Would you invite your personal trainer to your wedding?

[museikchik]

I have been working out my personal trainer since October of last year and have gotten to know her pretty well. She is really cool and down to earth. Do you think it would be too weird if I were to invite her to my wedding. I know she has a dress because she was supposed to go to a wedding but couldn't make it at the last minute. We are having a buffet so it really wouldn't matter as far as food goes. What do you all think?

 

[bee*]

I''ve been working out with my personal trainer too and I see her all the time at the gym and we have a chat but I''m not inviting her to my wedding. I think that I''d just rather leave our relationship at the gym and unless we go on other nights out etc, I wouldn''t invite her to it. I''ll show her the photos afterwards though.

 

[doodle]

I didn''t vote because I think it depends. If you have a personal relationship with your trainer outside of working out, I say go for it, but if you don''t, I wouldn''t feel obligated to invite her. Really, it''s up to you either waY--it''s not like it''d be breaking some kind of rule or something if you DID invite her, you know?

 

[iheartscience]

Date: 5/7/2009 7:30:12 AM
Author: doodle
I didn''t vote because I think it depends. If you have a personal relationship with your trainer outside of working out, I say go for it, but if you don''t, I wouldn''t feel obligated to invite her. Really, it''s up to you either waY--it''s not like it''d be breaking some kind of rule or something if you DID invite her, you know?

My thoughts exactly! Do whatever you want!

 

[meresal]

I didn't pick either of your answers, b/c I think my opinion falls inbetween. Do you hang out with her outside of the gym? Local bar? Maybe a movie or shopping?

If not, then I would not invite her. Not from a professional standpoint, just the fact that she will not know anyone there, and I would be inclined to let her bring a date to feel more comfortable. Can you afford 2 extra people?

ETA: I apologize... apparently, what I meant to say was, "Ditto" to Doodle

 

[LauraBabe08]

If you don''''t normally hang out with her outside the gym, then I would not invite her.

I did not invite my personal trainer to my wedding, even though we did get to know eachother pretty well chatting at the gym. In the end, I see her as another "wedding vendor" and not really an actual friend. My wedding was small, and I only invited people that I know I will still talk to years from now.

 

[lurkinglurker]

I invited mine and he was great fun! But my personal trainer is a gay man and I had plenty of room to invite both him and his partner. I''m so glad I did because I had a lot of fun dancing with them. We don''t hang out outside of the gym, but I wanted him to be there because he''d listened to me talk about the wedding for a year and we are continuing our sessions now, post-wedding. Sso again, I got to do the post-wedding chat with him.

There was definitely no awkwardness for me in inviting him - maybe just base your decision on that.

 

[Elmorton]

I did not invite mine, but by the time I ended my sessions with her, I did feel really close to her - I got her a g.c to a bookstore (we often talked about books) and she gave me a book as a parting gift (which I was very surprised by).

I do remember my trainer mentioned being invited to parties hosted by her other clients (though the same clients worked for the same employer as her husband, so it might have been a social circle thing), so I don''t think it''s entirely unprofessional, but I did vote "No" to inviting your trainer. Unless you feel like a friend (would invite her out to something like a housewarming or bbq), I think it would be strange to invite her to your wedding.

 

[Jen_91909]

Agree with many of the others that it depends if your relationship extends beyond the gym. If you''ve never spoken on the phone or hung out outside of when she''s training you then it could be a bit strange to ask her.
I don''t have really strong feelings either way on this one; I have some "borderline" people myself I''m trying to decide on.