Would you prefer a comfy cozy just you and SO proposal or a public announcement!?

[hisspecialk]

I was just thinking about a question that my SO has now asked me a total of 3 times (DUH) - my answer isn''t going to change. . but he asks how i feel about a proposal with family and friends and I feel that the moment should be a private moment between my SO and I. . .then we can bring others in after we have shared our joy with each other. . .

Where do you guys stand on this topic??

 

[missy]

My dh proposed to me and just for me with no audience and that is what I prefer. In fact, we kept it to ourselves for the whole day and didn't inform family or friends till the next day and thereafter.

It really depends on your personality as to which you prefer and I don't think there is a right or wrong way, but for me, the proposal was intimate and romantic and I wouldn't have changed a thing. I would have hated having an audience.

 

[babycush]

Definitely just the two of us.

He''s been threatened... I mean warned... I mean lovingly asked

...not to do anything ostentatious.

 

[blacksand]

I''m a little torn, because I definitely want the proposal to be just the two of us, but I know I''ll want to run and tell my family immediately afterward. I''ve thought from time to time that it might be nice to be proposed to at a family gathering, but off to the side where we can talk privately. Then we could cry and hug and kiss and then run over and tell everyone and celebrate! I do love being surrounded by family. But knowing my boyfriend, it will probably be very private. He blushes if I kiss him in public!

 

[RaiKai]

Comfy and cosy!

Indeed I was all comfy and cosy in our bed when he asked. Unfortunately he was in the midst of being admitted into the emergency room in a hospital in an entirely different province! He asked by text message.

I flew out the next day and we confirmed it in one of the patient lounges at the hospital (just us). And we each asked many times after that...always in a private moment. Heck we still do - now we just remind one another we already are married after we say yes!

I would not change a thing about the proposal. We did not start telling our family and such until a couple days later.

I am not into the over the top public proposal personally. Just not my thing.

 

[missy]

And we each asked many times after that...always in a private moment. Heck we still do - now we just remind one another we already are married after we say yes!

LOL We do this too. My dh always asks will you marry me and then I answer, too late we already are or sorry, I'm already married

 

[4ever]

I choose not to have a preference either way. I was already a control freak about the ring and went with him to pick one out so I''m just gonna let him do whatever he wants with the proposal. As long as he says the words and has the ring with him to show it was planned and he actually means it, then it''s all good with me. I don''t want to have any expectaions so I''m not dissapointed if he dosn''t do it the "right" way.

 

[RaiKai]

Date: 4/14/2010 7:23:40 PM
Author: missy

And we each asked many times after that...always in a private moment. Heck we still do - now we just remind one another we already are married after we say yes!

LOL We do this too. My dh always asks will you marry me and then I answer, too late we already are or sorry, I''m already married

Hee hee.

Same here. Our responses depend on how playful or silly or sentimental or emotional we are feeling at the time.

I love that he still asks (and I like asking him). It is fun having those *little things* between you even if a little geeky. I imagine you enjoy it too!

 

[princesss]

Just us.

 

[lilyfoot]

Definitely private!

That''s how FI proposed to me .. it was just me, him, and our dogs

, in our bedroom. I wouldn''t change a single thing about how it happened.

We stayed up for a few more hours, went to sleep, then told friends and family we got engaged in the late morning of the next day. It was nice to have that time where we were the only 2 in the world who knew we were engaged.

 

[HappyNewLife]

My SO if VERY private and would HATE HATE HATE to get engaged in public, let alone on camera. So, it will be just us and that''s fine with me

 

[DuckLovingVegan]

I prefer it to be private also. I don''t like being the center of attention with everyone staring at me I get embarrassed. My b/f already knows I prefer this so now all I have to do it wait.

 

[stepcutgirl]

Date: 4/14/2010 7:05:02 PM
Author: babycush
Definitely just the two of us.


He''s been threatened... I mean warned... I mean lovingly asked

...not to do anything ostentatious.

+1

 

[Blackpaw]

another one for comfy and cosy

i dont like the idea of public attention at all...

 

[SAPHIRINA]

Definitely private. FI proposed when it was just the two of us. We didn''t tell anyone until the day after the proposal - we wanted that private time together when just the two of us know that we are engaged. It was wonderful!

 

[beezygal]

I would want a private proposal too. Just me and him. We can enjoy the moment with hugs, kisses and probably tears. I think he'll want to do it privately too (I hope) because we don't like showing PDA normally.

 

[legallyspoiled]

4ever:

Smart girl! That way you can't be disappointed!

If I HAD to make a choice, it would be something private. However, I definitely wouldn't mind being surrounded by and sharing the moment with my closest friends and family. My last choice would be somewhere public. But I don't care where he proposes...my answer will still be YES!

 

[PumpkinPie]

We had a small proposal just the two of us and it was exactly right

 

[misskitty]

I think I''d be okay with having friends & family around...to me, it''s not so much about being the center of attention as it is having an immediate opportunity to share our good news with our nearest and dearest.

 

[Echidna]

Date: 4/14/2010 6:49:12 PM
Author: missy
My dh proposed to me and just for me with no audience and that is what I prefer. In fact, we kept it to ourselves for the whole day and didn''t inform family or friends till the next day and thereafter.

It really depends on your personality as to which you prefer and I don''t think there is a right or wrong way, but for me, the proposal was intimate and romantic and I wouldn''t have changed a thing. I would have hated having an audience.

Ditto every word (except that he''s still my FI)!

