Would you go to this bridal shower?

[freckles127]

Hi everyone,

I''m sort of in a predicament here and need some advice. My friend is having her bridal shower soon and I was invited. She''s an old HS friend but the other people invited are girls I was initally friends with but found to be very petty. I distanced myself from them eventually. The thing is, the bride to be has never done me wrong and I''ve always considered her a good friend... I don''t want to go because I feel that everyone will be sized up (sort of a HS reunion) and to make matters more complicated, I dated one of the girl''s brother which did not end well.

I have a strong feeling that my friend would take it badly if I didn''t show up. Do I suck it up and go or should I be honest with her and tell her how I feel?

Thanks in advance!

 

[Mara]

i say, just suck it up and go...the bridal shower is about her, not you.

if she is your friend then go for HER, and just try to have a good time. it's what, 2 hours out of your life? go, have fun and take the high road and just ignore any pettiness should it occur!

just my two cents!

 

[sunkist]

Yep! I say go, definitely. You are going for your friend, to support her and because she wants you there. Just smile and be polite to all the other girls!

 

[AndyRosse]

Go and be the better person

 

[aljdewey]

another vote for suck it up.

Who cares if they size you up? You don''t value what they think, so just go and have a good time and support your friend.

 

[hlmr]

Hi freckles:

Go to the shower and focus on your friend enjoying herself. Make small talk with her, any of her relatives that may be there, and any other non-sizing up guests. Hold your head up high and remember that you are there for her.

Heather

 

[jcrow]

i say go, too. besides it''s possible that nothing will happen... you may be worrying for nothing.

 

[Caribou]

Date: 3/2/2006 8:15:57 PM
Author:freckles127
Hi everyone,

I''m sort of in a predicament here and need some advice. My friend is having her bridal shower soon and I was invited. She''s an old HS friend but the other people invited are girls I was initally friends with but found to be very petty. I distanced myself from them eventually. The thing is, the bride to be has never done me wrong and I''ve always considered her a good friend... I don''t want to go because I feel that everyone will be sized up (sort of a HS reunion) and to make matters more complicated, I dated one of the girl''s brother which did not end well.

I have a strong feeling that my friend would take it badly if I didn''t show up. Do I suck it up and go or should I be honest with her and tell her how I feel?

Thanks in advance!

I would say suck it up too but in actuality I wouldn''t go. I don''t like going places that feel comfortable being at.

 

[ChargerGrrl]

Tough one. No one likes to be around people they don't care for!

But, think of it this way- how would you feel if the roles were reversed, and your friend told you she didn't want to go to your shower because of a couple of your guests?

Go, and have a FABULOUS time!

 

[XChick03]

Date: 3/2/2006 8:20:00 PM
Author: Mara
i say, just suck it up and go...the bridal shower is about her, not you.

if she is your friend then go for HER, and just try to have a good time. it''s what, 2 hours out of your life? go, have fun and take the high road and just ignore any pettiness should it occur!


just my two cents!

Yeah, I agree. Worst case scenario, you feel uncomfortable because they haven''t changed at all, so you duck out early. At least you will have made an appearance for your friend''s sake.

 

[selflove]

You should go.

I can empathize with you...I went through a similar bridal shower situation about 5 or 6 years after my HS graduation. YOu''ll survive, and like jcrow said, you may be worrying for nothing.

 

[FireGoddess]

I would go. A lot of times it''s easy to feel the way you do but it is true - the shower is about her. If those girls are still petty it might not be the most fun thing in the world, but you will never have to see them again. The wedding will likely be big enough that you won''t even have to interact with them. You should go for your friend. It''s usually never as bad as you might imagine and if it is...well...duck out after gifts and cake.

 

[cutes814]

I think you should suck it up and go too. She is your friend and she wants you to be there. The shower is a chance to show her you care and you''re there.

 

[CareBear]

I say suck it up and go! I was in a similiar situation as you with a HS friend''s wedding. Got seated at a table with some ex-friends from HS I didn''t care to see. Just say hi and keep the conversation short. Most likely you''ll be fake polite and they will be too=P I still managed to have a decent time. It won''t be so bad! Is there anyone other than the bride that you are friends with? If not, meet some new girls at the party and chat them up!

 

[rms]

you should definitely go...

 

[flopkins]

ditto everyone else... I would go, it''s about the bride, not you, or her friends, or anyhting else.

 

[Kaili]

I say suck it up too. Besides... how long has it been since high school. Sometimes People change a lot from their high school personalities. I ran into the high school bully a few years back. I wouldn''t have believed it, but he is the nicest most thoughtful guy now!! It was crazy!

 

[gingerBcookie]

yup...another vote for suck it up and go.

 

[monarch64]

Another vote for "go!"

I agree with Kaili, you may even find that your ex-friends have changed since you saw them last. OTOH, if they haven''t, you will be the bigger person for sucking it up and being there for the bride, who is also your friend, no matter what. If you can find it within yourself to suffer through a few hours of personal misery, I''m sure it would mean the world to her. If it were me, I would go and really focus on her, and how much happiness she is about to embark on in her own life. It''s kind of like paying it forward, if you know what I mean. Good luck with your decision, let us know how it goes!