Would you put your wedding off...

[Maisie]

.....for an extra year if it meant you could have the dress of your dreams? Its not just about the dress, its also so we can pay more for rings, stay in a nicer hotel etc.

We are just renewing our vows but we really want to do it big!

It would mean putting it off till summer 2010. We were supposed to do this next summer. We want to do it in New York.

I don''t really mind waiting. I am just curious to know what you would do

 

[glamourgirl]

I think if it meant getting what you want or what''s important for you to enjoy the day than I think it''s okay. I''m doing that for my wedding and I too extended it for another year. I think an extra year is a good amount of time to do it. You don''t want to have regrets so you might as well do it like you want to.

 

[Maisie]

Hi Glamourgirl

I think we just want to glam things up again for our renewal. We want great photos and blingy rings and an all round fabulous day. We just don''t want to try and save that kind of money within a year.

Have you decided where you want to get married? How much have you already planned?

 

[Tacori E-ring]

I would wait. If a year makes a big difference on the amount of money you can and want to spend that''s a big deal! A year will go by quickly.

 

[basil]

For my wedding, I wouldn''t wait. I just want to be married.

For a renewal, I''d probably wait, if that would mean I could have the day of my dreams!

 

[bee*]

Date: 2/24/2008 4:56:20 PM
Author: basil
For my wedding, I wouldn''t wait. I just want to be married.


For a renewal, I''d probably wait, if that would mean I could have the day of my dreams!

Yeah I agree with basil. Even if I had to cut tons of things from my wedding next year, I would do it as I just want to be married to D. For my renewal, I would definitely wait and save up for the finer things so it can be amazing!!

 

[Maisie]

Thanks ladies. Its good to know I didn't make a silly decision!

I definitely wouldn't have waited if it had been our wedding. A posh dress and a blingin ring probably wouldn't have gone across to the in laws as a good reason to postpone! In some ways I wish this was our wedding, I don't have great memories of the day. Never mind though - our renewal will be wonderful!

 

[bee*]

You''ll definitely have amazing memories of the renewal-NY is fab! I do think that you''re making the right decision though-NY is so much better if you have a bit of money to go shopping and to splash out on a nice hotel etc.

 

[gtn]

Date: 2/24/2008 4:56:20 PM
Author: basil
For my wedding, I wouldn''t wait. I just want to be married.


For a renewal, I''d probably wait, if that would mean I could have the day of my dreams!

ditto.

 

[Maisie]

Hehe I totally agree Bee! It would kill me to go there and be too skint to buy anything nice!!!

Thank you for your input gtn

 

[Gypsy]

I was faced with a similar decision a couple of years ago, and we put it off. I''m glad we did. Things feel RIGHT now. So yes, I would Maisie.

I just wouldn''t do it a second time. THIS wedding is HAPPENING man.

 

[Maisie]

Definitely don''t put it off again!!! You are so ready for it this time!!!

 

[tberube]

It depends on what''s important to you, and how long you are willing to wait. If you must have that over-the-top dress or that expensive venue, or you really want to wait until you''re out of medical school, then great! Save and wait for the right time.

As for me, it''s about the day, the dress, the rings, sure. But mostly, it''s about having FI as my husband. I have waited a long time for this. I''ll be 29 when I walk down the aisle, I can''t wait to be married, so putting off the wedding would KILL me!!

 

[Harleigh]

I agree with everyone else, Maisie! I say save your money so you can have the blingiest, best-dressed renewal ceremony EVER!

And then you can come back and show us all of your beautiful pictures of your special day!!! Hooray!

 

[brazen_irish_hussy]

I would and I did.
My FI and I became engaged while I was living in Ireland in Spetember of 2006 and we did not get back to the states until Jan of 07. Between the distance and the time crunch once we got back, we would not have had the wedding we wanted so we decided to wait a year and are getting married this Sep. I lived with my FI before this and since the engagement so there was no rush for marriage there.

 

[DMBFiredancer]

i would. we have been living together for 5 years already and decided to wait until summer ''09 when my FI is done with school (he is so busy right now and will be this summer that he doesnt have time to be involved much in planning....he would like to be, though)

the only thing for me that i worry about with waiting is my fear that something could happen to any of our parents or relatives before then . i know thats a horrible thought but i''ve finally calmed down about that and realized that anything could happen at ANY time...tomorrow, this year, next year, whenever and that i just need to relax and take life as it comes.

