DH!).

My grandmother was the epitome of the 50''s housewife, she could have written that article! If you ever asked her for any type of advise she would say "He is the King of the home and you have to treat him as such." I envy her in certain ways because there aren''t many people that could have tolerated as much as she did, and now that my grandfather has since past away it''s like she finally has a life of her own, at 84 years old! I also must add that my grandfather was never abusive though, it was just the role that she wanted in their marriage. It sure did a # on my father though.... He''s been on the search for the perfect "housewife" for decades now and has had more that a few failures!

Personally I prefer the saying Happy wife happy life! I have gone on more than a few laundry strikes over the years, DH hates that because he doesn''t know how to use the machine!

 

[LegacyGirl]

777''s my grandma is the opposite. She''s "Queen Elizabeth" (even has a pillow with that on it) and grampa has to treat her like a queen. They are quite cute and I hope I''m that happy when I''m their age.

 

[Rhea]

My husband is definitely a very good wife according to this guide. He doesn''t quite hit all the points but he gets more right than I do!

 

[777_LDY]

Oh SDL, your posts are so sincere and you seem like you must be the sweetest and most caring person IRL. No one ever deserves to be treated that way and I''m sorry you have had to deal with that. Good for you for getting out and moving on, there are so many that stay and it breaks my heart.
If you do ever happen to come in contact with him again (which I hope will never have to happen) give him a good swift kick too.

 

[rainydaze]

DKS i am sorry for your past experience and so thrilled to hear that you wanted and pursued better for yourself in life! you sound like a great person, and i hate to see great women letting not-so-great men keep ''em down! (of course, i hate to see any person let another keep them down, but specific to your situation....)

as for the article, a friend in our circle mass emailed it to everyone just recently. i think i peed my pants laughing (even though i too see nothing wrong with doing some of the nicer things on that list for my deserving DH, who reciprocates). then my DH replied to all with ''haha, now DW get off the d*mn computer and bring me a beer!''

he was kidding, of course. and still waiting for that beer.....

 

[simplysplendid]

Were suicide rates for women higher in the 50s'' ?

 

[777_LDY]

Didn''t find a pepper spray guy (I just learned how to do this today, gotta love snow days!!) but I thought that this little lady was appropriate for the thread!!!

Hehehe!!