 

[HopeDream]

I just want to be proposed to

 

[monkeyprincess]

No matter how he proposes, I''m sure you''ll think it is perfect. He obviously knows you well if you''re planning on getting married, so I''m sure he''ll know just how to do it. My proposal was perfect for me because it was just my fiance and me at his house after he made a nice dinner on New Year''s Eve (he wanted to wait until midnight but proposed at 11:00 because I was starting to fall asleep on the couch). I would have hated the proposal to be in front of anyone else or in a public place, and no offense to anyone else, but I would have been MORTIFIED if he had proposed in bed or something because I wouldn''t want to repeat that story. But for some people, that is their idea of a perfect proposal, which is my whole point - however your boyfriend proposes will be just perfect for you.

 

[babycush]

Date: 4/15/2010 9:09:51 AM
Author: monkeyprincess
I would have hated the proposal to be in front of anyone else or in a public place, and no offense to anyone else, but I would have been MORTIFIED if he had proposed in bed or something because I wouldn''t want to repeat that story.

Yeah... the first time he asked me was in bed, after being intimate. I had specifically asked him NOT TO DO THAT!!! I want to tell our kids one day, and that is definitely not appropriate for any family''s ears. I think he has selective hearing and must only have heard "...bed...sex... proposal..."

That''s why I''m still waiting on my ''official'' proposal

 

[merbear1215]

4ever!! Totally totally totally agree with you. Makes me feel good to think someone else may be a little controlling too

 

[CourtLynB]

I''m usually a very self conscious person so I''d want it to be private, just the two of us and maybe our dogs. I"m thinking hopefully out on the boat or down at the beach (can you tell I''m also hoping for this sumer? hehe). We can have our moment, then go and tell our family and friends (which will become a huge production).

But I''ve been reading a lot of the proposals over in that forum and I told the BF about one I read where the guy did it at Fenway up on the big screen. We''re Yankee fans, so he was like "so, i guess i can''t do it at the stadium" and I didn''t say No, i just said "well, then you''ll have to actually take me to a game this season!" Part of me would love all that attention and I wouldn''t mind because it''s all strangers who I''d never see again. If I did/said something stupid in front of friends and family, I''d never live it down!

On a cute side note: The BF and I had only been dating maybe 7 months when we want to this place called The Oar House for dinner one night. It''s decorated with all these old boat oars that have sayings or different stuff on them. I looked up at one of the ones over our table and it said "Courtney, will you marry me?" I pointed it out to the BF and he laughed and pretended to reach for a ring box. I swear I turned beet red because for a split second I thought he was serious. But we laughed and he said he''d be coming back to buy that and I''d one day find that on the boat, waiting for me.

 

[beezygal]

Date: 4/15/2010 10:38:20 AM
Author: CourtLynB
I'm usually a very self conscious person so I'd want it to be private, just the two of us and maybe our dogs. I'm thinking hopefully out on the boat or down at the beach (can you tell I'm also hoping for this sumer? hehe). We can have our moment, then go and tell our family and friends (which will become a huge production).

But I've been reading a lot of the proposals over in that forum and I told the BF about one I read where the guy did it at Fenway up on the big screen. We're Yankee fans, so he was like 'so, i guess i can't do it at the stadium' and I didn't say No, i just said 'well, then you'll have to actually take me to a game this season!' Part of me would love all that attention and I wouldn't mind because it's all strangers who I'd never see again. If I did/said something stupid in front of friends and family, I'd never live it down!

On a cute side note: The BF and I had only been dating maybe 7 months when we want to this place called The Oar House for dinner one night. It's decorated with all these old boat oars that have sayings or different stuff on them. I looked up at one of the ones over our table and it said 'Courtney, will you marry me?' I pointed it out to the BF and he laughed and pretended to reach for a ring box. I swear I turned beet red because for a split second I thought he was serious. But we laughed and he said he'd be coming back to buy that and I'd one day find that on the boat, waiting for me.

Beach proposal would be so romantic. I would want it to be at night. Long walk on the beach with a little privacy.

Your bf is so sweet.

 

[Anonymous]

My FI asked me this a few times too while he was thinking of different proposal ideas. Ultimately we''re both pretty private, but not so much that we couldn''t show our true emotions in public. I said as long as it wasn''t something he did in an "announcement" type of thing (think on stage karaoke, etc. which is TOTALLY not our style anyhow), I''d be fine. I wanted to make sure that the actual moment was ours, even with other people around.

He decided to propose with only a few people we didn''t know around (on a sunset cruise) which turned out perfect. I wouldn''t have wanted it any other way.

There were three other families/couples, one of which was incorporated (spontaneously, they didn''t know it was coming) by him having them take our picture...then he got down on one knee and asked me. We have some GREAT photos of the proposal with our genuine "in the moment" smiles with the Golden Gate Bridge in the background.

I know that''s not for everyone, but I loved it. I wouldn''t have if there were 50 people there, or anyone that we''d have to engage in conversation for more than a few minutes though. It was nice to have the pictures, a couple of minutes of conversation, then our own time to cuddle together on the bow of the boat and share our happiness.

 

[verypatientlywaiting]

I prefer a private proposal vs. a public one, though I wouldn''t mind if a few people we didn''t know were around. I don''t know...I think it would make it that much more exciting to tell our family & friends if we were the only ones who knew about it first.

 

[hisspecialk]

What about if your SO just wanted a couple of specific family members there. . like his mother and bro/sis. . .??

 

[anela]

In a perfect world, my bf would propose to me when we''re alone, while visiting home. That way, it''d be an intimate moment between just the two of us, yet we can tell our friends and family in person the next day.