 

[diamondfan]

A renewal is a lovely thing, but I think you can control that more. So yes, I would, if it really made a big difference in what you could do. I mean, you are already married! So give yourselves a bit more time. PS I think that is really a nice idea!

 

[cellososweet]

i would, and i did, put it off for a year to make it fantastic. we were married in court bc our wedding didn''t work out for financial reasons and were sick to death of planning. we waited a year a half and are renewing our vows in may. it''s gonna be beautiful. i have the dress i always wanted, the lighting, all the great stuff i didn''t get the first time round. i''m so grateful! it''ll be beautiful no matter when you do it, but i vote for making it fabulous!

 

[ringster]

sure esp if it is a renewal ceremony as your is. if had already waited, i wouldn''t mind waiting a bit more to make sure it was the event that i really wanted.

sounds like it is going to be wonderful maisie!

 

[D2B]

For a renewal definately. You have all the time in the world to make it the wedding of both your dreams

Cant wait to see the photos when it happens

D2B

 

[anchor31]

We''re already having a 2-year engagement, so there''s no way I''d put it off. I want to be married now, ya know? But if I was married, I probably wouldn''t mind putting off the renewal.

 

[becoming_sadie]

Absolutely! I would rather wait a year and do what I really want rather than settle and do it sooner.

 

[lauralu]

If it feels right to wait, than wait. You have a vision for your renewel and if that vision is not right, than why do it? I say wait until you can do it the way you want it to be. Renewels are special on a different level than a wedding is. As important, just different. Good luck and get what you want so you can have your dreams come true a 2nd time....

 

[SarahLovesJS]

Hmm..wedding probably not, maybe though. Commitment ceremony, sure! Make sure you get what you want. Yaay we'd have similar dates, I'll be spring 2010!

ETA: I am kind of foggy headed, so by commitment ceremony I meant vow renewal. I have no idea how I got commitment ceremony out of vow renewal.

 

[Maisie]

2010 seems like a long way off, but it will definitely be worth it. And I am sure there will be lots of brides to be getting married then so we can all share the journey.... although my planning won''t be as in depth as a whole wedding

 

[Maisie]

Date: 2/25/2008 10:37:28 AM
Author: SarahLovesJS
Hmm..wedding probably not, maybe though. Commitment ceremony, sure! Make sure you get what you want. Yaay we'd have similar dates, I'll be spring 2010!

ETA: I am kind of foggy headed, so by commitment ceremony I meant vow renewal. I have no idea how I got commitment ceremony out of vow renewal.

Woohoo!! at least I am not the only one waiting such a long time!!!

 

[Gypsy]

Date: 2/24/2008 6:44:09 PM
Author: Maisie
Definitely don''t put it off again!!! You are so ready for it this time!!!

LOL. Heck or high water, and I''m TOTALLY ready for it this time. You''re right.

I think you are making the right choice for yourself though. If you''re gonna do it, so it RIGHT with all the bells and whistles. It''s gonna be amazing when it happens.

 

[Maisie]

Date: 2/25/2008 12:33:57 PM
Author: Gypsy

Date: 2/24/2008 6:44:09 PM
Author: Maisie
Definitely don''t put it off again!!! You are so ready for it this time!!!

LOL. Heck or high water, and I''m TOTALLY ready for it this time. You''re right.

I think you are making the right choice for yourself though. If you''re gonna do it, so it RIGHT with all the bells and whistles. It''s gonna be amazing when it happens.

I am really looking forward to seeing your wedding photos!!!

Its amazing how changing the date has lifted our worries about the day. We know what we want and extending it an extra year means we can have everything!

I haven''t tried my dream dress on yet, it was always out of our price range and the closest shop is two hours drive away. I may not even like it on me, but at least the option is now there. And if its not the one, I have a whole lot more choice now the budget is higher!!

Here is the dress:

 

[Gypsy]

Oh Masie what a GORGEOUS gown!!! I love it! Who makes it? It''s so... The King and I (notthe newer version). So classic and timeless and elegant. WOW.

I''m so glad the extension has eased your stress. This is a happy thing, a celebration!!! So, anything that reduces stress is a major plus in my book!

 

[Maisie]

You are so right Gypsy! Its going to be a very happy time! Just a shame there won''t be any guests! We chose to go on our own as its about us two and not a big family thing. We already did that. I just think it would have been nice to have a girlfriend with me, for when I go for my hair/makeup/nails done. Gary said he will go with me but its not really the same is it?

The dress is by Caroline Castigliano. Here is a link to her website